Hello, my name is Miss Willow, and I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called "Disagreeing with friends," and it fits into the unit Healthy relationships: Are friendships ever perfect? During this lesson, we're going to be talking a little bit about peer pressure and bullying and some other topics that some people might find upsetting.

For this reason, we recommend that you have an adult with you for the duration of this lesson.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start on today's learning.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to describe how to disagree with both respect and kindness.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.

Laura says that we need to listen to others.

This means we are not going to interrupt other people if they're speaking.

Andeep says, we need to respect each other's privacy.

This means that we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Jacob says, "No judgement ." This means if someone chooses to share a story, experience, or a feeling, we are not going to judge them for it.

And finally, Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

This means it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We are now going to go through the keywords for today's learning.

These are going to pop up quite a few times in today's lesson, so it's really important that we have a good understanding of what each of these keywords mean.

Agree.

This means to have the same opinion as someone else.

Ideas.

This is someone's thoughts or opinions.

Disagree.

This means to have a different opinion from someone else.

And finally, respect.

This means treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas, and boundaries.

For example, by listening carefully and being polite, even if you disagree.

Remember that this means to have a different opinion from someone else.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords, and when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called Do good friends always agree? And our next learning cycle is called How can we disagree respectfully? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle, Do good friends always agree? Good friends might agree about different ideas.

Andeep says, "Izzy and I agree that our football team is the best." And Izzy says, "Laura and I agree that maths is easier than writing." However, good friends don't always agree.

Here, Andeep says, "Izzy and I disagree that cake is tastier than ice cream." And Izzy says, "Laura and I disagree that playing tag is more fun than hide and seek." These are good friends, but they have different opinions, and that's okay.

Good friends might agree about some ideas and disagree about others.

Jacob says, "A good friend isn't someone who agrees with you about everything.

Good friends can agree about some things, but they may disagree about others.

Just because someone disagrees with us, it doesn't mean that they can't be a good friend." Let's do a check for understanding to see how you are doing with this learning cycle.

For this task, I'd like you to decide who is correct.

Alex says, "If someone's a good friend, they'll agree with you about everything." But Sam says, "Good friends can agree with you about some things but disagree about others." What do you think? Who's correct? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that Sam is correct.

Good friends can agree about some things but disagree about others.

Good friends don't always need to agree about everything.

Well done if you also said that Sam is correct.

You're doing a brilliant job so far.

If someone disagrees with us, this isn't a bad thing.

We can learn things when people have different ideas to us.

Sofia says, "I noticed that my friend Aisha had used a different way to work out a maths problem, but we had the same answer.

I asked her how she worked it out, and her way was much quicker.

She had a different idea to me, and I was able to learn something new." This example shows that we can learn from people who disagree with us or people who see things in a different way.

Well done, Sofia and Aisha.

Sometimes we might disagree with someone because we've made a mistake.

Alex says, "Did you know that the capital of Australia is called Canberra?" But Jacob says, "Actually that's not true.

The capital of Australia is called Sydney." It's okay to get things wrong, and this is often a good thing because we learn.

Alex says, "No, Sydney isn't the capital of Australia.

Canberra is." Jacob says, "Actually, you are right.

I've learned something new today." Well done, Jacob.

Let's do another check for understanding to see how you're doing.

Why can it be a good thing to have different ideas to our friends? Is it A, because we can laugh at them if they're wrong; B, we can learn from the different ideas that they have; or C, it isn't, we should have the same ideas as our friends? What do you think? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that B is correct.

It's a good thing to have different ideas to our friends because we can learn from the different ideas that they have.

Well done if you got this right.

Let's move on to our first practise task, and for the first part of this activity, I'd like you to rewrite the statements so that they're correct.

Sofia says, "Good friends always agree with us and they have the same ideas.

Someone with different ideas to us can't be a good friend." And Lucas says, "If a friend disagrees with us, it's because they're wrong.

There's nothing good about being wrong.

It's just embarrassing." These statements are incorrect.

Can you rewrite them so that they are correct? Pause the video, and we'll go through the potential answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

Sofia might now say something like, "Good friends sometimes agree with us and can have different ideas.

Someone with different ideas to us can be a good friend." And Lucas might now say something like, "If a friend disagrees with us, it could be because we're wrong.

Being wrong can be a good thing because it can help us to learn." Well done if you said this or something similar.

For the next part of this practise task, I'd like you to decide who is being a good friend to Jacob here, and I'd like you to explain your answer to your partner.

Sofia says, "Jacob, it's really embarrassing that you disagreed with Alex and thought that Sydney is Australia's capital.

Everyone knows that it's Canberra.

Ha ha." But Lucas says, "Jacob, don't worry that you disagreed and got the capital of Australia wrong.

Lots of people don't realise this as Sydney is a more well-known city.

It's okay as you've learned something new and now you know the right answer for next time." Can you decide who's being a good friend to Jacob? Explain your answer with your partner.

Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

Your answer may have included that Lucas is being a good friend to Jacob here as he's explaining that although he disagreed with Alex and he got the capital of Australia wrong, he still learnt something new in the process, and this is a wonderful thing.

Lucas is also being a good friend as he's being kind to Jacob because he says that it's a common mistake, whereas Sofia is making Jacob feel embarrassed for getting the capital of Australia wrong and she's laughing at him.

This isn't being a very kind friend.

So well done, Lucas, for making the right choices.

Well done if you had this or something similar as your answers too.

It's time to move on to our second learning cycle, and you are doing a brilliant job.

Well done.

How can we disagree respectfully? We can disagree with our friends respectfully and kindly.

In many cases, there's no one that's wrong or right.

We can disagree without making someone feel bad for having a different idea to us.

Here Izzy says, "Science is so easy.

History and geography are really hard." And Jun says, "It's great that you find science easy, but not everyone does.

I actually think that history and geography can be tricky.

Everyone is different." Sometimes someone has an idea that isn't correct.

We can tell someone the correct answer with respect.

Everyone gets things wrong from time to time.

And remember that often when we get things wrong, we learn, and this is a great thing.

Here Andeep says, "Three times three is six." Aisha's being a really supportive friend, she's saying, "Ah, you've added three and three together.

Three times three is actually nine.

Well done for trying." Even though Andeep got the answer wrong, Aisha is still being a really supportive friend by telling him the correct answer in a kind way.

What do you think about what Laura says? Laura says, "Good friends never disagree with each other.

It's rude to disagree with someone that you're friends with." What do you think? You might want to talk about this with the people around you.

Have a think to yourself.

Do you agree, disagree? Maybe you're somewhere in the middle or you're not sure.

Tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

What do you think about what Laura says? Well done if you said that Laura is incorrect.

Good friends can disagree with each other, but they should disagree while showing respect.

Well done if you said the same thing or maybe you had something similar.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

Does this conversation show disagreeing respectfully? Here, someone says, "I think we should play tag at lunchtime.

It's my favourite game because it's so much fun." And the other person says, "No way.

Tag is so boring.

I hate playing tag and I can't believe that you think it's fun." Does this conversation show disagreeing respectfully? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this conversation doesn't show someone disagreeing respectfully, but why? You might have said that the person who disagrees is not showing respect because they're making the other person feel bad for having a different idea to them.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

When we disagree with someone or when they disagree with us, it's important to listen to their ideas.

Farah says that listening to and learning from the people around us is a lifelong skill that helps us to connect with other people and to build relationships.

When we listen and have an open mind, we show respect and that we're open to learning and to changing our mind." Sometimes we can agree to disagree.

This shows respect to the other person by accepting that our ideas are different and that it's okay not to agree.

Jacob says, "I think that Oak Academy Football Club is the best football club in the world," but Sofia says, "I disagree, but that's okay.

We can have different ideas and still be great friends." Sofia is being a good friend because she's agreeing to disagree.

She's not trying to change Jacob's mind, and she's accepting that he's got a different opinion to her.

Well done, Sofia.

We can also come to a compromise when we disagree with a friend.

This shows respect because it means that we're trying to come to an agreement that makes everyone happy and we are listening to how everyone feels.

Here someone is saying, "I think we should play tag at lunchtime.

It's my favourite game because it's so much fun." This person is suggesting a compromise.

They say, "I don't want to play tag, but why don't we play netball instead? We both love that." This person is being a really good friend.

Because they have a different idea to their friend, they're suggesting an activity that they both enjoy.

That means that everyone gets to be happy.

Sometimes some people might have opinions that are really unkind.

They might think it's okay to treat some people unfairly.

Farah tells us that if someone has an idea or a belief that means that they're being unkind or unfair to others, we can tell a trusted adult for help.

A trusted adult can help them to understand why their ideas are unkind.

It's time to move on to our next practise task.

For the first part of this task, we have a scenario.

Sam and Lucas disagree about what to do their art project about.

Sam says, "I want to do a project about a country." But Lucas says, "I want to do a project about animals." Can you tell your partner two ways that they could disagree with respect? Pause the video, and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You could have said that they could listen to each other's ideas.

They could come to a compromise.

In this case, they could do a project about animals in a particular country, which could make both of them happy.

They could agree to disagree, and they could decide to do separate art projects so that they both do what they want to do and they could also ask a trusted adult to help them.

Well done if you had this or something similar.

For the second part of this task, I'd like you to carry on Sam and Lucas's conversation with two more speech bubbles that show how they resolve the disagreement with respect.

The conversation begins with Sam saying, "I want to do a project about a country," but Lucas says, "I want to do a project about animals." What could happen next? Pause the video, and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what your continued conversation could look like.

Your next speech bubble could be Sam saying, "Okay, let's come to a compromise," and Lucas could respond by saying something like, "Great, let's do a project about animals in a particular country instead." Or your conversation could have looked like this.

Sam might now say, "Okay, let's agree to disagree this time," and Lucas could say, "Sure, let's do separate art projects for now, and next time we'll do one together on a project that we both agree on." This shows how their disagreement is being dealt with with respect and kindness.

Well done, Sam and Lucas.

We are now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that good friends don't always agree, and this is okay.

When people have different ideas to us, we can learn from them.

We can disagree with kindness and respect by not making someone feel bad if they get something wrong.

When we disagree with someone, we should always listen to their ideas because everyone gets things wrong sometimes and it's an opportunity to learn something new.

Finally, we can tell a trusted adult if someone has an idea or belief that causes them to think that it's okay to be unkind to others.

In today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or some questions, and if you do, it's really important that you share these with a trusted adult.

There's also some organisations on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for your fantastic hard work in today's lesson.

I'm really proud of you, and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.