Lesson video

Hello, my name is Ms. Wroth.

Today, we're going to be looking at the lesson called My Body Belongs to Me.

This fits into the lesson unit Power in Relationships: Who Does My Body Belong to? Now for this lesson, you must have a trusted adult with you before you continue watching.

Have you got them with you? Great, let's get ready to begin.

Today's lesson outcome is: I can describe how other people should treat my body.

Let's begin by taking a look at the ground rules together, and we have some friends here to help us.

Laura says "We should listen to others," and that means we are not going to talk or interrupt when somebody else is speaking.

Andeep says, "We should respect privacy," and that means if somebody decides to share a story, or talks about their own experiences, that we are not going to repeat it to others outside of this lesson.

Jacob says, "No judgement ," and that means if somebody does decide to share a story or talk about their own experiences, we are not going to judge them because of it.

And Izzy says, "Choose your level of participation," and that means you can decide if you simply just want to listen, or if you want to share something throughout the lesson.

All of these ground rules are here to keep everyone safe in the lesson.

Here are today's keywords.

Let's read them together.

We have trusted adult, permission, and respect.

A trusted adult is someone we know offline who makes us feel safe and can help us.

Permission means having approval to do something.

And respect means treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas, and boundaries; for example, listening carefully and being polite, even if you disagree.

Let's see if we can spot these keywords throughout today's lesson.

Here is the lesson's outline, and we are going to begin with "Who does my body belong to?" Your body belongs to you.

Ms. Walsh says, "Your body helps you to do lots of amazing things like play and learn.

You have the right to keep your body safe, and you are the boss of your body." Time for a check for understanding.

Who is the boss of your body? Is it a, you, b, your teacher, or, c, your friend? Hmm, who is the boss of your body? Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done, if you said a, you.

You are the boss of your body.

Our trusted adults are there to help us look after our body.

Ms. Walsh says, "When we're young, we need our parents, carers, or teachers to help us look after our body.

This is not because they are the boss of your body, but because they are trying to keep us safe and well." Aisha says, "My mom helps me look after my body by reminding me to brush my teeth each day." Jacob says, "My teacher helps me look after my body by helping me to stay safe on the climbing frame at playtime." Sofia says, "My childminder helps me look after my body by reminding me to take breaks from playing on screens." We might not always like when our trusted adult asks us to do something.

Aisha says, "Sometimes, I get grumpy when my mom tells me to brush my teeth because I don't like getting ready for bed." And Sofia says, "I don't always like when my childminder tells me to come off screens, because I like to finish the game." However, it is important to remember that your trusted adult is trying to keep you safe and well, and so, it's important to listen to them.

Aisha says, "I have to brush my teeth because it helps to keep them healthy and strong." And Sofia says, "I should take breaks from screens, otherwise I could get a headache and my eyes will feel tired." There might be times when some things make you feel a little uncomfortable.

Ms. Walsh says, "A nurse might have to give you an injection, or a dentist might have to give you a filling.

These things can be uncomfortable, but they are to keep you safe and well.

Medical staff, like doctors and nurses, will usually explain what they are doing, why they are doing it, and ask for your permission first." Time for a check for understanding.

True or false? If your trusted adult is trying to keep you safe and well, it's important to listen.

You can give me a thumbs up if you think it's True, or a thumbs down if you think it's False.

Hmm.

If your trusted adult is trying to keep you safe and well, it's important to listen, True or False? Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said True.

Your body should always be treated with respect.

Ms. Walsh says, "No one, including trusted adults, should ever ask you to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, unless it is to make you feel safe and well." How would you know if your body is feeling uncomfortable or unsafe? Have a little think to yourself.

Ms. Walsh says, "Everyone's body responds to things differently, but if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, it's likely that your heart beats a little bit faster, your hands might get sweaty, your tummy might ache, or you might get a feeling that something isn't right." If anyone hurts you or makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, you must tell a trusted adult.

However, sometimes, our trusted adults are a little bit busy.

For example, this boy says, "Mom, I need to tell you something." And she responds, "Can it wait?" Or, at school, this girl says, "Please, may I speak to you, sir?" And he says, "I'm busy at the moment." In these situations, if we are not heard straight away, we should keep asking for support until somebody does listen and helps us.

Ms. Walsh says, "If you don't feel that you have a trusted adult at home, you can speak to any member of staff at school.

You could also call Childline or the emergency services on 999 if you are worried about your immediate safety." Okay, time for a check for understanding.

Complete the sentence using the words below.

"If anyone.

Us, or makes us feel.

Or unsafe, we must tell a.

." So some of the words that you might use in this sentence are trusted adult, comfortable, uncomfortable, and hurts.

So complete the sentence using the words below.

Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Okay, well done for having a go.

The completed sentence should look like this.

"If anyone hurts us, or makes us feel uncomfortable or unsafe, we must tell a trusted adult." The word comfortable does not come up in this sentence.

Time for a task now.

Working with a partner, finish each of Ms. Walsh's sentences.

Her sentences say, "You have the right to keep your.

Your body should always be treated with.

No one should ever ask you to do anything that makes you.

And if anyone hurts us or makes us feel uncomfortable or unsafe, we.

." So your job with a partner is to finish each of Ms. Walsh's sentences.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Okay, well done for having a go.

Your answers might look like this.

"You have the right to keep your body safe.

Your body should always be treated with respect.

No one should ever ask you to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

And, if anyone hurts us, or makes us feel uncomfortable or unsafe, we must tell a trusted adult." Well done if your answers are similar to mine.

We are now going to move on to the second and the final part of our lesson; "How should people treat my body?" Your body is yours alone.

Ms. Walsh says, "This means that no one is allowed to touch your body unless they ask for your permission and you give it to them." We all have different personal boundaries.

Ms. Walsh says, "Boundaries are imaginary lines separating what we will allow and what we won't allow.

We all have different personal boundaries, but everyone must still ask for permission before touching.

Everyone should respect our personal boundaries, even the people we know well like family and friends." Laura asks Aisha, "Can we hold hands as we walk to assembly?" The words "Can we" shows Laura asking for permission.

Aisha responds saying, "No, thank you.

I'd rather not." And the words "No, thank you," shows that Aisha is not giving permission.

Aisha's boundary is that she doesn't feel comfortable holding hands with anyone except her mom.

Laura says, "That's fine.

I don't want to make you feel uncomfortable." And the words "That's fine" shows Laura is giving respect to Aisha.

And Aisha says, "I'm happy to link arms instead." The words "I'm happy" shows that she feels respected and comfortable.

Even though Laura's boundaries are different to Aisha's, she respects Aisha's body by listening when she says "No" and not forcing her to hold hands, so that Aisha feels safe.

Sometimes you might give permission to something, but then change your mind, and that's okay.

Aisha says, "Actually, I don't want to link arms either." The word "Actually" means that she's changed her mind about her boundaries.

Laura says, "No worries.

Why don't we just walk side by side?" And the word "No worries" shows respect.

Okay, time for a check for understanding.

Is this person showing respect to their friend? The person says, "Can I have a hug?" And their friend responds, "No, I don't like hugs." And the person says, "Well, I like hugs, so I'm going to hug you anyway." So is this person showing respect to their friend? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Okay, well done if you said that this person isn't showing respect to their friend.

Although they've asked for permission, they're not listening to the word "No," and are forcing their friend to do something they don't want to do.

There are some parts of our body that are private.

Ms. Walsh says, "The parts of your body that are covered by your underwear are private.

That means they belong just to you, and no one should ask to look at or touch those parts.

If anyone does, you should tell a trusted adult straight away." Sometimes, a trusted adult at home, doctor, or nurse might have to look at your private parts.

Ms. Walsh says, "If this is the case, the trusted adult, doctor, or nurse should explain why and ask for yours or your trusted adult's permission." Okay, time for a check for understanding.

"Our private parts are the parts of our body covered by.

." Is it a, a hat, b, underwear, or, c, shoes? Hmm.

"Our private parts are the parts of our body covered by.

." Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Okay, well done if you said, b, underwear.

Our private parts are the parts of our body covered by underwear.

If anyone touches our body without permission, we should tell a trusted adult at home or school.

Ms. Walsh says, "It is never your fault if this happens, and it's really important that you get the help that you need to deal with tricky feelings you might face." There might be times when we have to keep asking for help until someone listens.

Jacob says, "Someone on the playground was touching my hair without my permission, and it made me uncomfortable.

I told a trusted adult on the playground, but it kept happening, so I told my teacher.

They were able to explain to the other child that it wasn't showing respect for my body, and then it stopped." Okay, time for a check for understanding.

What should Alex do in this situation? Alex says, "A boy in my year keeps tickling me without my permission when I line up in the dinner hall.

It makes me feel really uncomfortable, so I told the midday assistant, but nothing changes and he keeps doing it." So what should Alex do in this situation? Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Okay, well done if you said something similar to this, "Alex's body should be treated with respect, so he must keep asking trusted adults for help until someone does listen.

Alex should talk to a different midday assistant or his class teacher." Okay, time for a task now.

Working with a partner, change one word in each sentence to make it correct.

Here are the sentences, let's read them together.

The first one says, "Your body isn't yours alone." Number two says, "Everyone should respect our personal boundaries, except the people we know well, like family and friends." The third one says, "There are no parts of our body that are private." Number four says, "If anyone touches our body without permission, we shouldn't tell a trusted adult at home or school." And the fifth one says, "There might be times when we have to stop asking for help." So your job is to change one word in each sentence to make it correct.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Okay, well done for having a go.

Your answers should look like this.

Number one, "Your body is yours alone." Number two, "Everyone should respect our personal boundaries, even the people we know well, like family and friends." Number three says, "There are some parts of our body that are private." "If anyone touches our body without permission, we should tell a trusted adult at home or school." And number five says, "There might be times when we have to keep asking for help." Well done if you've got those correct.

This brings us to the end of our lesson, and I've had a wonderful time with you today.

Here is a summary of everything that we've covered in today's lesson.

Your body belongs to you and should always be treated with respect.

No one, including trusted adults, should ever ask you to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

Everyone should respect our personal boundaries, even the people we know well, like family and friends.

We must get permission before touching anyone's body.

We can change our minds about giving our permission at any point.

If anyone touches our body without permission, we should tell a trusted adult at home or school.

There might be times when we have to keep asking for help until someone listens.

Here is a slide with different places that you can get support.

We have the Childline, which is a website and phone line which is able to offer confidential advice and support.

And we have the CEOP, where the CEOP helps protect children from online abuse and exploitation.