Lesson video

Hello, my name is Miss Willow, and I'm so excited to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called "Friends can disagree," and it fits into the unit, Healthy relationships: What makes a good friend? Let's make a start on today's learning.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to understand that friends may disagree and know ways to resolve disagreements.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable during today's lesson.

We've got some friends to help us remember these rules.

Our friend Laura says that we need to listen to others, so this means that if someone else is speaking, we are not going to speak over them.

Andeep says that we need to respect each other's privacy.

This means that we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Next, Jacob says that we need to not have any judgment.

This means that if someone chooses to share a story, a feeling, or an experience, we are not going to judge them for it.

And finally, Izzy reminds us that we can choose our level of participation.

This means that it's up to us how much we want to join in with today's lesson.

We are now going to go through the keywords for today's lesson.

I'm going to say the keyword, and when I do this, I would love if you could repeat it back to me.

Okay, so disagreement.

Well done.

And resolve.

Brilliant.

Well done.

We are now going to learn what these keywords mean.

So disagreement is when two or more people have different ideas or opinions about something, and resolve means to find a way to fix a problem.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords, and when you spot them, I want you to try and remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called What is a disagreement? And our second learning cycle is called How can we resolve a disagreement? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle, What is a disagreement? A disagreement is when two or more people have different ideas or opinions about something.

It means that they don't see things the same way or they don't want the same thing.

Aisha wants to share her experience.

Aisha says that, "Andeep wanted to play tag, but I wanted to play hide and seek.

We didn't want the same thing." So this is an example of a disagreement.

Now, Sam wants to share her experience.

Sam says, "I wanted to use the red coloring pencil for our drawing, but Sofia wanted to use the green.

We didn't see things the same way." This is another example of a disagreement between friends.

Can you think of any more disagreement examples? Maybe you want to talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself, or maybe you want to tell me.

Okay, let's look at some more disagreement examples.

Aisha says that, "Andeep thinks his football team are better than the one I support.

We don't see things the same way." And Sam says, "I wanted to play inside, but Sofia wanted to play outside.

We disagreed about what we wanted to do." Well done if you thought of some disagreements as well.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

Can you remember what is a disagreement? Is it A, when everyone agrees; B, when nobody talks; or C, when people have different ideas? What do you think? Talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself, or tell me.

Well done if you said that C is correct.

A disagreement is when people have different ideas.

Well done if you said the same thing.

Disagreements can make us feel lots of different emotions.

For example, we might feel upset or worried that our friend might not like us anymore if we've had a disagreement with them.

We might feel pleased that we're playing what we want to, or we might feel cross that no one's listening to us, or we might feel scared because our friends might be shouting if we've disagreed with them.

How do disagreements make you feel? Maybe you want to think to yourself, talk to the people around you, or tell me, how do disagreements make you feel? Let's have a look at what our friends at Oak National Academy feel when they experience a disagreement.

So Aisha says, "Sometimes I feel cross when Andeep says that my football team is rubbish, but then I remember that it's okay to have different opinions." And Sam says, "I was worried that Sofia wouldn't like me anymore if I didn't play outside with her, but my teacher reminded me that it's okay to do different activities from your friends." Let's do another check for understanding.

Disagreements can make us feel: A, just sad; B, just angry; or C, lots of emotions.

What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself, or maybe you want to tell me.

Well done if you said that C is correct.

Disagreements can make us feel lots of emotions.

And remember that everyone will have different emotions when they experience a disagreement.

Well done if you got this right.

Let's have a look at Izzy and Jacob's disagreement.

Izzy says, "Let's play superheroes.

I want to be the fastest hero ever." But Jacob says, "But I want to play explorers and go on a treasure hunt." Izzy says, "But superheroes are more fun." And Jacob says, "I think treasure hunts are fun." What do you think might happen next? Maybe you want to talk to the people around you, tell me, or have a think to yourself, what do you think might happen next in Izzy and Jacob's disagreement? Okay, let's have a look and see what happens next.

Izzy says, "Hmm, maybe we can be superhero explorers.

We can find treasure and use our superpowers." Jacob says, "That's a great idea.

Let's go on a mission." Friends can have different ideas, but by listening to each other, just like Izzy and Jacob have done, they can find a way to play together and to have fun too.

Let's do another check for understanding.

Which of these images shows a disagreement, A, B, or C? Take a look at the photos and decide maybe with the people around you or just by yourself, which image shows a disagreement happening? Pause the video, and we'll go through the answers in a minute.

Well done if you said that B shows a disagreement.

In this photo, we can see two people and they seem to be fighting over a teddy bear.

This suggests that a disagreement is happening.

Maybe one of them wants the teddy bear and the other person wants the teddy bear as well.

Well done if you spotted this.

Now we're going to look at Jun and Alex's disagreement.

Jun says, "Let's sit next to each other at lunch," but Alex says, "I want to sit next to Laura today." Jun says, "But we always sit together." And Alex says, "I know, but I want to sit with Laura this time." What do you think might happen next? Maybe you want to pause the video, talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself, or tell me.

Okay, let's see what happens next.

Jun says, "Okay, I'll sit with Lucas today and we can all play together after lunch." Alex says, "That sounds great.

We can play a big game together." Do you think Jun and Alex are still friends after this disagreement? What do you think? Well done if you said that yes, friends can want different things, but by respecting each other's decision like Jun and Alex did, they can find a way for everyone to be happy and to still stay friends after a disagreement.

Well done if you said the same thing.

Let's do another check for understanding, and this time I'd like you to decide if this statement is true or false.

Jun and Alex are still great friends after their disagreement.

What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is true, but why? You might have said that friends don't always have to agree with each other, and it's okay to make different choices to our friends sometimes.

It doesn't mean that Jun and Alex aren't still great friends even though they've had a disagreement.

Well done if your answer was something similar.

We all have different boundaries.

Being firm with our boundaries helps to keep us safe and happy.

Jun says, "I have a boundary about people touching me.

I don't allow people that I don't know well to give me hugs." And Izzy says, "I have a boundary about how people talk to me.

I won't allow people to call me unkind names." Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing.

Being firm with our boundaries helps to keep us A, safe; B, worried; or C, happy.

Being firm with our boundaries helps to keep us what? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that safe and happy are the correct answers.

Being firm with our boundaries helps to keep us A, safe, and C, happy.

Well done if you got this right.

Being firm with our boundaries means saying what we don't like or what we need.

For example, Jun says, "I don't want a hug right now." And Izzy says, "Please stop using unkind words.

It makes me feel upset." Being firm with our boundaries is a good thing because it helps people to understand us.

However, it's not fair to control what other people do.

Trying to control what other people do can lead to disagreements.

In this scenario, Izzy says, "Stop playing with them, Sam.

Play with me instead." But Sam says, "Don't tell me what to do, Izzy." It's not fair for Izzy to tell Sam who she can and can't play with.

This would be an example of Izzy trying to control Sam in a way that's unfair and it's causing a disagreement.

Let's do a check for understanding.

Fill in the missing word in the sentence.

Trying to control what other people do can lead to what? What is the missing word? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that the missing word is disagreements.

Trying to control what other people do can lead to disagreements, and this isn't fair.

Well done if you got this right.

Let's move on to our first practice task, and well done for your amazing hard work so far.

For this task, I'd like you to choose the correct word to complete each sentence about friendships and disagreements.

Let's have a look at our first sentence.

Sentence one: disagreements means you can or can't be friends anymore.

Two: it's not okay or okay to have different ideas from your friends.

Three: shouting and arguing will or will not help solve a disagreement.

Statement four: disagreements are not or are a normal part of friendships.

Five: finding a way to be fair makes everyone feel sad or happy.

And finally, six: asking a trusted adult for help with disagreements is okay or not okay if you need it.

Can you choose the correct word to complete each sentence about friendships and disagreements? Pause the video, and we'll go through the correct sentences in a few minutes.

Brilliant.

Okay, now we're going to take a look at what your completed sentences should look like.

Sentence one should say: disagreements mean you can be friends anymore.

Sentence two should be: it's okay to have different ideas from your friends.

Sentence three should say: shouting and arguing will not help solve a disagreement.

Sentence four should say: disagreements are a normal part of friendships.

Sentence five should say: finding a way to be fair makes everyone feel happy.

And finally, sentence six, asking a trusted adult for help with disagreements is okay if you need it.

Well done if you had the correct words so that your sentences look like mine.

It's now time to move on to our second learning cycle, How can we resolve a disagreement? Sometimes friends don't agree, and that's okay.

We can resolve disagreements in a kind and fair way by using kind words instead of shouting or arguing, speaking calmly and listening to each other.

Listening to each other, so let the other person share their idea, just like you want to share your idea.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

What is one way to resolve a disagreement? A, ignore each other; B, shout loudly; or C, take turns speaking.

What is one way to resolve a disagreement? What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that C is correct, we can resolve a disagreement by taking turns speaking.

This shows respect and is a kind thing to do.

Well done if you said the same thing.

We can resolve disagreements in a kind and fair way by taking turns.

So if you both want to do something different, try doing one thing that one person wants to do first and then do the other thing so that the other person gets to do what they want as well.

Find a new idea together.

So maybe you could think of a way to mix both ideas together or to try something new.

You can also ask for help, so if you can't agree, you can ask a trusted adult to help you to find a fair solution for everyone.

Disagreements happen sometimes, but when we work together, it's important to remember that we can resolve them and still have fun and still stay friends.

Let's do another check for understanding.

If two people want to play different games, what could they do to resolve their disagreement? Could they A, play both games by taking turns; B, argue until one person gives up; C, stop playing and go home; or D, never speaks to each other again? If two people want to play different games, what could they do to resolve their disagreement? What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that A is correct.

You could play both games by taking turns.

Well done if you got this right.

Let's do another check for understanding, and this time I'd like you to decide who is saying the right thing to resolve a disagreement in a kind and fair way.

Jun says, "Let's find a way we both like," but Izzy says, "I don't care what you want.

I'm not playing with you anymore." Who is saying the right thing to resolve a disagreement in both a kind and a fair way? Is it Jun or Izzy? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that Jun is doing the right thing to resolve the disagreement in a kind and fair way.

By trying to find a way that both Jun and Izzy like, he's helping to resolve the disagreement in a way that's kind, fair, and respectful.

Well done, Jun.

We will often have to compromise to resolve a disagreement.

This means that both people give up a little bit of what they want so that they can find a solution that's fair for everyone.

Andeep says, "My friend and I disagreed about what to draw.

I wanted to draw animals and he wanted to draw cars.

We compromised by agreeing to draw animals first and then draw cars afterwards." Lucas says, "My friend and I disagreed about what to build with the blocks.

I wanted to build a castle and he wanted to build a spaceship.

In the end, I said, 'That's okay, we can build a spaceship,' because I wanted to be a kind friend, but I hardly ever get to do what I want." Do you think this is fair for Lucas? Why or why not? Talk to the people around you, have a think to yourself, or tell me.

Well done if you said that this isn't fair for Lucas.

Lucas's friend is not being fair because he's not compromising.

He wants to only do what he wants to do and he's not listening to Lucas or his ideas.

Ms. Walsh reminds us that it's good to care for other people and do kind things for them as long as we also look after our own needs and we often get what we want as well.

Ms. Walsh says to Lucas, "It was very kind of you to let your friend choose this time, but it's also important that you get a turn to play what you want.

Good friends take turns and listen to each other's ideas.

Next time you could say, 'Let's build what I want today and what you want tomorrow,' so it feels fair for both of you." Let's do another check for understanding.

I'd like you to finish this sentence.

A good friend: A, always does what they want; B, always does what their friend wants; or C, compromises with their friend.

What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that a good friend compromises with their friend so that everyone gets what they want most of the time.

We are now going to put our learning from this learning cycle into practice.

I'd like you to look at this scenario.

Laura and Lucas are playing with blocks.

Laura says, "Let's build a tall tower," but Lucas says, "But I want to build a big castle." Can you help Laura and Lucas to resolve their disagreement in a kind and fair way? Draw or write what they should do.

Pause the video, and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

Laura might now say something like, "Why don't we build a tall castle with towers that reach the sky?" And Lucas might now say something like, "I love that idea.

Then we find a way that we both like." Well done if your answers were anything like this, and if Laura and Lucas were able to resolve the disagreement in a kind and fair way.

We're now going to summarize the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that friends can have different ideas and opinions, or they want to do different things, and that's okay.

We've learned that disagreements can cause various emotions for different people.

For example, disagreements can make us feel sad, confused, worried, or angry.

And if we feel this way, we can always talk to a trusted adult to help us.

Discussing disagreements between friends calmly and kindly can help to resolve them, and there are strategies to help resolve disagreements, like taking turns speaking and finding a way for both people to be happy, for example, by compromising.

Well done for your brilliant hard work in today's lesson.

I'm so proud of you, and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.