Lesson video

Hello, my name's Ms. Kumar and I'm so pleased that you've chosen to learn with me today.

Today's lesson is called Healthy and Safe Families and it's taken from our unit Healthy Relationships: How can I help my family? Now, I'd really like you to do this lesson with a trusted adult.

There might be some parts of the lesson that you find tricky to understand or maybe a little bit worrying.

If, at any point in the lesson, you do feel worried about anything, please pause the video and speak to your trusted adult.

The outcome for today's lesson is "I can describe the way that a healthy family should treat each other." Before we begin any learning, let's remind ourselves of some important ground rules.

Laura reminds us to "Listen to others." It's really important that we don't interrupt one another and we take turns to speak.

Andeep reminds us to "Respect privacy." If somebody shares their thoughts or feelings in class, we shouldn't really be telling lots of people outside of the classroom.

Jacob reminds us, "No judgment." We shouldn't make anyone feel silly or laugh at them for what they think or believe.

And Izzy reminds us that it's okay for you to "Choose your level of participation." If you don't want to put your hand up and answer a question and you'd prefer to sit and listen, that's absolutely fine.

Throughout today's lesson, you might notice that there are some words in bold black font.

These are keywords.

Let's take a quick look at today's keywords and what they mean.

Safe: Safe is something that won't hurt us.

Secure: Secure is feeling protected and safe from harm.

And worried: Worried is feeling scared or nervous about something that might happen.

Today's lesson is split into two parts.

Let's start with part one: How should a healthy family behave? Our families are the people that we live with and may be related to.

Everyone's family is unique and special.

That means there's no one quite like your family.

Families come in different shapes and sizes.

Some children might live with one parent, some might live with two, some might live with grandparents, foster carers, or other relatives.

What matters most is not what a family looks like, but how the family members treat each other.

Let's take a look at some families together.

This is Aisha's family.

Aisha lives with her mum and her grandmother.

This is Izzy's family.

Izzy lives with her dad, her mum, her younger sister, and a pet rabbit.

This is Daisy's family.

Daisy is adopted and she lives with her sister and her dads.

And this is Nyla's family.

Nyla lives with her father, her stepmum, and her stepsisters.

Time for our first check for understanding.

True or false? Our families are the people that we live with and may be related to.

You can pause to have a think and then press play when you're ready to see the answers.

The answer is true.

Well done if you got that right.

There are lots of different ways in which a family may show that they care for each other.

For example, number one: Helping each other.

A healthy family tries to help one another.

Aisha says, "I help my mum get dinner ready in the evenings." Aisha's mum says, "I help Aisha with her reading and homework." Both Aisha and her mum are helping each other.

Daisy says, "I help my dads by tidying my toys away every day." And Daisy's dads say, "We help each other by taking turns to do the laundry." Nyla says, "I help my family by reading my sisters a bedtime story." And Nyla's dad and stepmum say, "We help each other by taking turns to do the food shop." When family members help each other, it shows respect and care.

Even small acts of helpfulness, like passing someone the remote control or holding the door open can make someone feel valued and appreciated.

In a healthy family, everyone tries to help when they can, even if they're tired or busy.

Time for another check for understanding.

Think of three ways in which you could help your family.

Pause to have a think and then press play when you're ready to see some ideas.

Your answers might include: Help get dinner ready.

Help by tidying toys away.

Help with younger siblings, that could be reading a book or playing a game with a younger brother or sister.

Help lay the table.

Help carry the shopping or put it away.

And help by listening to instructions.

Well done if you got any of these or your own ideas.

Families can also show they care by sharing.

A healthy family shares with one another.

Families might share lots of different things, like their toys or belongings, their time, their thoughts and ideas.

Families can also share their feelings, and that includes not just happy feelings, but sad feelings too.

Families can also share special moments and celebrations together.

Aisha's grandmother says, "I love to share stories with Aisha about when I was a young girl." And Aisha says, "I love it when my grandma shares her stories.

It makes me feel close to her and learn lots." Nyla says, "I share my time with my younger sisters by playing games together.

We also share toys too." Time for another check for understanding.

What's missing from the list of things a healthy family might share with one another? We have their time, their thoughts and ideas, special moments and celebrations.

I'll give you a clue.

There's two more that I'm looking for.

You can press pause to have a quick think and then press play when you're ready to see the answers.

The missing things were toys or belongings and their feelings.

And remember, feelings does include happy feelings, but also sad feelings too.

Well done if you got that correct.

Number three: A family can show that they care for each other through kindness and love.

A healthy family shows love towards one another through kind words and actions.

Aisha says, "I have a big smile on my face when I see my mum or gran at the gates at hometime." And Aisha's grandmother says, "I love to give Aisha a great big hug when I see her at the end of the school day." Daisy's dads say, "We love to celebrate when our children do well at school.

It makes us very proud." And Daisy says, "I tell my dads that I love them every night before I go to sleep." Nyla's parents say, "As a family, we always try to use kind words like 'please' and 'thank you.

' We also make sure that we hold the door open for one another and ask after each other's days.

All of these little things make us feel valued." All of these caring actions can help to create an environment where family members feel safe and secure.

A healthy family should make you feel safe and secure.

Kindness and love can be shown in many ways.

For example, through words like 'I love you' or 'well done,' through actions like hugs and high fives, or through thoughtful gestures like making someone's favorite meal or remembering something important to them.

In a healthy family, people show love regularly, not just on special occasions.

Let's have another check for understanding.

Which of these are examples of how a healthy family might behave? A: not sharing toys with each other.

B: using unkind words with each other or C: using kind words with each other.

You can pause to have a quick think and then press play when you're ready to see the answer.

The answer is C.

Using kind words with each other is an example of how a healthy family might behave.

That brings us to the first task for the lesson: Task A.

Draw a picture of your family.

Around the picture, I'd then like you to write down some of the different ways in which you might show that you care for each other.

You could think about these things: the ways people might help in your family, the things people might share in your family, and how people in your family show kindness and love.

You can pause the video to do this task and when you're ready to see some answers, just press play.

How did you get on? I hope you had lots of fun drawing your families and sharing with one another.

Let's take a look at some possible answers.

Your answers might look like Nyla's.

Nyla says, "I help by reading a bedtime story to my younger sisters.

I share my toys and books with my younger sisters.

My grownups help each other by taking turns to do the food shop.

We all use kind words around the home, like 'please' and 'thank you,' and we give each other a hug and a kiss on the cheek before we leave for school." Or perhaps your answers might look like Daisy's.

Daisy says, "I help by tidying my toys away at the end of the day.

I share my time with my older sister by doing crafts together.

We say we love each other every night before bed.

My dads help each other by taking turns to do the cleaning and laundry, and we all use kind actions around the home, like waiting for our turn to speak and not interrupting." Well done on all your wonderful work.

I hope that you were able to come up with lots of different ways in which you show each other how you care.

That brings us to the second part of today's lesson: How do we get help if we need it? Naturally, all families have their ups and downs.

This means that sometimes things will go very smoothly and everyone gets along well, and other times there might be disagreements or people might be a little bit grumpy.

This is completely normal and it doesn't mean that a family isn't healthy.

Aisha's Mum says, "sometimes I can be a bit grumpy at home, especially when I've had a long day at work." Aisha says, "I know this is unlike my mum, so I give her a cuddle and I ask if I can do anything to help." Daisy's dads say, "Occasionally, Daisy doesn't tidy her toys away, so we have to give her a firm reminder." But Daisy says, "I know my dads are only asking me to tidy up because families should try to help each other." Nyla's parents say, "Nyla and her sisters love each other very much, but, now and then, they fight over toys.

Once they've calmed down, they do say 'sorry' and reach a compromise." Sometimes, our trusted adults may have worries of their own.

Even in the healthiest families, grownups might feel stressed about work, money or other adult problems. They might seem distracted, tired, or less cheerful than usual.

It's important to remember that this is not your fault, and even when a family has its ups and downs, you should always feel safe and secure.

True or false? Families should never have ups and downs.

You can pause to have a think about the answer and then press play when you're ready to move on.

The answer is false.

I wonder if you can tell me why? It is natural for all families to have their ups and downs.

Even when a family has its ups and downs, you should always feel safe and secure.

Some children do not get all their needs met by their family, so they might need extra support from school or from social care.

Social care are carers that have the job of keeping children safe from harm.

This is never the child's fault.

Every child deserves to feel safe, loved, and cared for.

Let's have another check for understanding.

Complete the sentences below with the missing words.

"Some children need extra blank from places like school or social care.

This is blank the child's fault, and every child deserves to feel blank, loved and cared for." You can pause the video to have a quick think, and then when you're ready to see the answers, just press play.

The missing words were "support," "never," and "safe." "Some children need extra support from places like school or social care.

This is never the child's fault and every child deserves to feel safe, loved, and cared for." Well done if you got the answers correct.

A healthy family should not make you feel scared or worried.

If you do feel this way, it's not because you've done something wrong.

If you ever feel scared or worried around any of your family, it is really important to talk to a trusted adult.

For example, you could talk to another family member.

If you don't feel that you can talk to your parent or carer, you could talk to a grandparent or an uncle or aunt.

But if you feel that you can't talk to any family members, you could also try talking to teachers or other members of staff at school.

There are also helplines which children can phone to speak to trusted adults if they are feeling scared or worried.

Childline on 0800 1111 is open all day, every day, and if you feel that you are in danger, you can call the police on 999.

If you ask for help but you don't get it straight away, you must keep asking other trusted adults until you get the support you need.

Have a look at these pictures.

In the picture on the left, a young boy says, "Mum, I need to tell you something," and mum says, "Can it wait? And in the picture on the right, a young girl says, "Please, may I speak to you sir?" And her teacher replies, "I'm busy at the moment." In both of these situations, the children have not been heard straight away, so they should keep asking and perhaps ask a different trusted adult until they get the support that they need.

Time for our last check for understanding.

If you ask for help from a trusted adult, but you don't get it straight away, you must.

A: stop asking and sort out the problem yourself, B: keep asking other trusted adults until you are heard, or C, ignore the problem because it will sort itself out? You can pause the video to have a quick think and then just press play when you're ready to see the answer.

The answer is B.

If you ask for help from a trusted adult, but you don't get it straight away, you must keep asking other trusted adults until you are heard.

That brings us to the second task of today's lesson: Task B.

Look back at the picture that you drew of your family in Task A.

Around your picture, add five people that you could go to if you feel scared or worried around your family.

Pause the video to do the task and then when you're ready to see some possible answers, just press play.

Your answers might look like Nyla's.

Nyla has put that she could speak to Childline, her auntie, her teacher, her midday assistant at school, or her grandpa.

Or your answers might look like Daisy's.

Daisy has put, "My next door neighbor, 999 if I felt in danger, my godmother, the school nurse or the school counselor." I hope that you were able to think of five people that you could turn to if you ever needed to.

Well done for completing that task.

That brings us to the end of today's lesson.

Let's have a quick look at today's lesson summary.

Healthy families show that they care by helping, sharing and showing each other kindness and love.

A healthy family should make you feel safe and secure.

Sometimes our grownups may have worries of their own.

This is not your fault.

Even when a family has its ups and downs, you should always feel safe and secure.

If you ever feel scared or worried around family, it is important to talk to a trusted adult, such as a parent, carer or member of staff at school.

There are also helplines like Childline or the police, which children can phone to speak to trusted adults if they are scared or worried.

Well done for all of your hard work this lesson, I really hope that you have a good understanding now of what makes a healthy and safe family.

See you again soon.

If you need support following today's lessons, you can look at the following websites: Childline, a website and phone line which is able to offer confidential advice and support.

And CEOP.

CEOP helps protect children from online abuse and exploitation.