Hello.

My name is Miss Willow.

And I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called Pressure from Adults, and it fits into the unit, Power in Relationships: What Does a Healthy Relationship Feel Like? During this lesson, we're going to be talking about some sensitive content, peer pressure and bullying.

So for this lesson, we recommend that you have an adult with you.

If, at any point, you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start on today's lesson.

By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to describe what unhealthy pressure from adults looks like.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.

First of all, Laura says that, "We need to listen to others." This means that we're not going to interrupt other people if they're speaking.

Andeep says, "We need to respect each other's privacy." This means that we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions, as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Next, Jacob says that, "We need to not have any judgement ." This means that if someone chooses to share a story, feeling, or experience, we are not going to judge them for it.

And finally, Izzy says that, "We can choose our level of participation." This means that it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We're now going to go through the keywords for today's learning.

These are gonna pop up multiple times throughout today's lesson, so it's important that we have a good understanding of what each of these words mean.

First of all, we have the word rules.

Rules are expectations to follow that can keep us safe.

Next, we have trusted adult.

This is someone that we know offline who makes us feel safe, who can help us.

Next, we have pressure.

This is when people try to persuade or force you to do something.

And finally, we have the word uncomfortable.

This means feeling anxious, worried, or unable to relax.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords.

And when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called How Should Adults Treat Us at Home? And our second learning cycle is called What If an Adult Makes Us Feel Uncomfortable? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle, How Should Adults Treat Us at Home? The adults in our lives should keep us safe, these could be our parents or carers, our extended family, like our aunts, uncles, and grandparents.

They could also be our teachers and other supportive adults at school, our club leaders, if we do an after-school or weekend activity, or our care providers, for example, babysitters.

You might want to have a think now or discuss with the people around you who your trusted adults are and who the adults are in your life that keep you safe.

It's important that these adults keep us safe, and sometimes this means that they need to tell us what to do.

They might say things like, "Hold my hand when we cross the road." "Don't touch that." "You need to take this medicine to get better." And, "Stay where I can see you." Maybe some of these are familiar to you, or maybe you want to have a think at some of the things your adults say to you to help keep you safe.

In many cases, it's really important that we listen to what these adults tell us to do, as it can stop us from getting hurt or from becoming poorly.

Alex wants to share his story.

Alex says, "I remember when I was little.

My dad had baked some cookies, and I was so excited to eat them.

I tried to grab them when they'd just come out of the oven.

Thankfully, my dad told me not to.

Otherwise, I would've burned my hand on the tray." This is a really good example of why it's important to listen to our trusted adults.

If Alex hadn't listened to what his dad was saying, he might have really hurt himself on the tray.

Well done, Alex, for listening to what your dad said and keeping yourself safe.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle so far.

Can you think of two adults in our lives to keep us safe? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

You might have said that some adults in our lives that keep us safe are our parents or carers, our teachers, or other supportive school staff, club leaders, for example, if we do an after-school club, and care providers, for example, babysitters.

Well done if you had any of these, or if you had something similar.

Adults often help us to stay safe by giving us rules to follow.

Rules should be fair and keep everyone safe and happy.

Izzy wants to share her story.

Izzy says, "In my family, we have a rule that when we're out and about, we always stay close to one of our parents, so that we don't get lost.

We also only use kind hands when we play, so that we don't hurt anyone." These are some really great rules that help to keep Izzy and her family safe.

By staying close to one of her parents when she's out, Izzy is able to make sure that she doesn't get lost and that she stays safe.

And by only using kind hands, Izzy and her family are making sure that no one gets hurt.

Well done, Izzy.

Sometimes the rules that we have don't always feel fair, but they're there for a good reason.

Jack says that, "When I was younger, I wasn't allowed to go on my tablet in my bedroom.

At the time, I thought that it wasn't fair, but now, I'm glad we had that rule, because it made sure that I got enough sleep, and it helped me to stay safe online." This is a really good example of how sometimes the rules don't always feel fair at the time, but sometimes we get older, and we realise that those rules were important and kept us safe and healthy, just like in Jack's case,.

If we have some rules that don't feel fair, it's important to talk to another trusted adult, so that they can give their advice.

Ms. Walsh says, "Children's opinions are really important.

And sometimes our adults at home can make mistakes too.

We can get support, so that everyone feel safe and happy, and that the rules are fair for everyone, including children." Let's do another check for understanding.

Why do adults have rules? Can you remember? Is it A, to be unkind and unfair, B, to keep us safe and healthy, or C, for no reason? What do you think? Why do adults have rules? Can you remember? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that B is correct.

Adults have rules to keep us safe and healthy.

If we have a rule that we are worried about, it's important to talk to our trusted adults, this could be within our family or it could be someone else, to offer their advice and support.

Well done if you got this right.

We are now going to move on to your first practise task.

And you've done a brilliant job so far.

Well done.

It's time to put your learning into practise.

For this task, I'd like you to fill in the blanks to show your understanding of how adults should treat us at home.

At the bottom of the screen is a word bank, which shows some of the words that fit into our paragraph.

Let's have a look at our paragraph and see where the missing words are.

The adults in our lives should keep us blank, sometimes this means that they need to tell us blank to do.

It's important that we blank to what these adults tell us, as it can stop us from getting blank.

Adults often give us blank to follow.

These should be blank and make everyone blank.

Using the words at the bottom of the screen, can you decide which words should fit in the gaps? Pause the video, and we'll go through the answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

The missing words should be safe, what, listen, hurt, rules, fair, and happy.

And the words that didn't fit were unfair and unhappy.

So well done if you spotted these.

Let's have a look at what our completed paragraph should say.

Our completed paragraph should say that adults in our lives should keep us safe, sometimes this means that they need to tell us what to do.

It's important that we listen to what these adults tell us, as it can stop us from getting hurt.

Adults often give us rules to follow, these should be fair and make everyone happy.

Well done if you put the words in the right place.

This shows that you've been working really hard so far and doing some great listening too.

It's time to move on to our second learning cycle, What If an Adult Makes Us Feel Uncomfortable? Unfortunately, it's important to remember that not all adults are always kind.

Some adults might put pressure on us that makes us feel uncomfortable.

They might ask us to do something that we don't want to do, and this might make us feel worried.

Ms. Walsh says, "Hopefully, we all have trusted adults who care for us and will protect us if they can.

Most children have trusted adults at home and at school, who they can speak to if they are worried." You might want to take this opportunity to have a think to yourself about who your trusted adults are.

Adults should never touch us in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable.

People might find different things uncomfortable.

For example, some people might feel uncomfortable if they're hugged by a family member that they don't know that well, whereas other people might not mind this.

Everyone has different boundaries about what things make them feel comfortable and uncomfortable.

We can always say, "No," if anyone asks us to do something that we don't want to do.

Our body is ours alone, and only we can decide who touches us and who we also feel comfortable touching.

We all have the right to feel safe.

If we ever feel unsafe or put under pressure by someone else, maybe this is an adult, a friend, a stranger, we should tell an adult that we trust.

It's never our fault if an adult makes us feel uncomfortable.

Trusted adults can help us to feel safe and comfortable again if an adult has made us feel uncomfortable.

If someone is making us feel uncomfortable, trusted adults can help to make sure that this stops, because everyone deserves to feel safe, respected, and cared for.

Let's do another check for understanding.

Is this statement true or false? Adults are always kind.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false.

But why? You might have said that some adults are not always kind, and they can pressure us.

This might mean that they ask us to do something that we don't want to do.

And they might make us feel guilty for saying, "No," or for not wanting to do it.

Hopefully, we all have trusted adults who care for us and will do their best to protect us, this could be parents, carers, extended family members, or an adult at school.

Most children have trusted adults who they can speak to if they're worried if someone's made them feel uncomfortable or put them under any pressure.

Well done if you said this or something similar.

If an adult is trying to touch us or wants us to touch them in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable or worried, we don't need to be kind.

It's more important that we do what we can to keep our body and ourselves safe.

If we're in the situation, we can say, "No," loudly and clearly.

We can also find a trusted adult straight away to tell them what's happened.

Some unknown adults, like strangers, can also make children feel uncomfortable by asking them for help.

Ms. Walsh says that, "It's important to remember that an adult that we don't know should never ask us for help, for example, to find a lost cat or for directions.

A safe adult will always ask another adult for help.

And if we are in the situation where an adult that we don't know asks us for help, we should say, 'No,' and tell a trusted adult what has happened straight away." We can tell a trusted adult, even if an adult has made us feel uncomfortable a long time ago.

Sometimes we might feel worried or unsure about something that's already happened, but we can still get help from a trusted adult and talk about what's happened.

It's very brave to tell a trusted adult about an adult that's made us feel uncomfortable.

It can be something that we feel worried about, but it's really important that we get support from a trusted adult.

It's always the right thing to do to tell a trusted adult about another adult that's made us feel uncomfortable.

We should also tell a trusted adult if another adult asks us to keep a secret.

Secrets are quite different to surprises.

Surprises are fun things, like parties or presents, which are hidden for a short period of time.

A surprise could be about a surprise birthday party or a surprise present that they don't want someone to find out about because it would ruin the surprise.

But secrets are asked to be hidden all the time, and they might make us feel worried or uncomfortable.

For example, someone might do something and tell us not to tell a trusted adult, and this might make us feel worried or uncomfortable.

Adults should never ask us to keep secrets from our trusted adults.

Ms. Walsh says that, "If someone tells us a secret that makes us feel worried or uncomfortable, or just not sure, it's important to tell a trusted adult.

This helps us to stay safe." Let's do another check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

I'd like you to decide what should this child do.

This child says, "An adult has touched me in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable.

They've told me not to tell my trusted adults.

What should I do?" Think about this scenario and think about what this child should do.

Pause the video, talk to the people around you, or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this person should tell a trusted adult straight away.

An adult should never touch us in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable.

And we shouldn't be asked to keep secrets too, especially from our trusted adults Because this person feels uncomfortable and because this person has told them not to tell their trusted adults, these are good signs that this person should tell a trusted adult what has happened straight away, so that they stay safe.

Well done if you said the same thing.

We are now moving on to our final practise task.

And you've done a brilliant job so far.

Well done.

For this task, I'd like you to highlight the scenarios when the child should tell a trusted adult what has happened.

Here is our first scenario, a few months ago, someone asked the child to touch them in a way that made them feel worried.

Scenario number two, someone has told them about a surprise birthday party.

Scenario number three, someone said something to them that made them feel uncomfortable.

Scenario four, someone has touched them in a way that made them feel uncomfortable.

Scenario five, an adult family member asked if they could hug them, and the child said, "Yes." Scenario number six, an adult has told them to keep a secret from their trusted adults.

Looking at these scenarios, can you highlight when the child involved should tell a trusted adult what has happened? Pause the video, and we'll go through the answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have highlighted.

These scenarios are, a few months ago, someone asked the child to touch them in a way that made them feel worried.

Someone said something to them that made them feel uncomfortable.

Someone has touched them in a way that made them feel uncomfortable.

And an adult has told them to keep a secret from their trusted adults.

In all of these scenarios, the best thing to do would be for the child to tell a trusted adult what's happened.

This will help to keep them safe and to make sure that they stay safe in the future.

Well done if you said the same thing.

We are now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that adults should keep us safe, and this means that they sometimes need to tell us what to do in order to protect ourselves and our body.

Adults sometimes give us rules that should be fair for everyone and keep us safe and happy.

It's important to remember that, unfortunately, not all adults are kind.

Some adults may put pressure on us and ask us to do something that we don't want to do, and this can make us feel uncomfortable.

Adults should never touch us or ask us to touch them in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable or worried.

If this happens, or if we feel unsafe, it's important to tell a trusted adult straight away.

Well done for your brilliant hard work in today's lesson.

You might have found that in this lesson, you have some worries or questions, and if you do, it's really important that you share these with a trusted adult.

There's also some resources on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for today's work.

I'm really proud of you.

And I hope to see you in another lesson soon.