Lesson video

Hello, and welcome to this lesson on respect for relationships.

Over the next few lessons we're going to be looking at the topic area of stereotyping and bullying.

By completing the introductory quiz, you already started to look at what we think bullying might be.

And in this lesson, I'm going to look at what you believe it is and how you believe it develops in society.

And as we move over these six lessons, we'll then look at stereotyping, how that impacts people's lives and how that leads to more bullying.

I also want to look at how we might stop bullying and what we as individuals or in a group can do, to do that.

Now, a key element for me in PSHE is looking at who we are.

So I'm Mr. Nicholson, and as I said I will be leading these lessons for you the next six weeks.

Can you tell me what your name is? Thank you for doing that, because in PSHE it's important that we listen to each other, and in order to do that we need to have a respectful relationship so that what we say is shared equally and openly with each other, and that we can learn in that way.

It's also important that you think carefully about what we're doing, and over the time I'm going to be asking you to make some notes.

So please make sure you've got a piece of paper, a book or a pen, and then we can move on.

We're going to start off by looking at what actually is bullying.

And then I'm going to turn to how you can express your own opinion appropriately using key stem phrases that will help you understand what you believe and what other people believe.

Now that we've looked at what we are going to do today, ensure that you've got your equipment ready.

As mentioned already, please make sure you've got a book or a piece of paper, on which to write and a pen with which to make your notes.

That'll make it really easy to keep everything together as we go through this lesson.

Throughout the session today you can see here what we're going to be doing.

And by the end of this lesson we're going to review all that learning by bringing it together in a paragraph that you're going to write for me.

We're going to start off by thinking about what bullying means to us, and coming up with an agreed definition so we can help each other learn about this one.

We're then going to investigate the three types of bullying and define what's meant by the term bystander.

Think about what happens when that bystander does nothing, and what happens when they intervene.

And as I say we'll bring this all together when we review our learning later on.

In this way you'll be able to see what bullying is all about and what the role of a bystander actually is.

We're going to start off now by looking at what actually bullying is.

And I'm going write a sentence which starts I think bullying is.

and here we're talking about your own opinion again.

Now bullying is one of those things where you need to draw on your own experience whether you've seen it in the media, read it in a book, or heard about it from a friend or somebody else at school.

So what actually is bullying? Write down your definition, pause the video for a few minutes and then we'll come back to what we're thinking about.

Now you've come up with your definition, here's one you can think about.

Bullying is simply behaviour which hurts somebody else.

This could be any form of bullying, and we're going to think about that shortly but make sure we now have a common understanding of what bullying actually is.

If you need to change your own definition maybe add in some of the things from one here, to really help us carry on thinking about what bullying is and what we can do to stop it.

What I'd like to do now is to read this passage, within it there are three types of bullying.

You will need to work out what they are and a good way to do that is look at the examples and try and figure out what they are.

Within each paragraph you'll see that there is a different form of bullying, so that's there to help you a little bit.

What I want you to do is to pause your video spend some time reading through this, maybe pointing to the screen and identifying what the forms of bullying are and the examples for it.

If however, you'd rather there is a downloadable worksheet for you where you can highlight them with a pen, circle them, use a highlighter, and in that way you can find out what the three types of bullying actually are.

Spend a couple of minutes or as long as you need, reading through it to identify the types of bullying and when you've done so press play, and we can carry on.

You will notice here that I've actually highlighted the words for you about the type of bullying.

If you see in the first paragraph is the use of words or verbal bullying.

And the example given here is such thing as as calling them names or teasing them.

So the person is doing that to hurt them, if you remember what we looked at in our definition of bullying earlier.

The second one is using examples of false rumours, ignoring the people or using comments online.

So in this sense, bullying does not have to be face to face.

And we often refer to this as emotional bullying, where you're making the person feel bad about themselves by spreading those rumours or completely ignoring them.

The third type of bullying here has an example of hitting or punching other people.

And we call this physical bullying.

The idea of physical bullying is to actually physically hurt somebody.

So the other two will hurt them emotionally, verbally, but the last one is about actually physically hurting somebody.

I'm going to look at these three forms in a moment.

You can see here the three types of bullying.

We talked about verbal bullying earlier, the idea of using words directly to somebody so they can hear them and therefore hurt them.

We talked about physically bullying somebody.

I am hitting them or punching them to cause them that physical hurt.

Both of those relate really clearly to that definition we came up with earlier.

Now, emotional bullying is not directed at the person.

It may be done by isolating them, through not speaking to them at all or by isolating them online by spreading false rumours.

In that sense, online bullying is emotional bullying.

It's done at a distance away from the person designed to cause them emotional pain.

And this is something that many people can see not just the person it's directed to.

And that's actually the aim of the bully.

What I'd like to do now is to identify the three types in the passage we looked at earlier again but also then to jot down the titles verbal bullying physically bullying, and emotional bullying, and come up with your own definition in your notes.

This will be something you need to refer to later on.

And it's important we get those written down before we move on.

We're now moving on to look at what being a bystander actually is.

In this exercise I want you to think about the role of the bystander in terms of the bully, the person being bullied and the bystander.

So we've looked at the three types of bullying.

Think about now, by pausing the video, what a bystander would do in each of the three types.

This will become really, really important for you as we move forward, because it's about what role they take and the impact they can have.

Think about this question though, if a bystander does nothing what will happen? And if a bystander intervenes, what will happen as well? Pause the video and jot down some of your own ideas.

Now that you've had time to think about it, a bystander is simply somebody who stands on the wayside and looks at what's going on.

They are seeing the bully, undertaking the bullying and watching how that person reacts to it.

They are simply standing by.

This definition will be really useful cause I'm going to ask you what you think about what a bystander should do shortly and how that will impact on both the bully and the person being bullied.

But keep your mind all the time, a bystander is somebody who is watching the bullying being undertaken.

Now I want you to think about what the bystander should do.

I've given you four options here to think about, but think about the consequences of each one.

What would be the outcome if you were to join the bully, ignore the bully, show that you approve of the bully, or if you were to stop it.

What I'd like to do now is point to the screen and tell me which is the thing you think bystander should do.

That's right.

Simple answer is they should stop the bullying.

By being a bystander you are complicit within the bullying activity.

And it might be that there's an impact for you later on.

The impact might be that the bully looks at you and thinks this person I can bully as well because they stood by and watched it happen to other people.

Stopping it is to inform people within school or within the society that is actually going on, and therefore it can be stopped.

It's an important activity for us all to learn how to do.

And we will look in the next few lessons about how you can do this safely and appropriately without actually resorting to tactics the bully themselves might use.

Now we've talked about being a bystander and what will happen to the bully or the person being bullied if you're the bystander.

I want you to think about these two questions I've written here for you.

What may happen if someone does nothing? If the bystander just stands there and watches this happening, what's going to happen to both the bully and the person being bullied? Also what might happen if someone intervenes? Think about the fact that the person who's the bystander goes up and tries to stop the bullying or even speaks to the person who's being bullied.

What would be the impact on both the bully and the person being bullied? I want you to do is pause the video now and jot down four things in response to each question.

In doing that, it'll help you think about what you believe about bullying and about what you think the role of a bystander actually is.

A few moments ago I asked you to write down what you thought might happen if somebody did nothing as a bystander or if they intervened.

Here's some of my ideas but you might've written something completely different.

That's fine, because as we said in PSHE, it's about your own opinion.

I've put down the bullying gets worse as they have the audience they were looking for.

We talked earlier about the fact that bully needs an audience in order to do the bullying because it makes them feel better about themselves.

But conversely, it means that the person being bullied will feel bad about themselves.

And that will impact on their mental and physical health.

However, if you intervene the bully then loses that audience, and therefore, the bullying is likely to stop` because in that sense they are no longer getting that affirmation they need from the people around them.

And also the person being bullied begins to feel better about themselves because they think somebody's going to look out for them.

Whatever you've written is about your own ideas.

Here's some my mind thought about, as I say but you may have thought about different things.

There's going to be no right or wrong here because it is our own opinion.

But as long as it's explained what we think and why we think it, that's the important thing.

We've now spent some time looking at what bullying actually is.

At the beginning of this lesson, we defined it, we defined three types of bullying, and then we looked at what a bystander should do in terms of bullying.

And now's the time to look at bringing all of our learning together.

On here you will see there are 12 different words or phrases that I'd like you to put together into a paragraph.

Each one is worth a certain number of points.

You can see the points tally at the bottom.

So what I'd like to do is spend about five minutes looking at the words, pausing on the screen and writing down your own definition of bullying.

I want you to explain what it is and how you might want to stop it.

Notice there we've got key words we've used earlier like bystander, physical, verbal, teasing, emotional.

See if you can make sure you get all 12 words into your paragraph, and then look at the number of points you're going to give yourself for what you have written.

When you've done that jot down the number of points so we can bring all of our learning together.

And when you're ready, let's move forward in our learning to bring about our understanding of what bullying and bystanding actually is.

This is my paragraph based on the words I asked you to use earlier.

You could say, I started off with that definition of bullying we started with.

I've also included the three types of bullying and given examples, that really shows me what understanding I've got about those areas.

But I've also used the idea of in my opinion about giving my own thoughts on what I think and explaining why but I've linked that to being a bystander and the impact on the bully and the person being bullied.

Think about what you've written to see if you've used all the words I asked you to do earlier if not, can you make some improvements to try to add them in or do you not need to include them at all because you've written everything you think you can do? And here we are, there's our definition of bullying, behaviour that hurt someone whether it's verbal, emotional, physical.

And our definition of bystander, the act of knowing and allowing bullying to take place without intervening to stop it.

During today's lesson, we've looked at the impact bullying might have on people, the forms it might take, but also the impact we'll have on the bystander and the bully as well.

So what I'd like to do now is for you to complete the exit questionnaire at the end see what you have learned.

And we'll move on in our next lesson to look at bystanding and bullying again and what impact being these has had on other people.

So I'm looking at little case studies to say how its had impact for people's lives.

Thank you for today's lesson.

I hope you've learned a lot and make sure that you keep all your notes together because then that way we'll be able to help each other learn more in the next few lessons.

Goodbye for now.