Hello, my name is Ms. Willow, and I'm going to be teaching you today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called Making Up After Arguments, and it fits into the unit Healthy Relationships, Are Friendships Ever Perfect? During this lesson, we're going to be talking about some sensitive topics, so we recommend that you have an adult with you for the duration of this lesson.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start on today's learning.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to describe strategies to repair relationships after arguments.

Before we get started with today's learning, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.

First of all, we have Laura.

Laura says that we need to listen to others.

This means we we're not going to interrupt other people if they're speaking.

Andeep says that we need to respect each other's privacy.

This means that we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Jacob says, "No judgement ." This means if someone chooses to share a feeling, a story, or an experience, we're not going to judge them for it.

And finally, Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

This means it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We're now going to go through the keywords for today's lesson.

These are gonna pop up quite a few times in today's lesson, so it's really important that we have a good understanding of what each of these words mean.

First of all, we have the word argument.

An argument is when people disagree and they give their reasons why they think their idea is correct.

Next, we have relationship.

This is the connection between people.

And finally, repair.

This means to fix something.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords and when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called Why Do Arguments Happen, and our second learning cycle is called How Can We Repair a Damaged Relationship? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle.

Why do arguments happen? Sometimes we have arguments with friends.

It's typical to have arguments with friends occasionally, but they shouldn't happen all the time.

Jun says, "I've had arguments with my friends before over what games to play, when they've hurt my feelings accidentally or because we have a different opinion.

Arguments can happen when people don't agree about something." Arguments can also happen when we don't understand each other.

We might misunderstand what someone else has said or they might misunderstand us.

Laura says, "I had an argument with a friend, because I thought I heard them being unkind about me to someone else.

However, when we talked about it, it turns out that I had misheard what they said and they hadn't been unkind at all." Misunderstandings can happen when someone in any relationship doesn't communicate well.

This could be because someone doesn't make it clear how they feel, what they want or what they mean.

Jacob says, "I had an argument with a friend, because they said that they didn't want to play with me anymore.

I was really upset as I thought that I'd done something wrong.

When we spoke afterwards, they explained that they just needed to stop playing so they could catch their breath." In this scenario, Jacob's friend wasn't clear about what they meant, which meant that Jacob misunderstood what they were saying.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle so far.

I'd like you to decide if this statement is true or false.

Arguments only happen when someone has been unkind to someone else.

What do you think? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that arguments can happen when people in any relationship don't understand each other or when someone doesn't communicate well.

This might mean that they're not clear about what they say, what they mean or what they want.

Arguments can happen when someone's needs haven't been met.

We could be more likely to argue with someone if we're tired, hungry, if we've bottled up our feelings, which means that we've not shared them with anyone or if we're worried or upset about something else.

Alex says, "When I feel hungry or tired, I'm more likely to have an argument with my friends.

I just don't feel like myself." And Aisha says, "Sometimes I have an argument with my friends if I'm upset or worried about something else like my schoolwork or something at home." We can do our best to prevent some arguments from happening by communicating with others about how we feel and what we mean.

And we can also look after ourselves by getting enough sleep and eating well.

This might mean making healthy choices, like making sure that we go to bed early enough to get a good night's sleep and that we're making healthy choices about the foods that we eat.

Let's do another check for understanding.

This time, I'd like you to decide who might be more likely to have an argument.

Izzy says, "I got plenty of sleep last night.

I had breakfast this morning and I had some fruits at break time." But Andeep says, "I didn't get much sleep last night.

I skipped breakfast and I haven't had a snack." Who do you think is more likely to have an argument? Pause the video.

Tell the person next to you, tell me or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that Andeep is more likely to have an argument.

He didn't get much sleep, so he might be tired.

And he's also not had breakfast or had a snack, which means that he could be hungry.

Because Andeep's needs aren't being met, he might be more likely to argue with someone else.

Well done if you said the same thing.

It's time to move on to our first practise task and you've done an amazing job so far.

Well done.

For this task, I'd like you to identify two reasons why Sam might have had an argument with her friends.

Sam says, "I went to bed late last night and woke up early.

I didn't have breakfast, and when I got to school, I had an argument with my friends, because they asked if I was okay.

Even though I knew I wasn't okay, I got upset and I shouted that I was fine and then they shouted back that I wasn't allowed to play with them at break time." Can you spot two reasons why Sam might have had an argument with her friends? Pause the video and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Let's see what you might have said.

You could have said that Sam might have had an argument with her friends because she didn't get enough sleep so she could be tired.

She hasn't eaten so she could have been hungry.

She bottled up her feelings and she also didn't communicate with her friends about how she was really feeling.

Well done if you had this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our second learning cycle.

Well done on your fantastic hard work so far.

This learning cycle is called How Can We Repair a Damaged Relationship? Aisha says, "If we fall out with someone because we've had an argument, does this mean that we can't be friends anymore?" Farah says, "Not at all.

Good friendships are strong enough to withstand difficult times, especially when both people in the friendship want to repair the relationship and they're willing to put in the effort to make this happen." We can repair relationships after arguments if we both try and put in the effort.

Sofia says, "After an argument, everyone needs to put in effort.

When I had an argument with my friend, we both talked to each other about how we felt and we both wanted to make things right again.

This meant that we could repair the friendship." In most cases, arguments happen when both people in the relationship disagree or upset each other in some way.

It's important to say sorry for the role that we played in the argument.

Sam says, "When I shouted at my friends, I felt really bad.

I said sorry to them and explained that I was feeling tired and hungry, but I still shouldn't have shouted at them.

They also said sorry for shouting and saying that I couldn't play with them at break time." In this scenario, both Sam and her friends took responsibility for the role that they played in the argument and they both said sorry.

This is a really good way of repairing a friendship after an argument has happened.

It's important that when we say sorry, we really mean it, and we promise that we will take action to stop it from happening again.

Sam had an argument with her friends, because she was tired and hungry and she was bottling up her feelings.

She wasn't really telling anyone how she actually felt.

Even though she said she was sorry, she also needs to try to take action to prevent an argument from happening again.

To do this, she could try to get plenty of sleep every night.

She could have breakfast every day and she can try to be honest with her friends about how she's feeling, including if she's not feeling herself.

This will help to repair the relationship and it could even make it stronger.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle so far.

Where did the missing words go? I'm going to read a paragraph with some blanks in.

At the bottom of the screen, there's a word bank.

Can you decide which words from the word bank fit in to the paragraph? If we have an blank with friends, it's important to say blank and really blank it.

After doing this, we need to take blank to repair the relationship.

Good friends are blank enough to withstand difficult times.

Our missing words are strong, sorry, action, argument and mean.

Can you decide which words should go in the gaps? Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me or have a think to yourself.

Okay, let's see which words should fit in the gaps.

I'm now going to read you the completed paragraph.

Your completed paragraph should say, "If we have an argument with friends, it's important to say sorry and really mean it.

After doing this, we need to take action to repair the relationship.

Good friendships are strong enough to withstand difficult times." Well done if your paragraph looked like this.

We need to listen and understand to repair relationships.

To be a good listener, we need to focus on what the other person is saying rather than just thinking about how we feel or what we want to say.

We need to think about how the other person is feeling.

And we can ask them what they need from us, which could be either advice or they might just want someone to listen to what they're saying.

It's also important to not interrupt when they speak.

When we listen to someone without interrupting, we're showing respect to them, which is really important.

When an argument happens, people in the relationship will have different feelings and opinions about the argument.

It's important to try to understand how the other person feels and that they try to understand how we feel too.

When we understand how each other feels, it helps us to repair the relationship.

We can understand our friends and how they feel by asking them questions.

We could ask, "What do you think happened?" "How were you feeling when that happened?" And, "What can we do differently next time to make sure that this doesn't happen again?" We can also get help from a trusted adult to repair a relationship.

Farah tells us that, "Trusted adults can help us to repair a relationship by helping us to talk to our friend about the argument.

They can also help us to end a friendship if needed, as not all friendships need to be repaired, especially if they don't make us happy." We're now going to do another check for understanding.

This time, I'd like you to decide which are ways that we can repair a relationship? Can we A, listen to the person and focus on how they feel, B, ignore the person until they say sorry, or C, try to understand the person and ask questions? What do you think? Which are ways that we can repair a relationship? Pause the video, tell the person next to you, tell me or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that A and C are correct.

We can repair a relationship by listening to the person and focusing on how they feel, and we can try to understand the person and ask questions to help us understand how they feel.

We shouldn't ignore the person until they say sorry, because this isn't taking action to repair the relationship.

In most arguments, both people need to take responsibility for the role that they played in the argument, and in most cases, they may need to both say sorry.

Well done if you said the same thing.

It's time to move on to our final practise task and you've done an amazing job so far.

Well done.

For this task, I'd like you to give Lucas two pieces of advice on how he can repair his relationship with Alex.

Lucas says, "I had an argument with Alex, because we were playing a game and he said that I broke the rules.

I don't think I did, and so I shouted that I didn't, but he wouldn't listen.

Someone else agreed that I broke the rules, so I felt embarrassed and ran away from the game." Can you give Lucas two pieces of advice on how he can repair his relationship with Alex? Pause the video and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that Lucas could repair his relationship by saying sorry to Alex, listening to what Alex has to say, trying to understand why Alex said he broke the rules, and asking a trusted adult for help.

Well done if you had any of these.

We're now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that it's typical to have arguments with friends from time to time.

Arguments can happen when we don't understand each other or there is a miscommunication.

Arguments can also happen when someone's needs haven't been met, for example, if they're hungry or tired.

Every person in a relationship needs to put in effort to repair a friendship.

And we need to do our best to listen and understand each other after an argument.

It's also important to say sorry for the role that we played in the argument.

In today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or questions, and it's really important that you share these with a trusted adult.

There's also some resources on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for your fantastic hard work in today's lesson.

I'm really proud of you and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.