Lesson video

Hi there, everyone.

My name is Miss Shaw.

I'm really pleased you're joining me today, focusing on this lesson, which is about trustworthy information.

So in this lesson about trustworthy information, we're going to be focusing on determining when information that's given to us by family or friends might be trustworthy or untrustworthy.

And recognising that not every child or family member has good intentions, and they might present information that is one sided or untrustworthy.

We're also going to look at how we can manage these family situations where conflicting information is presented by family or friends.

This lesson covers sensitive topics, and therefore we recommend checking with a trusted adult before starting, or doing the lesson with a trusted adult nearby.

For this lesson, you are going to need exercise book or paper to jot some notes down, and you're also going to need a pen, and your brain thinking as well.

Hopefully, you've already completed your intro quiz.

So firstly, we'll be focusing on determining trustworthy and untrustworthy information.

And we are going to recognise when someone's intentions are not good.

Then we'll look how we can manage conflicting information that's given to us.

And then we'll look at the key learning points, and you'll complete your exit quiz.

So the key words for today's lesson are trustworthiness, which refers to the ability to be relied upon as truthful and honest.

Conflicting information refers to contradictory statements made about the same event or situation by different people.

Intentions are the aim or plan for how something will turn out.

Sometimes these are not always good.

And one-sided refers to being biassed towards one person over another.

So as a recap from prior learning, I'd like you to read through the statements and choose which of the two key words were covered in previous lessons and which weren't.

I'd like you to pause here while you do this activity.

So were you correct? So these two were the correct ones.

Positive relationships are shared between people who love, encourage, and help each other practically and emotionally.

And safe relationships.

which are authentic, comfortable, and supportive without fear of ridicule or abuse.

The other two, which were conflicting information and conflict resolution, we're going to learn about today.

So in this first section we're going to focus on determining when information given to us by family or friends is trustworthy or not.

Now we're given an awful lot of information by people we are around on a regular basis, be it by parents, or family or friends, or things we see on television, or teachers information.

So how do we know if we can trust it or not? So what I'd like you to do here is try and choose what do you think are the incorrect answers.

So how do we know if someone is telling us something trustworthy or not? Have a read through and choose the incorrect answers.

So did you get them all correct? People that are not being trustworthy tend to say "I" a lot.

They use far less detail than usual.

They use negative emotion words, which are bad, or sad, or things that make you feel negative.

They tend to be tense quite a lot of the time, and they'll look away instead of maintaining good eye contact.

They might appear nervous, and they tend to fidget a lot and move around.

They don't maintain good eye contact.

They don't generally have an open body language.

They tend to be closed and uptight.

They don't uphold commitment, so they tend to let you down quite a bit.

They're not in control of their emotions, and they generally are not consistent with the facts and information that they're giving you.

So what are positive features of trustworthy people? I'd like you to pause here and make a list of as many as you can think of.

So how does your list compare with mine? Well, some common positive features of trustworthy people are consistency, so they're consistently giving you the same information, or they're not letting you down.

They show compassion and humility.

They might be relaxed, and show you gratitude, and they are respectful of your time.

They also respect your boundaries.

They tend not to gossip about things and spread rumours, and they are also willing to compromise.

So, do we think that family members always tell us the truth? I'm hoping you chose the false button.

There are lots of reasons why people lie to us, and not everything that we are told can be totally relied upon, even by those people who we rely upon and trust.

Now we're going to take a closer look at why this is sometimes the case.

In this section we're going to focus on understanding why friends or family might not have good intentions, and how we can manage situations where this occurs.

Which of the following are reasons why family members might tell you something untrustworthy? I'd like you to pause the video here, have a read through, and choose which ones are reasons why family members might tell you something untrustworthy.

So did you get them right? It might be that they're wanting to spare your feelings about something.

It might be that they want to manipulate you into doing something.

It might be learned behaviour that they've picked up on consciously imitating.

It might be that they're trying to protect you from something hurtful.

It could be that they're covering up another lie.

It might be that they've made a promise to somebody else to not tell you something.

And they might not trust you.

It could also be that they are playing a joke.

Generally, it's not said to make you anxious.

It's not because they're trying to elicit the truth from you.

It's not to give you correct information, and it's not generally to see how you will react to things.

Now, you might be given false information by family members.

I'd like you to write a short answer.

In paragraph 1, talk about to what extent do you agree with this statement, and explain your reasons.

And then in paragraph two, I'd like you to explain why you think that this might be the case, and include some of the reasons for them doing this.

I'd like you to pause the video here and return when you've completed the activity.

Now sometimes differing versions of an event can cause conflict in families, where one person is saying that one thing happened, and another person is saying that something else happened.

What I'd like you to do is to make a list of strategies to deal with this situation.

Pause the video here and come back when you've completed the activity.

So how did your list compare with mine? Well, some strategies for dealing with conflict within families could be to talk to the other person.

Try and focus on the behaviour or the events, and not on the personality of the person that's talking and presenting the information.

Listen carefully and identify points of agreement and points of disagreement.

Then prioritise the areas of conflict, and perhaps make a plan to work on each area of conflict.

Follow through on that plan, and help build on your success.

Now I'd like you to consider this scenario.

Aisha is desperate to be liked by her peers, but also wants to stick to the rules which often leads to a conflict in emotions.

Her mum and dad are a happy family unit but they're also quite strict, so Aisha hides many aspects of her friendships and day-to-day life from them.

Recently, Aisha's friend, Zoya, shared a video of her without her consent, which Aisha's parents have since seen and other family members have got involved, and it's caused a disagreement in the family.

Now, Zoya doesn't want to get into trouble, so has offered a different version of events to Aisha's.

What I'd like you to do here is to suggest at least 3 ways in which Aisha and her family could resolve the situation.

I'd like you to pause and then come back when you've completed the task.

So how did your answer compare with mine? Well, firstly, they could meet together with both Zoya and Aisha and their parents.

They could ask Zoya to give her version of events, and ask Aisha to do the same.

They could focus on the situation and the issue, and not the emotions that are involved.

And identify the key points of the disagreement.

They should also set out a plan to resolve the situation and stick to it.

And finally, they should remove the video, which has been shared on social media and delete it.

The key learning points from this lesson is that not all information we receive is trustworthy.

There are many reasons why the information that we receive might be untrustworthy, but there are also many ways to overcome the disagreements in family relationships.

And, also positive coping strategies are extremely important.

I'd now like you to complete the exit quiz to check your understanding of the content of this lesson.

Well done on completing the second lesson in this unit.

Goodbye for now.