Hello, my name is Miss Lowe, and I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called Healthy Friendships and it fits into the Unit: Power in relationships.

What does a healthy relationship feel like? During this lesson, we're going to be talking a little bit about peer pressure and bullying, so for this lesson, we recommend that you have an adult with you.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start on today's lesson.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to describe how to create healthy friendships.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.

First of all, we have Laura.

Laura says that we need to listen to others.

This means that we're not going to interrupt someone else if they're speaking.

Andeep says respect each other's privacy.

This means we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Jacob says, "No judgement ." This means that if someone chooses to share a story, experience, or feeling, we are not going to judge them for it.

And finally, Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

This means it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We are now going to go through the keywords for today's lesson.

These are really important because they're gonna come up quite a few times in today's lesson, so it's really important that we know what each of these words mean.

First of all, we have the word healthy.

When something is healthy, it means that it's good for us, our minds and bodies.

Equal, in this context, this means that everyone's being treated fairly.

And finally, our last keyword is respect.

This means treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas and boundaries.

For example, listening carefully and being polite even if you disagree.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords and when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called How should a healthy friendship feel? And our second learning cycle is called, how do we find the right balance in a friendship? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle.

How should a healthy friendship feel? Having good friends is really important.

With our friends, we can do things together and we can talk about how we feel.

Why are your friends important to you? Maybe you want to have a think to yourself or share your ideas with the people around you.

Sometimes we might have things in common with our friends.

We might enjoy the same things, go to the same school or club.

We might have the same sense of humour.

This means that we find the same things funny and we might live in the same area.

No matter who our friends are or why we're friends with them, there are some qualities that should always be the same.

All of our friendships should be healthy.

A healthy friendship makes us feel safe and happy.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing so far.

I'd like you to finish this sentence.

A healthy friendship makes us feel, A, safe.

B, sad.

Or C, happy.

Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that A and C are correct.

A healthy friendship makes us feel safe and happy.

Well done if you said the same thing.

Healthy friendships feel safe.

This means that we never feel like our friend is going to physically hurt us.

This means to hurt our body.

And we should never feel like our friend is hurting our feelings on purpose.

This means that they do it deliberately because they want to.

They also means that we can say if something in the friendship is bothering us.

Maybe we're worried about something or we have a problem.

If the friendship is healthy, we feel like we can share this thought with the other person.

Healthy friendships feel equal.

When everyone feels equal, they feel like their opinion is important and they get to make decisions with their friend.

Jacob says, "I know my friendship with Alex is healthy because he listens to my opinions and we take it in turns to play the games that we want to play.

When we make decisions, we do it together and try to make everyone happy." Well done, Jacob.

This is a great example of what a good healthy friendship looks like.

Healthy friendships feel respectful.

Friend should always treat each other with respect even if they don't always agree.

Sofia says, "I know that my friendship with Izzy is healthy because even when we disagree, she's kind to me and understands that we have different opinions.

She respects our differences and even if we argue she's never unkind." Well done, Sofia.

This is another great example of a healthy friendship because Izzy shows respect to Sofia even when they disagree.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

Is Aisha showing respect to Andeep? Andeep says, "I don't want to play that game." Aisha says, "That stupid, it's the best game ever.

We're playing this game or we're not playing together at all." Can you decide with the people around you or by thinking to yourself, is Aisha showing respect to Andeep? Pause the video and have a think or talk to the people around you.

Well done if you said that no.

Aisha is not showing respect to Andeep, but can you decide why? Talk to the people around you or have another think to yourself.

You might have said something like, "Aisha is not showing respect because she's being unkind to Andeep because he has a different opinion." Well done if you remembered that in a healthy friendship, friends show respect to each other even if they disagree.

We are now moving on to our practise task and you're going to put all of your learning from this learning cycle so far into practise.

For the first part of this task, I'd like you to rewrite Aisha's response to Andeep so that she's now showing respect.

You can explain to your partner why you have made this change and why you are idea shows respect.

So now we have Andeep saying, "I don't want to play that game." What's Aisha going to say in response so that she's showing respect? Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Fantastic.

Let's have a look and see what you might have said.

You might have said that Aisha could say something like, "That's okay, Andeep! Maybe we can play that game tomorrow? What game would you like to play instead?" This answer shows Aisha accepting that Andeep wants to play a different game to her.

She shows respect by saying that this is okay and offering to play a different game that Andeep wants to play.

Alternatively, you also could have said something like, "That's okay Andeep, but I really want to play this game, so why don't we play with different people today?" This answer shows Aisha accepting that Andeep wants to play a different game and that she's showing respect by suggesting that they play with different people so that they can both be happy.

Well done if you had either of these answers or if you had something similar.

For the second part of this practise task, I'd like you to have a look at Sam's scenario.

Sam has just made a new friend.

What are two signs that you can think of that show that the friendship is healthy? Pause the video and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that if the friendship is healthy, Sam should feel safe that she's treated with respect, that her opinion is important, that decisions are made together with her friend, and to make both people happy.

Well done if you had any of these ideas or if you had something similar.

Well done for your fantastic hard work on the first learning cycle.

It's now time to move on to our second learning cycle.

How do we find the right balance in a friendship? What do you think about what Laura says? Laura says, "Being selfless it's always a good thing.

We should always put other people's wants and needs before our own." What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that Laura is incorrect.

Although it is really good to consider others and to be generous, we also need to make sure that we look after ourselves.

We need to strike a balance between our needs and those of others.

It's good to be kind and we also need to stick up for ourselves from time to time.

Our needs and wants are equally important to what our friends need and want.

Sometimes it might be the right choice to put our friends' needs before our own.

Let's have a look and see what Lucas has to say.

Lucas says, "I know that one of my friends doesn't like loud noises, so if I want to play with them, then I know that I need to respect their needs by not playing too loudly.

If I want to play loudly, I know that I'll need to play with someone else." This is a really good example of when it is right to put our friends' needs before our own to show respect.

Well done, Lucas.

But other times we may need to put our needs first and this is okay.

Aisha says, "Sometimes I want to play a different game to my friend.

If we played what they suggested yesterday, I'll say that it's only fair if we play what I suggest today or that we find something that we both want to do." This is a really good example of when we might need to stick up for ourselves.

In this scenario, Aisha played what her friend wanted to play yesterday, so it's only fair that she gets to decide what they play today or that they play something that they both want to play.

Aisha also says, "I also don't like hugs from friends, so to respect my own boundaries, if my friends want a hug, I tell them that I don't like hugs, but that they can hug someone else that does like hugs from friends.

I offered to high five them instead, this helps my friends to get what they want whilst also respecting my own needs." Well done, Aisha.

It's really good to respect our own boundaries so that we feel safe and comfortable.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle so far.

For this task, I'd like you to decide if this sentence is true or false.

We should always put our friends' needs before our own.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said something like, "Our needs and wants are of equal importance to our friends.

It's good to be kind and generous, but we need to get a balance so that we look after ourselves and our needs too." Well done if you said something like this.

We can stick up for ourselves by firmly stating what we feel and what we need.

For example, we could say, if someone says to us, "I want to do this." We could say, "I don't.

I want to do something else." If someone says, "I want to play at break time." And we don't want to, we can say, "I need some time alone, thanks." We can stick up for ourselves while also showing kindness and respect to the other people.

Ms. Walsh tells us that we can do this by calmly stating what we need and offering alternatives.

This means different ideas.

For example, if you and your friend want to play different games, you could agree to play one game today and another tomorrow.

Ms. Walsh says that, "Good friends will respect when our needs and wants are different to theirs and will work with us to find a solution that makes everyone happy.

Not getting what we want can be hard, but even if they're upset, they should still show respect." This is part of a healthy friendship.

Let's do a check for understanding.

This time, I'd like you to fill in the blanks in these sentences.

We can stick up for ourselves with kindness and blank.

We can do this by calmly stating what we need and offering blank.

Good friends will respect when our needs and wants are blank to theirs.

Where I've said the word blank, can you decide which word is missing? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said the missing words were respect, alternatives and different.

Our sentences should now say, We can stick up for ourselves with kindness and respect.

We can do this by calmly stating what we need and offering alternatives.

Good friends will respect when our needs and wants are different to theirs.

Well done if you said that these words fit into the sentences.

Friendships can be unhealthy when one person has more power than the other.

This might be because one person does not respect the people that they're friends with and this means that the friendship is unequal.

Izzy says, "I had friends that never listened to me or my ideas.

I always had to do what they said and I didn't feel like what I wanted mattered.

This made me feel really sad.

It was not a healthy friendship." A friendship that isn't equal or healthy might involve, arguments lots of the time , not feeling listened to, our needs and wants not being treated with respect, being pressured to do things that we don't want to do, being expected to do whatever the other person wants all the time, and the other person getting upset when they don't get what they want and not being open to doing something different.

If we think that our friendship is not healthy or equal, we can get help.

Farah tells us that, "Trusted adults can help us to talk to our friend about how they make us feel or they can help us to end the friendship if that's what we want and is most appropriate.

Everyone deserves friends that make them feel safe, happy, and important and respected to." Let's do another check for understanding.

What are three signs that a friendship isn't equal or healthy? Can you remember? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

Okay, you might have said that some signs that a friendship isn't equal or healthy are lots of arguments, someone not feeling listened to, someone's need and wants not being treated with respect, someone being pressured into doing things that they don't want to do, someone being expected to do whatever the other person wants all the time, and someone getting upset when they don't get what they want and not being open to doing something different.

Well done if you had any of these answers or if you had something similar.

It is time to move on to our second practise task.

Well done for your hard work so far, you've done a brilliant job.

For this task, I'd like you to answer the question, "What are two things that Jacob should remember to help him find the right balance in his friendship?" Jacob says, "My friend said that good friends do what their friend wants to do even if they want to do something different.

We always do what they want to do and they get upset If I suggest doing something different." Can you think of two things that Jacob should remember to help him find the right balance in this friendship? Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that Jacob could remember that in a healthy and equal relationship, everyone's needs and wants are valued equally.

Even though it's good to be kind and generous, we need to stick up for ourselves too.

A good friend is someone who's open to different ideas that make everyone happy, and he can also remember that he can get help from a trusted adult if he needs support to talk to his friend about how he feels or to end the friendship.

Well done if you had any of these ideas or if you had something similar.

We are now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that healthy friendships should always feel safe and they should make us happy too.

Healthy friendships are equal and everyone respects each other.

In friendships, it's important that we balance our needs and the needs of others.

We can be kind and respectful to others while still sticking up for ourselves and friendships can be unhealthy when one person has more power than the other.

We can get help from a trusted adult if we think our friendship is not healthy or equal.

In today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or some questions.

If you do, it's really important that you share these with a trusted adult.

There's also some resources on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for your fantastic hard work today.

I'm really proud of you and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.