Lesson video

Hello, I'm Miss Kumar.

And I'm so pleased that you've chosen to learn with me today.

Today's lesson is called Asking for Help.

And it's taken from our unit Healthy Relationships: How Can I Help My family? I would really like you to do this lesson with a trusted adult.

There might be some parts of the lesson that you find worrying or tricky to understand.

If at any point in the lesson, you do feel worried, please pause the video and speak to your trusted adult.

The outcome for today's lesson is I can explain how to ask for help.

Before we begin any learning, let's remind ourselves of those ground rules.

Laura reminds us to listen to others.

It's really important that we take turns to speak and we don't interrupt each other.

Andeep reminds us to respect privacy.

It's fine for us to share how we think and feel in class, but we shouldn't really talk about each other's thoughts and feelings to lots of people outside of the classroom.

Jacob reminds us no judgment.

We shouldn't make anyone feel silly or laugh at anything somebody else says.

And Izzy reminds us to choose your level of participation.

It's absolutely fine if you don't want to take part in a discussion and you'd prefer to listen instead.

Throughout today's lesson, you might notice that there are some words that are in bold, black font.

That's because these are keywords.

Let's take a quick look at today's keywords and what they mean.

Trusted adult.

A trusted adult is someone we know offline who makes us feel safe and can help us.

And support.

Support is to provide help and encouragement to others.

Today's lesson is split into two parts.

Let's start with Part 1.

Can families do everything alone? Families are very special.

For most children, they are the people in our lives that love and care for us.

The trusted adults in our families have many roles and responsibilities, but they can't do everything alone.

They might need the support of other people sometimes.

There are many times when families might need support.

For example, a parent or carer might need to work late or a family member might need to go to an appointment.

Similarly, someone in the family might be unwell and need extra care.

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

It shows that our trusted adults want to make sure that we are looked after properly.

True or false.

Our grownups can do everything alone.

You can pause to have a quick think and then just press play when you're ready to move on.

The answer is false.

Have a think about why.

Our grownups have many roles and responsibilities, but they can't do everything alone.

They might need the support of other people sometimes.

Alex lives with his parents and sisters.

Sometimes his elderly grandad comes to stay too.

Alex's parents tell us, "As Grandad has got older, we've had to take him to the hospital for more check-ups.

That means that occasionally, we have to ask our friends to collect Alex and his younger sister from school." Alex's parents' friends were happy to help because that's what people in a community do.

They support each other.

Alex's mum and dad have helped their friends at other times too.

Some of Alex's parents' friends include Izzy's parents.

Izzy's parents tell us, "We know Alex's parents from school.

Our children, Izzy and Alex, are in the same class.

We started chatting one day waiting for the kids, and we've been friends ever since.

We're more than happy to help them out whenever they need it, and we know that they are there for us too." Let's take a look at another family.

This is Ana.

Ana lives with her mum, dad, and younger brother.

Ana's mum tells us, "When Ana's baby brother was born, it was hard work looking after a new baby and a young child.

Our neighbors would very kindly take Ana to the park for a few hours and even cook us a dinner sometimes.

As Ana's brother got older, things became easier.

Sometimes, tricky times don't last forever." Let's have a look at one more family.

This is Nyla.

Nyla lives with her dad, her stepmum, and her stepsisters.

Nyla says, "Both my dad and stepmum work long hours, so our grandparents come over to look after us a few days a week.

We love spending time with Granny and Grandad, and our grownups really appreciate their support too.

We even have dinner all together every Saturday." Time for a quick check for understanding.

Who might parents and carers go to for support with their family? A, grandparents, b, neighbors, c, strangers, or d, friends.

You can pause the video to have a think and then just press play when you're ready to move on.

The answers are a, b, and d.

Parents and carers may go to grandparents, neighbors, or friends for support with their family.

Sometimes, families may go through tricky times.

For example, family members might get poorly.

Alex says, "When Grandad was poorly recently, I felt really upset and worried about whether he'd be well enough to come out of hospital." New family members may come along.

Ana tells us, "I love my baby brother, but when he was born, I did feel a bit upset because I didn't get to spend as much time with my mum and dad anymore." Our trusted adults may also have worries of their own.

Nyla says, "A few months ago, my dad lost his job.

Things were hard at home because my dad and stepmum were anxious and we had to try and save money.

Some days, Dad was quieter than usual and seemed a bit sad." Can you give me three examples of tricky times that families may go through? You can pause to have a quick think and then press play when you're ready for the answers.

The answers are family members might get poorly, new family members may come along, and our trusted adults may have worries of their own, such as losing a job.

It's important to remember that most families will go through tricky times and it is not our fault.

Ms. Walsh reminds us, "Even when things are a bit difficult or other people are helping our family, our trusted adults still love us very much and will make sure we have what we need to feel safe and secure.

When families go through tricky times, it's completely natural and normal to have lots of different feelings.

We might feel worried about what might happen, sad or upset about changes in our family, confused about why things are different, angry or frustrated even if we don't know why, or even scared about things that we don't understand.

All of these feelings are okay.

There's no wrong way to feel.

It's especially important to remember that we can feel more than one emotion at the same time.

We might feel excited and nervous or happy and sad.

Our feelings might change from day to day or even hour to hour.

Strong emotions can have physical reactions.

For example, they can make us feel tired, give us tummy aches, or make us want to cry.

And everyone in the family might have different feelings about the same situation.

Our feelings are trying to tell us something important, and it helps to talk about them with a trusted adult.

Let's have a quick check for understanding.

When families go through tricky times, which of these is true? A, we should only feel happy, b, we should hide our feelings so we don't upset anyone, or c, it's natural to have lots of different feelings.

You can pause the video to have a think.

Press play when you're ready to see the answers.

The answer is c, it's natural to have lots of different feelings.

That brings us to the first task for today's lesson, Task A.

Fill in the blanks in the paragraph to explain the importance of families seeking support.

Use the word bank to help you.

The words at the bottom of the page are grandparents, safe, strangers, younger siblings, feelings, secure, trusted adults, and alone.

The paragraph says the following.

The trusted adults in our families can't do everything blank and they might need the support of other people sometimes.

For example, friends, neighbors, or blank.

Even when things are a bit difficult, our trusted adults still love us very much and will make sure that we have what we need to feel blank and blank.

When families go through tricky times, it's completely natural for us to have lots of different blank and we can get support from blank.

You can pause the video to do this task, and when you're ready to see the answers, just press play.

That was a tricky task.

Let's see how you got on.

Your completed paragraph should look like this.

The trusted adults in our families can't do everything alone and they might need the support of other people sometimes.

For example, friends, neighbors, or grandparents.

Even when things are a bit difficult, our trusted adults still love us very much and will make sure that we have what we need to feel safe and secure.

When families go through tricky times, it's completely natural for us to have lots of different feelings and we can get support from trusted adults.

So the two words that didn't fit are strangers and younger siblings.

Well done if you got most or all of that correct.

That brings us to the second part of today's lesson, what should I do if I need help? If we ever feel worried or scared, we can talk to any of our trusted adults.

For example, we can talk to our parents or carers, our grandparents, our friend's parents or carers, or teachers or any other school staff.

Alex says, "When I was worried about Grandad, I spoke to Aisha's mum on the walk home from school.

It helped to make my worry feel a lot smaller." Ana says, "I told our neighbor that I was upset about not spending as much time with my parents.

She reminded me that even though I had a new baby brother, my mum and dad still loved me too." Nyla says, "When my dad lost his job, I felt confused and a bit scared because I didn't really understand what was happening.

Sometimes I felt sad too.

I spoke to my teacher and he told me that all of these feelings made sense.

It's hard when things change at home, even when it's not our fault.

After I spoke to him, I felt much better.

He helped me understand that it's normal to feel worried when grownups are going through difficult times.

Talking about it really helped." Using the images below, can you list the trusted adults that we could talk to when we are worried or scared? You can pause the video to have a think and then press play when you're ready to move on.

Let's take a look at the answers.

You could talk to parents or carers, grandparents, our friend's parent or carer, or teachers or other school staff.

It's important to remember that talking about our feelings doesn't make us weak or babyish.

Sharing our worries with a trusted adult is brave and sensible.

Ms. Walsh reminds us, "Even grown-ups talk to people that they trust when they feel worried." Remember, trusted adults want to help us.

They care about how we feel.

If the first person we talk to is busy, we should try speaking to another trusted adult.

It's important to keep asking until we get the support that we need.

There is always someone who can help.

Let's have a look at the picture together.

The picture shows a young girl saying, "Please, may I speak to you, Sir?" The teacher replies, "I'm busy at the moment." So the right thing to do would be for the young girl to keep asking for help.

And if this trusted adult doesn't respond, she should ask someone else.

True or false.

If the trusted adult I try to ask for support is busy, I should just keep things to myself.

You can pause to have a think and then just press play when you're ready to move on.

The answer is false.

Have a think about why.

You should keep trying to speak to a trusted adult until you get the support that you need.

Sadly, there are some children whose families are struggling to give them what they need to feel safe and secure.

Ms. Walsh says, "If any child is worried about or feels they need more support, they should talk to a trusted adult.

We are here to help you." As well as our trusted adults, there are phone numbers that we can call.

Josephine explains, "We can call Childline on 0800-1111.

This is a team of people who are there to help children all day, everyday.

If you feel scared and are in danger, you can also call the police on 999." Time for our last check for understanding.

As well as our trusted adults, who can we speak to if we don't feel safe and secure? A, a younger brother or sister, b, Childline, or c, the police.

You can pause to have a think and then press play when you're ready to see the answers.

The answers are b and c.

As well as trusted adults, you can speak to Childline or the police if you don't feel safe and secure.

That brings us to the second task for today's lesson, Task B.

With your partner, decide what Toby could do.

Toby says, "My mum's brother is poorly at the moment and she keeps crying.

Last week, she got really cross at me for not tidying my toys and I feel really sad." You can pause the video to have a think with your partner, and when you're ready to see some answers, just press play.

How did you get on? I hope that you were able to come up with some really helpful advice for Toby.

Let's take a look at some answers.

Your discussions might have included the following.

Toby's mum has her own worries, which are not Toby's fault.

If Toby feels worried or scared, he could talk to a trusted adult, like his teacher.

He should keep asking for support until he is heard.

Well done if your answer was along those lines.

That brings us to the end of today's lesson.

Let's take a quick look at the lesson summary before we finish.

Our trusted adults can't do everything alone and they might need the support of other people sometimes, like friends, neighbors, or grandparents.

Most families will go through tricky times and it is not our fault.

It is natural to feel lots of different emotions during these times.

Even when things are difficult, our trusted adults will usually make sure that we have what we need to feel safe and secure.

If we ever feel worried or scared, we can talk to any of our trusted adults.

For example, parents, carers, or teachers.

It is important to keep asking until we get the help that we need.

A very big well done on all your hard work this lesson.

I hope that you now understand how we can ask for help when we need it.

See you again soon.

If you need any further support following today's lesson, you can have a look at the following websites.

Childline.

This is a website and phone line which is able to offer confidential advice and support.

CEOP.

CEOP helps protect children from online abuse and exploitation.