Lesson video

Hello.

My name is Ms. Rose.

Today, we're going to be looking at the lesson called Our Emotions Toolkit: Self-Esteem.

This fits into the lesson unit, Emotions: How Can We Add to Our Emotions Toolkit? So let's get ready to begin.

Today's lesson outcome is, I can explain what self-esteem is and what affects it.

Let's begin by taking a look at our ground rules together.

Laura says, "We should listen to others." And that means we are not going to interrupt when somebody else is speaking.

Andeep says, "We should respect privacy." And that means if somebody decides to share a story or their own experience, that we are not going to repeat it to others outside of this lesson.

Jacob says, "No judgments." And that means if somebody does decide to share their own story or experience, that we are not going to make comments or judge them because of it.

And Izzy says, "Choose your level of participation." That means you can decide if you simply just want to listen or if you want to share something throughout.

All of these ground rules are here to keep everyone safe throughout today's lesson.

Here are some of today's keywords.

We have confidence, self-esteem, and positive.

Confidence means believing in yourself and your abilities, and feeling sure you can do things, even when they're hard.

Self-esteem means feeling good about yourself and knowing that you are a good person who deserves to be treated well.

And positive means good, encouraging thoughts or comments.

Here are the rest of today's keywords, and we have negative and failure.

Negative means bad, unkind thoughts or comments.

And failure means when something doesn't work out how you wanted, or when we don't achieve something we wanted to do.

Let's see if we can keep an eye out for some of these keywords throughout today's lesson.

Here's the lesson's outline, and we are going to begin with, is everyone good at everything? We all have different strengths, this means not everyone will be good at the same things.

Izzy says, "I'm really good at writing and PE.

However, I find maths and science more tricky." Alex says, "I'm different.

I'm really good at maths and science, but I find writing and PE more challenging." Time for a check for understanding.

True or false, everyone is good at everything.

You can give me a thumbs up if you think it's true or a thumbs down if you think it's false.

Everyone is good at everything, true or false? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "False." This statement is false because we all have different strengths, not everyone will be good at the same things.

Confidence is when we feel it is possible that we can do something.

Some people will feel more confident in certain things compared to others.

Josiah says, "I feel confident making new friends, unlike my brother, who was less confident and more shy." Time for a check for understanding.

Fill in the missing words in this sentence.

Some people will feel more, in certain things compared to? What could those missing words be? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "Confident and others." Some people will feel more confident in certain things compared to others.

Our confidence can change depending on the situation.

We might not feel confident all the time, and that's okay.

Amara says, "I feel confident at my jujutsu club 'cause I've been going there for a long time, but I am less confident when speaking in front of a big crowd, like in the school assembly." Additionally, we might not always be the best at certain things, but we can still feel confident when having a go.

Izzy says, "I feel confident in my swimming club.

I'm not the fastest, but I know that I have improved a lot." And Alex says, "I feel confident in maths lessons.

I don't always get the answer right, but I always put my hand up and try my best." Time for a check for understanding.

True or false, we might not feel confident all the time, and that is okay.

Give me a thumbs up if you think it's true or a thumbs down if you think it's false.

We might not feel confident all the time, and that's okay, true or false? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "True." Time for a task now.

We're going to read the statements together, and then you need to tick the statements that are true.

Not everyone is good at the same things.

Everyone is good at the same things.

We all have the same strengths.

We all have different strengths.

People will feel confident about different things, and people will feel confident about the same things.

So your task is to tick the statements that are true.

Pause this video, so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

So the first statement says, "Not everyone is good at the same things." And you should have ticked this statement because it is true.

Not everyone is good at the same things, and that's okay.

The next statement says, "Everyone is good at the same things." This statement is false.

The third statement says, "We all have the same strengths." This statement is also false.

The fourth statement says, "We have different strengths." And this statement is true, so you should have ticked it.

The fifth statement says, "People will feel confident about different things." And this statement is also true, so you should have ticked it.

And the last statement says, "People will feel confident about the same things." This statement is false, so you shouldn't have ticked it.

Well done if you've got those answers correct.

We are now going to move on to the second part of our lesson, what is self-esteem? We can understand how good we feel in ourselves by reflecting on our self-esteem.

Self-esteem means how confident we feel about ourselves in general, including at school, with our family, or when trying new things.

Our self-esteem can be low if we feel unconfident most of the time or high if we feel confident most of the time.

Our self-esteem can also change or grow over time.

Izzy says, "When I reflect on my self-esteem, I would say, in general, I'm quite a confident person.

I like trying new things, and I'm happy to challenge myself." Lucas says, "I'm different to Izzy.

My self-esteem can be low at times.

I don't like getting things wrong, and I find it hard to be resilient." Time for a check for understanding.

True or false, self-esteem and confidence means the same thing.

Give me a thumbs up if you think it's true or a thumbs down if you think it's false.

Self-esteem and confidence mean the same thing, true or false? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "False." This statement is false because self-esteem is an overall feeling about yourself.

Confidence can be different in different situations.

Self-esteem is built up by positive thoughts and by being successful.

If we remind ourselves of what we can do or what makes us special, it helps us feel more confident and happier inside.

Izzy says, "Lucas, you are great at lots of things.

Let's think about the ways you are special." Lucas says, "Well, I'm good at basketball and handwriting.

My friends also tell me that I make them laugh.

So I guess I am good at lots of things." Time for a check for understanding.

How can we build our self-esteem? Is it A, by reminding ourselves of what we can do, B, by thinking about the things we can't do, or C, by reminding ourselves of what makes us special? How can we build our self-esteem? Pause this video, so you can have some thinking time.

Okay, well done if you said, "A and C." We can build our self-esteem by reminding ourselves of what we can do and by reminding ourselves of what makes us special.

On the other hand, self-esteem can be broken down by negative thoughts and failure.

Sometimes we might think we are not good enough, especially after a mistake, but one bad moment doesn't mean that we are not able to try again.

Everyone makes mistakes or struggles sometimes.

Instead of thinking negatively, we can see failure as a chance to try again and build our self-esteem.

For example, if we come across a challenge, we might think to ourselves, "Hmm, this seems hard." And we might even fail or make a mistake.

But we can think of a different way to try and overcome this challenge.

By the end, we can think to ourselves, "I've done it.

Now, I've learned something new." Self-esteem can also be broken down when someone makes unkind or negative comments about us.

This is why it is so important that we use kind and respectful language, and consider how the other person might feel before we say something about them.

Time for a check for understanding.

How can our self-esteem get broken down? Is it A, by receiving kind and positive comments, B, by receiving unkind or negative comments, or C, by thinking negatively after a failure? How can our self-esteem get broken down? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "B and C." Our self-esteem can get broken down by receiving unkind or negative comments, and by thinking negatively after a failure.

Time for a task now.

Read each scenario, then decide who has low self-esteem and who has high self-esteem.

So Ava says, "I feel unconfident in myself, and I avoid trying new things.

I struggle to be resilient when I make a mistake." And Leo says, "I love challenging myself and trying new things.

If I fail, I take some deep breaths, and I try again." So your task is to decide who has low self-esteem and who has high self-esteem.

Pause this video, so you can do the first part of the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Okay, well done for having a go.

So your answers should include, "Ava seems to have low self-esteem, and Leo seems to have high self-esteem." For the second part of the task, I would like you to write one or two sentences to explain how Ava could build her self-esteem.

Pause this video, so you can have some time to do the second part of the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Okay, well done for having a go.

Your answer could include, "Ava can build her self-esteem by thinking about the things that she can do and the ways that she is special.

It's important that she sees failure as a chance to try again and build her self-esteem." Well done if your answers were similar to mine.

We are now going to move on to the third and the final part of our lesson, how can we feel good about ourselves? There are different things we can do to help us feel good about ourselves.

First, we should say positive things about ourselves.

For example, we might say, "I am kind and considerate." "I'm really good at.

." "I'm hardworking." "And my teacher says I'm great at.

." We should also celebrate our successes, no matter how small they are.

We can do this by noticing and feeling proud of the things we do well each day, such as being kind and helping others, or trying our best.

Can you think of something you have done well today? Have a little think to yourself.

Time for a check for understanding.

How can we celebrate our successes? Is it A, by the things we haven't done well, B, by noticing the things we have done well, or C, by feeling proud of the things we have done well? How can we celebrate our successes? Pause this video, so you can think about your answer.

Okay, well done if you said, "B and C." We can celebrate our successes by noticing and feeling proud of the things that we have done well.

We should also surround ourselves with people who support us and help us build our self-esteem.

Izzy says, "I always speak to my teacher if I find something tricky.

She helps me to overcome challenges." And Alex says, "I choose to spend time with friends who speak positively about me.

As a friendship group, we make sure to celebrate each other's successes." If you are struggling with your confidence or self-esteem, it's important to talk to a trusted adult who can help you.

We can get support from parents and carers and teachers and school staff.

Time for a check for understanding.

Fill in the missing words in this sentence.

We should surround ourselves with people who, us and help us, our self-esteem.

What could those missing words be? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "Support and build." We should surround ourselves with people who support us and help us build our self-esteem.

Time for a task now.

Create a mind map of the different things we can do to feel good about ourselves.

Pause this video, so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

Your mind map could look like this.

How can we feel good about ourselves? We should say positive things about ourselves.

We should celebrate our successes.

We should surround ourselves with people who support us and help us to build our self-esteem.

And we can get support from our trusted adults.

Well done if your mind map looks similar to mine.

This brings us to the end of our lesson.

And here is a summary of everything that we've covered today, we all have different strengths.

Not everyone will be good at the same things.

People feel confident about different things.

And we might not feel confident all the time, and that's okay.

Our self-esteem refers to how confident we feel in general.

We can build our self-esteem by reminding ourselves of what we can do and thinking about the things that make us special.

If we have low self-esteem, we can seek support from a trusted adult and surround ourselves with people who support us and help us to build our self-esteem.

Here's a slide with different places that you can get support.

We have the NHS website, where the NHS provides advice about health and prevention, including how to access services.

And we have the Childline, which is a website and phone line which is able to offer confidential advice and support.