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Hello, my name is Miss Willow, and I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.
Today's lesson is called "Pressure from Friends." and it fits into the unit "Power in Relationships." What does a healthy relationship feel like? During this lesson, we're going to be talking a little bit about peer pressure and bullying, so for this lesson, we recommend that you have an adult with you.
If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.
Okay, let's make a start on today's learning.
By the end of today's lesson, you'll be able to describe how to deal with peer pressure.
Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.
These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable throughout today's lesson.
First of all, we have Laura.
Laura says that we need to listen to others.
This means that we are not going to interrupt other people if they're speaking.
Andeep says that we need to respect each other's privacy.
This means we're not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.
Jacob says, no judgement.
This means that if someone chooses to share a story, experience, or feeling, we are not going to judge them for it.
And finally, Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.
This means it's up to us how much we want to join in.
We are now going to go through the keywords for today's lesson.
These are gonna pop up quite a few times in today's lesson, so it's really important that we have a good understanding of what each of these words mean.
Peer pressure, his is when someone tries to persuade or force someone else to do something.
Next, we have respect.
This means treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas and boundaries.
For example, listening carefully and being polite even if you disagree.
Next, we have boundary.
This is an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow.
And finally, we have red flag.
This is a sign that our relationship is unhealthy.
As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords and when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.
Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.
Our first learning cycle is called How do we Resist Peer Pressure? And our second learning cycle is called What does an unhealthy relationship look like? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle.
How do we resist peer pressure? There are lots of times when we could decide to say yes to our friends.
They might ask us, would you like to play with me? Can I give you a hug? Would you like some help? These are all examples of when we might like to say yes to a friend.
There are also times where we may need to say no to our friends.
They may ask us to do something that we don't want to do.
We don't have to do what our friends tell us to do if we don't want to do it.
Someone could ask us, can I give you a hug? And we could say, no thank you.
I don't want a hug.
It's okay to say no to our friends if we don't want to do what they ask.
Even if they think that they're asking us to do something nice like give us a hug, we can still say no if this makes us feel uncomfortable or if we just don't want to.
If someone puts us under pressure to do something, this is called peer pressure.
It's important to know how to resist peer pressure so that we can keep ourselves safe and comfortable.
Ms. Walsh says, "That everyone has the right to say no to something that they don't feel comfortable doing.
There are lots of ways that we can resist peer pressure in a kind but firm way." Friends should respect our boundaries.
Everyone has different boundaries and it's important that we make decisions about our actions that maintain our boundaries.
For example, Aisha says, "I don't like hugs, so if someone asks for one, I say, no." This shows Aisha behaving in a way that maintains her own boundaries so that she feels safe and comfortable.
If someone asks Aisha for a hug, she says no because this goes against her boundaries.
Well done Aisha for respecting and maintaining your own boundaries.
Let's do a check for understanding to see how you are doing so far.
Is this statement true or false? We have to do what our friends tell us to do.
What do you think? Pause the video.
Talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.
Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that we don't have to do what our friends tell us to do.
Sometimes we may want to say no to our friends to maintain our boundaries.
For example, if we don't like hugs, we might say, no.
Good friends will always respect us when we say, no.
Well done if you said this or something similar.
We can resist peer pressure by saying no kindly but firmly.
Saying something like, no, thank you, I'm good thanks or no, I don't want to.
What about this instead? These are all examples of ways that we can say no kindly but firmly.
We can also resist peer pressure by just walking away from the situation.
This is especially important if we feel unsafe or if someone could get hurt.
We can resist peer pressure by telling a trusted adult about what's happening.
They can help us to say no and to explain to the people peer pressuring us why they need to respect our boundaries.
Resisting peer pressure can sometimes be quite hard, especially if the people pressuring us are our friends.
Jacob wants to share his story.
"When one of my friends was pressuring me, I firmly said no and explained that it went against my boundaries.
He found it hard to understand at first, but when I spoke to our teacher, she helped him to understand why it was important to respect my boundaries.
He's been a much better friend since then." Well done Jacob, because you experienced peer pressure from a friend, you decided to speak to a trusted adult for support.
This is a great choice and helps you to understand how you can resist peer pressure in the future.
It's also helped his friend to understand why it's important to respect Jacob's boundaries.
This helped him to be a better friend overall.
Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.
What can we do to resist peer pressure? Can we A, say yes if our friend wants us to.
B, say no kindly but firmly.
Or C, peer pressure someone else instead.
What can we do to resist peer pressure? Pause the video.
Talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.
Well done If you said that B is correct.
To resist peer pressure, we can say no kindly but firmly.
Well done if you said the same thing.
It's now time to move on to our first practise task.
Well done for your hard work so far.
In this scenario, Sophia is experiencing peer pressure.
What are three things that she could do to resist it? Sophia says, one of my friends keeps pressuring me to do something that's making other people upset.
I don't want to do it.
What can I do? Can you think of three things that she could do to resist this peer pressure? Pause the video and will go through some potential answers in a few minutes.
Okay, let's see what you might have said.
You might have said that Sophia could resist the peer pressure by saying no kindly but firmly, walking away from the situation and telling a trusted adult.
Well done if you had this or something similar, it's time to move on to our second learning cycle and you've done a brilliant job so far.
This next learning cycle is called, What does an unhealthy relationship look like? Some relationships can be unhealthy if a relationship is unhealthy.
This means that it's not good for us.
A relationship might be unhealthy if someone regularly makes us feel upset, if they make us upset or angry on purpose.
Or if we don't feel like we're being treated with respect.
A relationship might also be unhealthy if our boundaries are ignored.
Relationships can be unhealthy when some people have more power than others.
If someone has more power than someone else, they may not treat them with respect.
Jun says, "I had a friend who never listened to my ideas or respected when I said no.
They always had to decide what we did and got upset if I didn't do as they said, I realised this was unhealthy, so I ended the friendship." Well done Jun.
It's really important that we have healthy friendships with people who listen to our ideas and who respect us when we say no.
It was the right idea to end the friendship, to keep yourself safe and comfortable.
Unhealthy friendships have warning signs and these are called red flags.
Red flags include a friend not listening to us, ignoring our boundaries, peer pressuring us, regularly making us feel upset or having arguments with us.
And not accepting our differences.
Let's do another check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.
Can you highlight the red flags that Jun's friend was showing? Jun says, "I had a friend who never listened to my ideas or respected when I said no.
They always had to decide what we did and got upset if I didn't do as they said, I realised this was unhealthy, so I ended the friendship." Can you highlight the red flags that Jun's friend were showing that suggest that this friendship was unhealthy? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.
Well done If this is what you highlighted.
A friend who never listened to my ideas or respected when I said no, always having to decide what we did and getting upset if I didn't do as they said.
These are all examples of red flags that Jun's friend was showing.
Well done if you highlighted the same things.
Another red flag is a friend who doesn't use kind touch.
They might hurt our body or touch us in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable, like hugging us if we say no.
Ms. Walsh says, "That our body belongs to us and us alone.
Someone who touches us without our consent is not respecting us or our body, and we should tell a trusted adult straight away." Friends should always use kind touch.
They should ask for consent before touching us.
For example, saying, can I give you a hug? They should never hurt our body on purpose.
Aisha says, "I don't like hugs, so my friends give me high fives instead.
This makes me feel happy and respected too." This is a really good way that Aisha's friends can use kind touch with her without giving her a hug and making her feel uncomfortable.
By giving each other high fives, they're able to show kind touch to each other and everyone feels happy and respected.
It's never our fault if someone doesn't respect our boundaries or if they don't use kind touch with us.
However, we can help our friends to respect us by telling them our boundaries.
Lucas says, "I've told my friends that I don't like people touching my hair, because they know that this is one of my boundaries.
They don't touch my hair.
This helps me to feel comfortable and avoid my boundaries being crossed accidentally." Well done Lucas, by being really clear with your friends about what your boundaries are.
We're helping our friends to respect our boundaries and to be good friends altogether.
We don't have to be friends with people who peer pressure us or who don't use kind touch.
We can always end friendships that don't make us feel happy and safe and trusted adults can support us to do this.
Jun says, "I asked my teacher to help me end my unhealthy friendship.
Now I have kinder and more respectful friends and this makes me really happy." Everyone deserves to be in healthy friendships and to feel cared for and respected and safe within these friendships.
Well done Jun for telling a trusted adult about your unhealthy friendship.
Let's do another check for understanding.
What does it mean to use kind touch? Fill in the missing part of the list.
When we use kind touch, we blank.
Never hurt someone else's body on purpose and respect someone else's boundaries.
Can you decide what the missing bullet point should be? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.
Well done if you said that the missing part of the list was ask for consent before touching somebody else.
When we use kind Touch, we ask for consent before touching somebody else.
We never hurt somebody else's body on purpose and we respect someone else's boundaries.
Well done if you said the same thing.
It is time to move on to the first part of our practise task.
Well done for your brilliant job so far.
Laura is worried that she's in an unhealthy friendship.
What could be three signs that her friendship is unhealthy? Can you think of them? Pause the video and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.
Okay, let's see what you might have said.
You might've said that Laura's friend could regularly make Laura feel upset or angry.
Laura's friend could deliberately hurt her feelings.
She could not treat her with respect.
She could ignore her boundaries.
She could not listen to her.
She could peer pressure her.
She might not accept her differences and she might not use kind touch.
All of these would be signs that a friendship is unhealthy.
Well done if you said the same thing.
For the next part of this task, I'd like you to read Laura's incorrect statement about kind touch.
Can you correct it to help her understand what kind touch means? Laura says, "I think kind touch is only about respecting other people's boundaries, nothing else.
If someone doesn't use kind touch, we should tell our friend, but not an adult." Can you correct this statement to help Laura understand what kind touch means? Pause the video and we'll go through the answers in a few minutes.
Okay, let's see what you might have said.
You might have said that kind touch includes never hurting someone else's body on purpose, respecting someone else's boundaries and asking for consent before touching somebody else.
If someone doesn't use kind touch, we should tell a trusted adult straight away.
Well done if your statement for Laura looks similar to this.
We're now going to summarise the key learning from today's lesson.
You've done a brilliant job, well done.
In today's lesson we've learned that sometimes we may need to say no to our friends if we don't want to do something or if we don't feel comfortable.
Friends should always respect our boundaries and listen when we say no.
If we experience peer pressure, we can say no kindly but firmly.
Friendships can be unhealthy if one person has more power than the other.
They can also contain red flags such as not respecting our boundaries, or not using kind touch.
And finally, we've learned that friends should always use kind touch and we should always tell a trusted adult if anyone doesn't use kind touch or touches our body without our consent.
In today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or some questions, and if you do, it's really important that you share these with a trusted adult.
There's also some resources on the screen that are there to help you too.
Well done for your fantastic hard work today.
I'm really proud of you and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.