Hello, my name is Miss Willow and I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called "How to be a good friend", and it fits into the unit, "Healthy relationships: are friendships ever perfect?" During this lesson, we're going to be talking a little bit about peer pressure and bullying, and some other topics that some people might find upsetting.

For this reason, we recommend that you have an adult with you for the duration of this lesson.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay.

Let's make a start on today's learning.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to describe how to be a good friend and explain what a compromise is.

Before we get started with today's learning, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.

Laura says that we need to listen to others.

This means that we're not going to interrupt other people if they're speaking.

Andeep says we need to respect each other's privacy.

This means that we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions, as this can mean that some people become uncomfortable.

Jacob says, "No judgement ." This means if someone chooses to share a story or an experience, or maybe even a feeling, we're not going to judge them for it.

And Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

This means that it's up to us how much we want to join in with today's lesson.

We're now going to go through the keywords for today's learning.

These are gonna come up multiple times throughout today's lesson, so it's important that we have a good understanding of what each word means.

First of all, we have the key word "care".

This means to be kind to someone.

Next, we have "support".

This means to provide help and encouragement to others.

Next, we have "celebrate".

This means to praise someone for who they are or something that they've done.

And finally "compromise".

This is an agreement where all people are happy.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords, and when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called "How can we care for our friends?" And our second learning cycle is called, "How can we celebrate our friends' differences?" We're now going to make a start on our first learning cycle.

How can we care for our friends? Good friends make us feel happy.

We might enjoy spending time with them.

We might play with them.

We might talk to them about how we feel.

And we could laugh with them, too.

In this photo, you can see some friends playing together.

Good friends care for each other.

We show care for our friends when we listen to them, when we include them, and we share with them, and when we're kind to them, too.

We can include friends in our games and our conversations to help them to feel cared for.

It's also important to listen to what they're saying, and to how they feel, and we should be kind to our friends, too.

This means that we're not going to hurt their feelings on purpose.

Good friends care about each other's feelings.

They don't say or do things that they know will hurt the other person's feelings, and if they do, they say sorry and they mean it.

Here, Jun and Alex have had a falling out.

Alex says, "I'm really sorry that I hurt your feelings, Jun.

It was an accident, and it won't happen again.

How can I make this better?" This is a really good apology from Alex, because he's saying sorry, he's saying it was an accident, so it wasn't on purpose, and he's saying that it won't happen again.

It's really important that when we say sorry to someone, we really mean what we're saying.

And here, Alex is also asking Jun, how can he make the situation better? Well done, Alex.

This is a great apology.

We're now going to do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

How can we show care towards our friends? Should we A, listen to them? B, ignore them? C, include them? Or D, say sorry but not mean it? There might be more than one correct answer for this one, so think carefully.

Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that A and C are correct.

We can show care towards our friends by listening to them and by including them.

We can listen to our friends when we talk about their feelings or their experiences, and we can include them in our games and our conversations.

Well done if you said the same thing.

Good friends also support each other.

Here, we have another one of our key words, support.

Can you remember what it means? Well done if you said that it means to provide help and encouragement to others.

Good friends celebrate their friends' successes, and help them to feel better when something isn't quite right.

Maybe there's a problem, or their feelings have been hurt.

Here, someone's saying, "Well done for doing so well in the spelling test.

I know you worked hard." This shows someone celebrating their friends' successes.

They did really well in the spelling test, so they're saying, "Well done." Someone else is responding, saying, "I know you're finding the spelling test tricky at the moment.

Why don't we talk to our teacher about it?" This shows a good friend showing support.

They said that they know that they're finding the spelling test tricky, and they're suggesting a way that could help by talking to their teacher.

This shows a really good friend being supportive.

We can support our friends by making kind choices.

Here we have someone saying, "Maybe we should just play together at lunchtime and leave Willow out," but the other person is being a kind friend.

They're saying, "That's not a kind thing to do.

Willow is our friend and we should include her." The other person responds, saying, "You're right, I wasn't being kind.

I will go and ask her if she wants to play." It's important that we help our friends to make kind choices, just like in this scenario here.

We can also support our friends if they're feeling sad, or if they're having a tricky time.

Maybe they're upset about something that's happened, or they're feeling worried or angry.

Aisha says, "When my friend's parents split up, he was really sad.

I made sure to support him by listening to him, asking him how he was doing, and encouraging him to talk to a trusted adult about his feelings." Here, Aisha's being a really good friend.

She's supporting her friend by listening to him, by asking him questions about his feelings, and encouraging him to seek support from a trusted adult, too.

Well done, Aisha.

You're being a really supportive friend.

Let's do another check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle so far.

I'd like you to decide, is Jacob correct? Jacob says, "Good friends always go along with whatever their friend says to do, even if it's not kind." What do you think? Is Jacob correct? Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that Jacob is incorrect.

What he said isn't true.

But why? You might have said that good friends support each other to make kind choices.

They don't just go along with what their friend has suggested, just because it's what they want to do or what they've suggested.

Good friends help each other to be kind friends and to make kind choices.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our first practise task, and you've done a brilliant job so far.

Well done.

To put our learning from today's learning cycle into practise, I'd like you to suggest three ways that Sam can be a good friend.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that Sam can be a good friend by showing care for her friends by listening to them, including them, and being kind to them.

She can show support for her friends by encouraging them to make kind choices.

She can celebrate her friends' successes, and she can help her friends if they're sad or having a tricky time.

Well done if you had this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our second learning cycle.

How can we celebrate our friends' differences? You've worked so hard in today's lessons so far, so keep it up.

Good friends accept each other's differences by coming to a compromise when they both want different things.

Here, Jacob is saying, "Shall we play tag at lunchtime?" But Izzy says, "I'm not a fan of tag.

Why don't we play hide and seek instead?" Jacob says, "Hmm, why don't we play on the equipment? We both love that." And Izzy says, "Sure, sounds good." This shows what a compromise can look like.

Izzy isn't a fan of tag, so she's suggesting an alternative, called hide and seek.

But Jacob isn't keen on playing hide and seek, so he's suggesting a compromise, doing something that they both enjoy, playing on the equipment.

This is a great compromise.

Well done, Jacob and Izzy.

When we compromise, it doesn't mean that we always get exactly what we want.

If Jacob wants to play tag, and Izzy wants to play hide and seek, instead, another compromise that they could have come up with could be that they play tag today and hide and seek tomorrow.

This means that both Jacob and Izzy get what they want, but at slightly different times.

This is a compromise.

Sometimes we might need to accept an imperfect situation, and we might need to give a little so that everyone gets something of what they want.

But compromise can be hard.

It can be tricky to find a solution that makes everyone happy, and it's not always easy when we don't get exactly what we want.

Jacob tells us that it's important to talk to our friends about how we feel.

We can listen to what they want, and ask what solutions they'd be happy with that also make us happy, too.

Trusted adults are also able to help us to find a compromise as well.

They might be able to listen to what both people want, and come up with a suggestion that makes everyone happy.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

This time I'd like you to decide, is this statement true or false? "Compromise means everyone getting exactly what they want." What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that, when we compromise, we may need to accept an imperfect solution so that everyone gets something of what they want.

Remember that Jacob and Izzy came to a compromise of playing on the equipment instead of just playing a game that only one of them wanted to play.

This is an example of a really good compromise.

Maybe you could think of some others.

Good friends also celebrate each other's differences.

Sometimes we have lots in common with our friends, and this means that we have lots of similar traits.

We might enjoy the same things, have similar families.

They might look similar, and they could have similar opinions and ideas.

They could also be the same gender, so they could both be a boy or a girl.

Here we have Sam and Sofia.

Can you spot some of the things that they have in common? This means some of the things that are the same or similar.

Well done if you spotted that both Sam and Sofia are girls.

They both have blonde hair.

Their hair is a similar length.

Well done if you spotted something else.

Other times we might have lots of differences with our friends, but this can be a really wonderful thing.

Someone who is similar to us may not always be a good friend, and someone who is different to us could be a great friend.

Here we have lots of our Oak characters.

We have Lucas, Andeep, Sofia, and Aisha.

Can you spot some of the differences in our characters? You might have spotted that they're different genders.

We have boys and we have girls.

We can also see some height differences.

For example, Aisha is taller than Sofia.

You might have noticed that Lucas uses a powered wheelchair, and Sofia has a cochlear implant.

You might have noticed that Aisha wears a hijab.

Well done if you spotted some other differences.

We can celebrate our friends' differences by making compromises so that they can be included, we can learn more about what makes them different to us and how we can support them, we can show support when they have a different idea, opinion, or experience to us.

Andeep says, "Lucas uses a powered wheelchair, and we love playing tag with him.

He's so good at it." It's time to move on to your next practise task.

For the first part of this task, I'd like you to explain to your partner in two to three sentences, what a compromise is.

Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

Your answer may include that a compromise is when people decide to meet in the middle when they want different things.

It means everyone gives up a little bit of what they want so that everyone can be happy.

Like when you and your friend both want to play different games, so you play one game first, and then the other game next time.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

For the next part of this task, I'd like you to identify three ways that Aisha is being a good friend.

Aisha says, "I have lots of friends that are different to me, or like different things.

I do my best to include them, often by coming to a compromise so that everyone feels happy.

If I'm not sure how to include someone, I ask them, and I listen when my friend has a different idea or opinion to mine." Can you spot three ways that Aisha is being a good friend? Pause the video and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have spotted that Aisha is a good friend because she includes her friends who are different to her by coming to a compromise.

She celebrates her friends' differences by asking them how they would like to be included.

And finally, she listens when her friends have a different opinion to her.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

We're now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.

You've done a brilliant job, and I'm so proud of you.

In today's lesson, we've learned that good friends listen to each other.

For example, when they share their ideas or feelings.

Good friends care for each other by being kind and not hurting each other's feelings deliberately.

If they do, they say sorry and mean it.

Good friends support each other by making sure to celebrate their successes and helping when things aren't right.

Good friends compromise with each other, so that everyone is happy.

And finally, good friends know that it's important to celebrate each other's differences, and making sure that everyone is included.

In today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or some questions, and it's really important that you share these with an adult that you trust.

There's also some resources on the screen that are there to help you, too.

Well done for your fantastic hard work in today's lesson.

I'm really proud of you, and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.