Hello, my name is Miss Willow, and I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called "Building Strong Friendships," and it fits into the unit Healthy Relationships: How can I be a great friend?" During this lesson, we're going to be talking a little bit about peer pressure and bullying, so we recommend you have an adult with you for the duration of this lesson.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen, and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start on today's learning.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to describe how to build strong friendships.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.

First of all, we have Laura.

Laura says that we need to listen to others.

This means we are not going to interrupt other people if they're speaking.

Andeep says we need to respect each other's privacy.

This means we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Jacob says no judgement.

This means that if someone chooses to share a story or an experience, we're not going to judge them for it.

And finally, Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

This means it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We're now going to go through the keywords for today's learning.

These are gonna pop up quite a few times in today's lesson, so it's important that we have a good understanding of what each word means.

First of all, we have green flag.

A green flag is a sign that a relationship is healthy.

Respect, this means treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas, and boundaries.

For example, listening carefully and being polite even if you disagree.

Celebrate, this means to praise someone for who they are or something that they've done.

And finally, maintain.

In this context, this means putting in effort to keep a relationship healthy and working.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called, what are the traits of a positive friendship? And our second learning cycle is called, how can we build strong friendships? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle.

What are the traits of a positive friendship? Having good friends can be lots of fun.

We can play together.

We can talk to each other.

What things do you like to do with your friends? Have a think or tell the people around you, or you might want to tell me.

Strong friendships have certain positive traits.

These are called green flags.

And remember, this was one of our key words.

A friendship with lots of green flags is likely to be a healthy and positive relationship.

Some green flags of a positive friendship include caring about and sharing respect to each other, being able to be yourself around them and not trying to pretend to be someone that you're not, feeling listened to and appreciated, that they really value you as a friend, supporting each other even when things go wrong.

Laura says every friendship is different, but a positive friendship should always feel safe and supportive and ake us happy too.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you are doing so far.

Which of these are green flags? A, a friend who always listens to your ideas, B, a friend who is always too busy to listen to how you feel, or C, a friend who always respects your personal space.

Which of these are green flags? Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that A and C are correct.

Some green flags include a friend who always listens to your ideas and a friend who always respects your personal space.

A friend who is always too busy to listen to how you feel would be an example of a red flag.

This means that it's a sign that your friendship might not be healthy.

Well done if you said the same thing.

Good friends accept and celebrate each other.

It's important to accept our friends how they are, and we're not going to try to change who they are.

Alex wants to share his story.

"My friends and I don't always want to do the same things, and we sometimes have different opinions too.

We accept each other by always listening to what each other has to say without putting pressure on anyone to change who they are or what they think." We celebrate our friends when we not only accept our friends for who they are, but we praise them for who they are too.

Izzy says, "Good friends are enthusiastic about each other's differences because they know that differences among friends are a positive thing.

We're able to learn from each other's ideas, skills, and experiences, and this makes the world a better and more interesting place." We can celebrate our friends in lots of different ways.

Alex says, "My friend Andeep is Sikh.

I celebrate him by joining in with Sikh holidays and celebrations." And Aisha says, "My friend Amina is deaf.

I celebrate her by learning sign language so we can chat and laugh together." When we celebrate our friends, we're being enthusiastic about their differences.

We're not trying to change who they are and we're not trying to make them feel bad because they might be different to us.

Instead, we're celebrating that being different is a really good thing.

In any friendship, it's typical for friends to have some disagreements.

However, in a positive and healthy friendship, arguing doesn't happen very often.

Both people still show respect to each other even if they've had a disagreement.

They listen to how each other feels and they work together to find a solution.

Let's do another check for understanding.

Which of these show green flags in a friendship.

The first person says, "My friend talks over me a lot of the time and says that I have silly ideas.

Sometimes we play together, but we argue a lot and I don't feel like I can be myself around him." The second person says, "My friend and I have had a disagreement.

We've talked about it and she showed respect by listening to me.

Normally, we have lots of fun together and we don't argue very often." Which of these show green flags in a friendship? Can you decide? Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that the second person shows green flags in a friendship.

The green flags in this statement is that they might have had a disagreement, but they're both still showing respect to each other.

Normally, they've had lots of fun, and they don't argue very often.

These are all green flags.

The first person, unfortunately, has some red flags.

Their friend talks over them a lot of the time and makes them sound silly for having different ideas.

Even though they play together sometimes, they argue a lot, and they don't feel like they can be themselves around him.

These are all red flags which suggest that the friendship isn't healthy.

Let's move on to our first practise task.

You've done a brilliant job so far.

Well done.

For the first part of this task, I'd like you to decide, does this scenario show a positive friendship? I'd like you to explain your answer to your partner.

Here's the scenario.

My friend says that I need to like the music she likes and that we need to do everything together to be friends.

She compliments me sometimes, but other times makes me feel guilty if I don't agree with her.

She says that friends should have the same opinions and enjoy the same things.

What do you think? Does this scenario show a positive friendship? I'd like you to explain your answer to your partner.

Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that this is not a positive friendship because the friend isn't showing respect.

A good friend would not try to pressure someone to change who they are and their interests, like their music.

It's not true that friends should always have the same opinions and enjoy the same things.

Differences among friends is a good thing and should be celebrated.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

Okay, you've done a brilliant job in the first part of this practise task.

We are now moving on to the second part.

Can you rewrite this scenario to show what a positive friendship could look like? Here's the scenario again.

My friend says that I need to like the music she likes and that we need to do everything together to be friends.

She compliments me sometimes, but other times makes me feel guilty if I don't agree with her.

She says that friends should have the same opinions and enjoy the same things.

Can you rewrite this scenario to show what a positive friendship could look like? Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

Your rewritten scenario could say, my friend accepts that we like different music, and that we don't need to do everything together.

She always celebrates our differences and respects me when we disagree with each other.

She says that it's good for friends to not always have the same opinions and enjoy doing the same things as then we can learn from each other and try new things.

Well done if you had this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our second learning cycle, and you've done a brilliant job so far.

Well done.

This learning cycle is called How can we build strong friendships? What do you think about what Jacob says? Jacob says, "A good friendship requires no effort.

If a friendship is good, it should be easy and we shouldn't need to do anything to maintain it." What do you think? You might want to tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Okay, well done if you said that Jacob is incorrect.

In any friendship, we need to put in work to build and maintain it.

It's even more important to put effort and work into a good friendship so that it stays strong and positive.

Well done if you said something similar.

Building and maintaining strong friendships requires respect, effort, and care.

We often need to make time to see and talk to our friends, ask them how they are, consider how they feel, and we may need to compromise.

This means that we come to an agreement where everyone is happy.

It's not always easy to build or maintain a friendship, but it's important to do these things so that our friends feel appreciated.

Our friends feel appreciated when we show that their friendship means a lot to us, and that we really value it.

Connecting with others can also mean taking time to learn, to be curious, to challenge our own beliefs, and to accept other people's differences.

Aisha says, "Before I was friends with Mia, I didn't know how best to include her in our games because of her autism.

Since being friends with her, I've what games she likes to play, and I've gained a great new friend too." Let's do a check for understanding.

This time, I'd like you to decide if the statement is true or false.

A good friendship requires no effort.

Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that we all need to put in work to build and maintain friendships.

Connecting with other people takes time, curiosity, and acceptance of differences.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

Listening is a really important part of a strong friendship.

We need to listen to learn how our friends think and feel, to show our friends that we care about them, to know what our friends need, for example, someone just to listen to them or someone to offer advice.

Sam says, "To listen properly, we need to focus on what our friend is saying and to think about how they're feeling.

It's important to not rush our friends when they're talking." Sometimes it can be hard to hear what our friend has to say.

They might be saying something that we disagree with or they might be upset about something that we've said or done.

It's important to try to see things from their perspective so that we can solve the problem together.

Aarnav says, "It's okay to need some space before listening to a friend, or to say that we can't listen if we feel upset or overwhelmed.

We should tell our friend when we're able to listen to them, and we can ask a trusted adult for support." It's important to remember that a strong friendship will have both people putting in effort.

It's everyone's responsibility to maintain a friendship by listening and putting in time and effort.

Aarnav says, "It can be upsetting if we feel like we are the only one putting in effort into a friendship.

Maybe we're the only ones asking how the other person is or wanting to spend time together.

If you feel this way, it's important to talk to your friend about how you feel, or you can speak to a trusted adult for support.

Let's do another check for understanding.

Can you decide which scenario shows being a good listener? A, when I'm listening, I pay attention to what my friend is saying and how they're feeling.

I make sure not to rush them.

Or B, when I'm listening, I think about how to respond to my friend and how they're making me feel while I'm waiting for them to finish.

Which scenario shows a good listener? Can you decide? Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that scenario A is correct.

Scenario A shows a good listener because they're paying attention to what their friend is saying and how they're feeling, and they're making sure not to rush them.

This person is being a great listener.

It's important that when we listen to other people, that we focus on what they're saying and what they're feeling, and we don't rush them so that they don't feel like they have to finish quickly.

Well done if you've said this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our final practise task.

Well done for your hard work so far.

For this last practise task, I'd like you to give Jun three pieces of advice on how he can build strong friendships.

Jun says, "I've been finding it hard to build strong friendships recently." I find it hard to know what green flags to look for and how to be a good listener.

I'd also like to know what it means to put effort into maintaining a friendship.

Can you give Jen three piece of advice on how he can build strong friendships? Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that Jun should know that he should look for green flags like respect, feeling cared for, and listened to, and being able to be himself around his friends.

He can be a good listener by focusing on what his friend says and thinking about how they feel.

Putting effort into maintaining a friendship means being willing to make time for our friends, being curious and celebrating our friends' differences.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

We're now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that strong and positive friendships have lots of green flags, such as caring for and showing respect to each other.

Good friends accept and celebrate each other's differences and know that differences among friends is a positive thing.

Building and maintaining strong friendships requires putting in effort such as making time for each other and listening to how each other feels.

And it's important that everyone in the friendship feels like everyone is putting in effort to maintain the friendship.

Listening to friends is an important part of being able to maintain a friendship.

We can do this by focusing on what our friend is saying and thinking about how they feel.

In today's lesson, you might have found you've got some worries or some questions.

If you do, it's really important that you share these with a trusted adult.

There's also some organisations on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for your fantastic hard work in today's lesson.

I'm really proud of you and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.