Hello, my name is Miss Wroth.

Today we're going to be looking at the lesson called Family Changes and Challenges.

This fits into the lesson unit, healthy relationships.

Is there such thing as a perfect family? Now, in this lesson, we are going to be talking about things that might make you feel worried or upset.

For example, we are going to be talking about the different types of challenges that a family might face, including what happens when two parents or carers break up or divorce.

And we're also going to be talking about what a young carer is, and what their responsibilities are.

So, for this lesson, it is recommended that you have an adult with you before you continue watching the video.

Today's lesson outcome is I can describe some of the changes and challenges that families may face and explain why it is important for family members to respect boundaries.

Let's begin by taking a look at our ground rules together.

Laura says we should listen to others, and that means we are not going to interrupt when somebody else is speaking.

Andeep says we should respect privacy.

And that means if somebody decides to share a story or their own experience, that we are not going to repeat it to others outside of this lesson.

Jacob says, no judgments.

And that means if somebody does decide to share their own story or experience that we are not going to judge them because of it.

And Izzy says, "Choose your level of participation." And that means you can decide if you simply just want to listen or if you want to share something throughout today's lesson.

All of these ground rules are here to keep everyone safe in the lesson.

Here are today's keywords.

We have struggling, boundary, and respect.

Struggling, means when someone is finding it hard to overcome a challenge.

Boundary, means an imaginary line separating what we will and what we won't allow.

And respect means treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas and boundaries.

For example, listening carefully and being polite even if you disagree.

Let's see if we can spot these keywords throughout today's lesson.

Here is the lessons outline, and we are going to begin with what changes and challenges might families face? Many families face different types of changes.

Change is the way things become different to how they used to be.

Sometimes these changes may be big, and sometimes they may be small.

Natalie, the social worker says, "Can you think of any changes a family might face?" Have a little moment to yourself to think about an answer to that question.

Okay, so there are lots of changes a family might face.

For example, a parent or carer might change job or change their hours.

A new baby being born or a new sibling joining the family.

Or someone in the family might become ill.

Time for a check for understanding.

Which of these are changes that families can face? Is it A, a dad going to do the weekly food shop as usual? B, a parent changing the hours they work, or C, a family member becoming ill? Hmm.

Which of these are changes that families can face? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said B and C.

Changes include a parent changing the hours they work or a family member becoming ill.

Some of these changes can be challenging for families.

When something is challenging, it means it is difficult to solve.

For example, a family might experience the death of a loved one.

A family might have to move to a new place such as a different country.

Two parents or carers might break up or divorce.

Or a family might need to look after someone who has a disability or a long-term illness.

Natalie, the social worker, says, "When families face these different types of challenges, it can make it difficult to raise a child.

Sometimes adults and carers might need support from other trusted adults to get through the challenging times.

For example, from other family members, social workers, or charities." Time for a check for understanding.

Fill in the missing words in this sentence.

Sometimes families might face or challenges.

Hmm.

What is that missing word in the sentence? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said the missing word was changes.

Some families might face changes or challenges.

It is never the child's fault if their family faces changes or challenges.

Natalie, the social worker says, "Changes can make life feel hard or different at home, but it's really important to remember that children are not to blame." If your family are facing changes or challenges which are making you worried or upset, it's important to tell a trusted adult.

Children can get support from: family members or relatives such as grandparents or aunts and uncles, teachers and school staff.

And counsellors, who are people who are trained to help children with changes and challenges.

Time for a check for understanding.

What can we do if we are worried about our family? Is it A, keep it to ourselves? B, tell a trusted adult at school, or C, speak to our younger sibling.

Hmm.

What can we do if we are worried about our family? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said B.

If we are worried about how a family, we should tell a trusted adult at school.

Time for a task now.

The first part of your task is to tell your partner three changes that a family might face.

Then tell your partner three challenges that a family might face.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

The first of the task, you are asked to tell your partner three changes that a family might face.

Your answers could include, some families might experience changes in the way a parent works or the hours they work.

Some families might have a new sibling join the family, and someone in the family might become ill.

Well done if your answers were similar to mine.

For the second part of the task, you are asked to tell your partner three challenges that a family might face.

Your answers could include, some families have to look after someone who has a disability or a long-term illness.

Some families might have to move to a new place such as a different area or country, and some families might have to face parents or carers breaking up or getting divorced.

Well done if your answers were similar to mine.

We are now going to move on to the second part of our lesson.

What does a young carer do? Some children are young carers.

A young carer is someone who is under the age of 18 and looks after someone in need of support.

Young carers often take on tasks that are normally the responsibility of an adult.

Megan says, "I'm a young carer.

Young carers like me, look after someone in their life who has a disability, a long-term illness, or someone who struggles with their mental health.

It could be a family member, a relative, or even a close friend." Young carers help with many tasks which might include cooking meals, cleaning the home, giving medicine, helping with the food shopping, and providing emotional support.

Time for a check for understanding.

What might a young carer do? Is it A, look after someone who is struggling? B, drive cars, C, cook meals, or D, provide emotional support? Hmm.

What might a young carer do? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said A, C and D.

A young carer might look after someone who is struggling.

They may have to cook meals for that person or provide emotional support.

Young carers might feel different emotions when looking after someone who is struggling.

Have a little think to yourself about how a young carer might feel.

They might feel proud for looking after the person who is struggling.

They might feel worried or overwhelmed with all the tasks that they have to do.

They might feel tired and struggle to concentrate at school.

Or they might feel helpful.

It is important that any young carer gets support.

Young carers can get support from trusted adults such as teachers and school staff, counsellors, who are adults that are trained to support people with challenges and charities, which are organisations that support people in lots of different ways.

Time for a check for understanding.

Tell your partner three emotions that a young carer might feel.

Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Rather than for having a go, you might have said, proud, worried or overwhelmed, tired and struggled to concentrate at school or helpful.

Time for a task now.

Create a mind map of all of the things that a young carer might do.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

Your mind map could look like this.

Look after someone who is struggling.

Cook meals, provide emotional support, help with the food shopping, clean the home and give medicine.

Well done if your mind map looks like mine.

We are now going to move on to the third and the final part of our lesson.

Why should family members respect boundaries? Everyone has different boundaries for different things.

A boundary is an imaginary line separating what we will allow and what we won't allow.

For example, Izzy says, "I have a boundary on physical touch with family members I don't see very often.

I will allow high fives, but I won't allow hugs." Respecting each other's boundaries is important.

It helps everyone to feel, listened to, cared for, valued and safe.

In our families, we should respect our boundaries.

This means they should listen and consider our feelings in different situations.

Boundaries help us to feel safe.

However, saying no to your trusted adult and they ask you to do something that is your responsibility, like homework or chores is different.

Okay, time for a check for understanding.

Why is it important to respect other people's boundaries? Is it A, because it helps people to feel safe.

B, because it helps people to feel rested, or C, because it helps people to feel cared for.

Okay, pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said A and C.

It's important to respect other people's boundaries because it helps people to feel safe and it helps people to feel cared for.

We should feel safe around our families.

This includes feeling physically safe and emotionally safe.

Izzy says, "My family keeps me physically safe by protecting me from various dangers.

For example, they make sure that I wear my helmets when I'm riding my bike." And Andeep says, "My family keep me emotionally safe by allowing me to voice my thoughts and feelings without fear of being judged or told off." Sometimes a family member might make you feel worried or uncomfortable.

For example, they might not respect your boundaries, or they might ask you to keep a secret that makes you feel unsafe.

It's important to know that there is a difference between secrets and surprises.

Surprises are meant to feel exciting or special, whereas a secret can make us feel worried, uncomfortable, or unsafe.

If a family member, including an adult, makes you feel uncomfortable or unsafe, for example, if they ask you to keep an uncomfortable secret, you must tell a trusted adult at school.

Ms. Walsh, who is a teacher at the Oak National Academy says, "Trusted adults at school will listen to you and make sure that you are safe.

Children are never to blame if a family member makes 'em feel worried or uncomfortable.

Everyone deserves to feel safe at home." Time for a check for understanding.

Who is respecting their sibling's boundaries? Jacob says, "My sister doesn't like it when I come into her room when she's getting changed.

I always make sure to knock and wait outside before coming in." And Laura says, "My brother doesn't like it when I tickle his feet, but it makes me laugh when I do it.

His face goes all red." Hmm.

Who is respecting their sibling's boundaries? Pause this video so you can think about your answer.

Well done if you said Jacob.

Jacob is respecting his sister's boundaries.

Time for a task now.

Write down two reasons why Laura should respect her brother's boundaries.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

Your answers could include, her brother will feel listened to, cared for, and valued.

And when we respect each other's boundaries, it helps everyone to feel safe, cared for, and comfortable.

Well done If your answer was similar to mine.

This brings us to the end of our lesson.

Here is a summary of everything that we've covered today.

Families can face many changes and challenges.

For example, moving home, parents or carers breaking up, or looking after a sick or disabled family member.

Some children are young carers, which means they look after someone in need of support.

Young carers can get support themselves from trusted adults, counsellors, and charities.

Everyone has different boundaries for different things.

It's important to respect each other's boundaries so that everyone can feel safe.

If a family member has not respected your boundaries or has made you feel uncomfortable, you must have a trusted adult, like a teacher.

Here is a slide where you can get support.

We have the child line, which is a website and phone line, which is able to offer confidential advice and support.