Lesson video

Hello, my name is Miss.

Rose.

Today we're going to be looking at the lesson called "Helping Each Other to Feel Supported".

This fits into the lesson unit, healthy relationships, do all families look the same? Now in this lesson, it's recommended that you have an adult with you present before you continue watching.

This is because some of the things that we are going to be talking about might make you feel worried or upset.

For example, we are going to be talking about the different struggles that we might face and the different types of support that we might need to overcome these challenges.

Today's lesson outcome is I can describe different types of support and explain how to help other people who are struggling.

Let's begin by taking a look at our ground rules together.

Laura says "We should listen to others", and that means not interrupting when somebody else is speaking.

Andeep says "We should respect privacy." And that means if somebody decides to share a story or their own experience, that we don't go and repeat it to others outside of this lesson.

Jacob says, "No judgement ." And that means if somebody does decide to share a story or their own experience, that we don't judge them because of it.

And Izzy says, "Choose your level of participation", and that means you can decide if you simply just want to listen or if you want to share something throughout the lesson.

All of these ground rules are here to keep everyone safe in today's lesson.

Here are today's key words.

We have challenge, support and struggling.

In this context, challenge means a problem that is difficult to solve or overcome.

Support means to provide help and encouragement to others.

And struggling means when someone is finding it hard to overcome a problem or situation.

Let's see if we can spot any of these keywords throughout today's lesson.

Here is the lesson's outline, and we're going to begin with, what help do people need when they are struggling? Everyone faces challenges throughout their lives.

Laura says, "Can you think of any challenges someone might face?" Have a little think to yourself.

Some challenges that you might have thought of can include friendship troubles.

For example, feeling left out or lonely, moving to a new place or school, parents or carers breaking up.

Experiencing the death of someone you care about.

A parent or carer losing their job or a family member becoming seriously ill.

Different things will help different people get through tough times as we all have different ways of coping when we are struggling.

Izzy says, "When I face challenges, speaking to my trusted adult helps me to manage my feelings.

They give me good advice." Jacob says, "During tough times, I like to write about my feelings and spend time doing things I enjoy.

Writing things down helps me to process how I'm feeling." Time for a check for understanding, true or false? Everyone needs the same things during tough times.

Is that statement true or false? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said false.

Now I want you to have a little think about why this statement is false.

Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

This statement is false because different things will help different people to get through tough times.

This is because we are all unique and have different ways of coping when we are struggling.

There are different types of support that people need when they are struggling.

Some people need someone to talk to.

They might seek support from a trusted adult or find it helpful to talk to a friend about how they're feeling.

Other people need time and a quiet space to feel calm.

Lucas says, "When I feel overwhelmed, I need time to be on my own.

If too many people try and speak to me, I can get frustrated." For some people, a small act of kindness can help them get through a challenging time.

It could be a smile from a friend or being included in a game at lunchtime.

Time for a check for understanding, fill in the missing words in this sentence.

Someone might need support from a, or find it helpful to, to a friend about how they're feeling.

What are the missing words in this sentence? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said trusted adult and talk, someone might need support from a trusted adult or find it helpful to talk to a friend about how they're feeling.

Well done if you got those answers correct.

Time for a task now.

Create a mind map with different types of support people might need when they are struggling.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go, your mind map could look like this.

Support from a trusted adult, a friend to talk to.

Write down thoughts and feelings, a small act of kindness, time and a quiet space to calm down and do things you enjoy.

Well done if your answers are similar to mine.

Time for the second part of the task.

Which types of support can help the Oak National Academy pupils if they were struggling? Laura says, "I really like writing in my diary." Aisha says, "My friends are so good at making me laugh." Sam says, "I always feel happier after playing netball." and Alex says, "My dad is really good at making me feel better if I'm sad." Which types of supports could help these pupils? Pause the video so you can have some time to do the task and then we will go through the answers together.

Okay, so Laura could write herself and feelings down to help process her emotions because she really likes writing in her diary, Aisha could talk to her friends that make her laugh so they could cheer her up.

Sam could do things she enjoys to help cheer her up, like playing netball, and Alex could talk to his trusted adult like his dad for help and advice.

Well done if your answers were similar to mine.

We're now going to move on to the second and the final part of our lesson.

How can I support someone who is struggling? There are different things we can do to support a friend or sibling who is struggling.

We should be kind.

This could mean listening to their feelings, or it could mean giving time and space to someone who prefers to be on their own.

There are different things we can say to someone who is struggling.

For example, we could ask them, how are you feeling today? Would you like help with anything? Would you like to join now again, we could compliment them about something that they're really good at.

Time for a check for understanding.

How can we help a friend or sibling who is struggling? Is it A, by ignoring them and saying unkind things, B, by listening to their feelings, or C, by giving them time and space if they prefer being alone.

How can we help a friend or sibling who is struggling? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said B and C, we can help a friend or sibling who is struggling by listening to their feelings and giving them time and space if they prefer being alone.

If someone is really struggling, you must tell a trusted adult.

For example, Aisha's trusted adults are her mom and grandmother.

A trusted adult will be able to support you, your friend or sibling in the best way possible.

It is not your job to solve big problems for other people.

For example, if an adult in your family is struggling, you should tell a trusted adult at school.

Time for a check for understanding, true or false? Children should solve big problems for adults at home.

Is this statement true or false? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said false.

Now I'd like you to have a little think about why this statement is false.

Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

This statement is false because it is not the child's job to solve big problems for their adults at home.

If an adult is struggling, we should tell a trusted adult at school.

Time for a task now, read each scenario and decide how you would support them.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

The first statement says, Lila feels lonely and worried because her best friend has been off sick from school for a while.

Your answer could include, I would ask Lila how she is feeling and see whether she would like to join our games at lunchtimes.

I would also tell a trusted adult that Lila feels worried about her friend.

The second statement says, Omar's aunt died recently and he's now very quiet in class.

Your answer could include, I would speak to a trusted adult at school as this is a big challenge for Omar.

I would also try to be a kind friend by asking him if he would like to talk about his feelings, and the third statement says, Charlie's parents have just broken up.

He seems to be getting angry more easily on the playground.

Your answer could include, I would speak to a trusted adult at school as this is a big challenge for Charlie.

I would give him time and space for him to calm down when he is feeling angry.

Well done if your answers were similar to mine.

For the second part of the task, I would like you to explain two things that you would do if your friend told you a trusted adult at home was struggling and why.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

Your answer could include, I would tell my friend to speak to a trusted adult at school because it is not a child's responsibility to solve big problems for their adult at home.

I could also support them by asking how they are feeling after they spoke to the trusted adult at school, as this would show I care about them.

Well done if your answer was similar to mine.

This brings us to the end of our lesson, and I've had a wonderful time with you today.

Thank you for joining me.

Here is a summary of everything that we've covered in today's lesson.

Everyone faces challenges throughout their life.

Different people will need different types of support to get through tough times.

For example, some people will want to talk about their feelings and others will need time and space to feel calm.

We can help people by being a kind friend and telling a trusted adult if they are really struggling.

This is not the child's job to fix big problems for other people, including adults.

If an adult at home is struggling, we should tell a trusted adult at school.

Here is a slide with a place that you can get support.

We have the Childline, which is a website and phone line, which is able to offer confidential advice and support.