Lesson video

Hello and welcome to our next lesson in the unit of work, respectful relationships.

In this lesson, we will learn about how conflict and disagreement within friendships or relationships can be resolved, and the benefits of successfully resolving these conflicts.

This lesson covers some content which might be a sensitive topic for you.

We recommend checking with a trusted adult before starting, or having a trusted adult nearby whilst you complete the lesson.

So, if you're ready, let's get started.

For this lesson you will need an exercise book or paper and a pen to write with.

If you need to go and collect that equipment now, do so, and press play when you're ready to resume.

So, what is the agenda for today's lesson? Well, we will start by discussing what types of conflicts can happen in a relationship.

We will then look at how we can resolve these conflicts, and the benefits of doing this.

We will end with a reflection and an exit quiz.

Our key words for today's lesson are, conflict, a serious disagreement or argument between people.

Reconciliation, restoration of friendly relations.

And finally friendships, a state of mutual trust and support between people.

We will start by looking at what might cause a conflict in a relationship.

I would like you to pause the video and consider this question.

To start you off, one idea might be that changing interests might cause conflict in a friendship.

Pause the video and see if you can add any other ideas to your list.

Press play when you're ready to compare our answers.

Shall we compare our lists? What other things did you write down for what might cause conflict in a friendship? So we started with the idea that changing interests might cause conflict, and other things that you might have in your list, or you might wish to add are, new people, jealousy, one person giving more time than the other, and miscommunication.

I would like you to pause the video and make sure that you have these five things written down.

You will need them for the next activity.

Pause the video now and press play when you're ready to proceed.

For this activity, I would like you to create some scenarios that can go with our causes of conflict.

Let's do one together.

So if we take changing interests, our example might be: Aisha and Zoya or friends.

Zoya has started to take part in the drama club after school, but Aisha has no interest in acting and doesn't want to attend.

She is upset though, because Zoya has started to make new and more outgoing friends.

As you can see in my example, this is a possible scenario with the cause of conflict being changing interests.

You are now going to pause the video and create four more possible scenarios to go with those other causes of conflict that you wrote down from the previous slide.

Press play when you're ready to carry on.

We shall now discuss how we can resolve these conflicts.

If you need to resolve a situation in a relationship or friendship, these might be some good places to start.

You may wish to start by apologising if you are in the wrong.

Discussing ways to de-escalate the conflict.

Listening and acknowledging each other's views.

Clarifying views and opinions, and accepting the consequences of your actions.

One way to do all of these things is to organise a restorative practise meeting with a trusted adult.

I'm now going to talk you through the benefits of a restorative practise meeting, and how they are normally structured.

The first part of a restorative practise meeting is respect, showing respect by listening and valuing the opinions during the meeting.

The second important part is taking responsibility, taking responsibility for your own actions.

Next, a restorative practise meeting should repair, repair harm and ensure that the behaviour is not repeated.

There may be a consequence set out for any further actions.

And finally, during a restorative practise meeting, you should discuss re-integration, working through a structured, supportive process that aims to solve the problems and help everyone reach a positive outcome.

To summarise, a restorative practise meeting includes, respect, responsibility, repair and re-integration.

A restorative practise meeting should be organised by trusted adults, as it is important to have a person not directly involved in the conflict, as they can stay neutral.

The purpose is to repair harm and rebuild relationships, and it can be very effective if it is done correctly.

Pause the video now and write down the full Rs of a restorative practise meeting.

We shall now complete another task.

I would like you to plan how you think a restorative practise meeting might look for one of the scenarios that you planned at the beginning of the lesson.

Let's have a look at an example together first.

If we take this example scenario of Aisha and Zoya finding that the changing interest is causing conflict in their relationship.

They might ask a trusted adult to organise a restorative practise meeting.

This trusted adults will be able to stay neutral during the meeting, and hopefully repair and reintegrate their friendship.

The meeting should start with respect.

Both girls will have agreed at the beginning that they will listen and value each other's opinions.

They will next speak to each other, with Zoya recognising how she is making Aisha feel, and with Aisha recognising that it is important for Zoya to have new friends.

Both students will have the opportunity to apologise to each other.

And finally, they will both have an opportunity to spend some time together, and to have a positive experience.

With this example in mind, I would like you now to choose one of your scenarios and create a possible restorative practise meeting.

What would it look like using those four Rs, respect, recognise, repair and reintegration.

Pause the video now and complete this activity, press play when you're ready to carry on.

We shall now look at the benefits of resolving conflicts.

Can you think of any benefits? When you resolve a conflict, it can mean that you strengthen the relationship with yourself and the other person, and it can be seen that parties understand more about the other person and themselves as a result of a resolved conflict.

Let's take our example of Aisha and Zoya.

Zoya may have had no idea that Aisha was actually feeling left out.

And after the restorative practise meeting, Aisha maybe more understanding as to why Zoya attends the drama club, and be more supportive of her friend's new talent.

It is therefore really important that you do try to resolve conflicts.

Remember, conflicts are happening all the time and it is okay to apologise and move on.

Let's end the lesson with a reflection.

It is natural to experience conflicts in a friendship or relationship.

It is possible to resolve those conflicts and a restorative practise meeting is an excellent format to use.

And finally, the benefits of resolving conflicts include helping others understand more.

I have been Mrs. Smith.

Thank you so much for joining me in this lesson.

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Thank you again, goodbye.