Lesson video

Hi, my name is Mrs. Smith, and welcome to this unit of work, Respectful Relationships.

In this lesson, we will learn about different criminal behaviours that could take place in a relationship.

We will also discuss some of the myths and facts surrounding abuse in a relationship.

This lesson does cover some content that might be a sensitive topic for you.

We therefore recommend checking with a trusted adult before you begin or completing the lesson with a trusted adult nearby.

If you're ready, then let's get started.

For this lesson, you will need an exercise book and paper, and also a pen to write with.

If you need to go and collect that equipment now, do so, and press play when you're ready to carry on.

Our agenda for today's lesson looks like this.

We will start by looking at the definitions of assault and sexual assault.

We will then discuss stalking, harassment, and blackmail, as well as how to respond to this.

We will finish with a reflection and exit quiz.

Our key words for today's lesson include: assault, a physical attack or unwanted physical contact on a person; harassment, a pattern of obsessive behaviour which is repeated, intrusive, and causes fear of violence or distress in the victim; and blackmail, threatening to reveal embarrassing or damaging information about someone unless they make payment or follow demands.

Let us begin the lesson with some myths and facts surrounding criminal behaviours in a relationship.

Is this statement true or false? Relationship abuse happens when one person hurts or bullies another person with whom they are in a relationship.

Point to the screen now.

So this statement is true.

Abuse is when someone is treated with cruelty or violence, regularly or repeatedly.

A single act of violence can be abuse.

A person does not have to wait for it to be repeated before reporting it.

Next, women or girls are always the target for abuse.

This statement is false.

While women are usually the target of abuse, men can also be targets, and often find it much harder to seek help.

And finally, abuse can happen in same-sex relationships and in relationships involving a trans person.

This is true.

Abuse can happen in any relationship.

It may in such cases have its own unique characteristics, such as threatening to out someone or pressuring someone to prove their sexual orientation.

We will now remind ourselves about the definition of assault.

Can you remember the definition from the start of the lesson? Write down on your piece of paper, any of the words or the full sentence if you can.

Pause the video now to do this.

Let's now have a look at the definition that you have written down.

Did you include any of these key words? Physical, unwanted, or contact? The full definition of assault looks like this.

A physical attack or unwanted physical contact on a person.

There are degrees of assault from battery to grievous bodily harm.

I would like you now to write down some examples.

See if you can create three examples of assault.

Pause the video now to do this activity.

Some examples might include pushing someone, stabbing someone, or punching someone.

A single act of violence can be abuse.

A person does not have to wait for it to be repeated before reporting it.

These are all criminal behaviours in a relationship.

What I would like you to consider now is how can we adapt this definition of assault for sexual assault? Pause the video now and write down your thoughts of this.

The definition of sexual assault looks like this.

The intentionally touching another person sexually without their consent.

There are, again, different forms of sexual assault from forcing someone to perform sexual acts, to rape.

Again, these are all criminal behaviours that can be found in relationships.

Another true or false statement for you here.

Abuse can happen between people of any age, nationality, religion, race, or family background.

Point to the screen now, is this true or false? This is true.

Abuse can happen to anyone for different reasons.

It can happen to anyone.

Abuse doesn't happen again after a relationship has ended.

Is this true or false? This statement is false.

Abuse can continue to happen even after a relationship has ended.

We shall now discuss the definitions of stalking, harassment, and blackmail.

Stalking or harassment is a pattern of fixated and obsessive behaviour, which is repeated and persistent, and causes fear of violence to a victim.

Can you think of any examples of what stalking or harassment might look like? Pause the video now to reflect on this.

Some examples might include following someone, spying on someone, or writing unwanted comments on their online profiles.

Here on the screen is the start of a definition for blackmail.

It is to threaten to reveal embarrassing or compromising information about someone unless.

I would like you to pause the video now and complete this definition.

Your ending might look like this.

They make a payment or follow demands.

Abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual, and financial.

Is this true or false? Point to the screen now.

This is true.

Abuse often involves several different types of abusive behaviour, including physical, emotional, sexual, and financial.

The abuser is always responsible; no one else is to blame.

Is this true or false? This is also true.

The abuser is always responsible; no one, especially the victim, is to blame.

This next part of the lesson looks at how to respond to criminal behaviours in a relationship.

So how should you respond? You should report any of the behaviours that we have discussed in today's lesson.

You can report to the police, a trusted adult, or you can use an external agency such as Childline.

Everything we have discussed today is a criminal behaviour.

For your final activity, I would like you to summarise what you have learned today.

How many of the words on the screen can you use in your summary paragraph? Pause the video now and complete this activity.

Let us end the lesson with a reflection.

Criminal behaviours in a relationship can include: assault, sexual assault, stalking, harassment, and or blackmail.

You should report any of these behaviours as they are against the law.

You can speak to the police, a trusted adult, or an external agency such as Childline.

Thank you for joining me for this lesson.

You now have an exit quiz to complete.

If you would like to share any of your work with us, please check with a trusted adult and use the hashtag #LearnwithOak.

Goodbye and see you again soon.