Hello, my name is Ms. Wroth.

Today we are going to be looking at the lesson, dangers to watch out for in the online space.

This fits into the lesson unit, our online lives: how do I thrive online? Now for this lesson, it is required for you to have an adult present, so please make sure that they are with you before you press play.

Right, let's get ready to begin.

Today's lesson outcome is, I can identify the warning signs of unhealthy behaviour.

Let's begin by taking a look at our ground rules for today's lesson lesson.

Laura says, "We should listen to others." Jacob says, "No judgments." And that means if somebody decides to share their story or their own experience, that we don't judge them because of it.

Andeep says, "We should respect privacy." And that means if somebody does decide to share their own story or their experience about something, that we don't go and repeat it to others outside of this lesson.

And Izzy says, "Choose your level of participation," and that means you can decide if you simply just want to listen or if you want to share something throughout.

Here are today's keywords.

Relationships, relationship means that a connection between people.

Unhealthy means not good for us.

Behaviour are the things that someone does and says.

Manipulation, manipulation means influencing someone's emotions to make them do something.

And tactic, a tactic is the method to achieve something.

Let's see if we can spot any of these keywords throughout the lesson.

Here is the lessons outline, and we are going to begin with what is an unhealthy relationship? We form many relationships with different people throughout our lives.

For example, our trusted adults, friends, siblings, and relatives.

That means aunties, uncles, and cousins.

Healthy relationships should make us feel happy, safe, and respected.

Jacob says, "I have a healthy relationship with my brother because I can be myself without judgement ." And Andeep says, "My best friend and I always listen to each other's ideas when we work together at school." It sounds as though Jacob and Andeep have got healthy relationships in their lives.

Time for a check for understanding.

How should healthy relationships make us feel? Is it A, confused, B, respected, C, embarrassed or D, safe? Hmm, how should healthy relationships make us feel? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said B and D.

Healthy relationships should make us feel respected and safe.

Forming an unhealthy relationship with someone else can make us feel different emotions.

We might feel upset, confused, isolated, or trapped.

There are certain behaviours that we should look out for to help us decide if we are in a healthy or unhealthy relationship with someone else.

Unhealthy relationships can be one-sided.

This means one person always tries to do what they want and the other person's thoughts and feelings are ignored.

Laura said, "I think we should sign up for the dance competition!" And her friend says, "No way.

That is so cringe.

Do you really want to embarrass yourself like that?" This is an example of a one-sided relationship.

Time for a check for understanding.

What behaviours might someone show in a one-sided relationship? Is it A, they ignore the other person's feelings.

B, they listen to each other's feelings.

C, they take in turns to make decisions, or D, they always try to do what they want.

What behaviours might someone show in a one-sided relationship? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said A and D.

Some behaviours in a one-sided relationship might include ignoring the other person's feelings and always trying to do what they want.

In some unhealthy relationships, one person may feel pressured to do something they don't want to do by the other person.

They may force or trick them into doing something that is uncomfortable or worrying.

For example, this person says, "You should make a fake account online and send people rude messages.

You're a loser if you don't do it." Time for a check for understanding.

True or false? Some people might feel pressured to do something they don't want to do in an unhealthy relationship.

True or false? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said true.

It can feel confusing when we have formed an unhealthy relationship with someone else, especially when their behaviour towards us changes frequently.

For example, a friend of yours might say on Monday, "I've had so much fun with you today!" But on Tuesday their behaviour changes and they say, "You are so boring to be around sometimes." This is an example of an unhealthy relationship.

The person might say that they were only joking or that we are overreacting if we try to stand up for ourselves.

This can make us feel like our feelings don't matter.

Laura says, "You made me really upset when you called me boring yesterday." But her friend says, "I was only joking.

Gosh, you're being so overdramatic." Over time some people find it easier to do what the person tells them to rather than arguing or standing up for themselves.

For example, the person might say to them, "That idea is dumb." "I'll tell everyone what you did." "Can you do my homework for me?" And in the end, they decide that it is easier for them to do what the person says rather than standing up for themselves.

So Alex says, in response to the question, "Can you do my homework for me?" He says, "Okay." This can lead to some people feeling isolated and trapped.

Time for a check for understanding.

True or false.

Some people in unhealthy relationships find it easier to do what the person tells them to rather than arguing or standing up for themselves.

Hmm, true or false? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said true.

Time for a task now.

Tick the statements that show signs of an unhealthy relationship.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

Here are the statements that you should have ticked.

Your friend has made a rude comment about you.

They said they were only joking when you told them you were upset.

You should have also ticked the statement that says, your older brother has pressured you into keeping a secret from your trusted adult.

And you should have also ticked, your cousin always makes you feel stupid when you suggest an idea.

Well done if you got those correct.

We're now going to move on to the second part of our lesson.

What are manipulation tactics? Some people might form an unhealthy relationship with someone else online or offline.

When someone is in an unhealthy relationship, the other person may show red flags.

A red flag is a warning sign that something is not right.

A red flag might be something that the person says or a behaviour that they display.

Spotting red flags can help us avoid unhealthy relationships online and offline.

Time for a check for understanding.

Jacob and Andeep are talking about red flags.

Who is correct? Jacob says, "A red flag is a warning sign that something is not right." And Andeep says, "A red flag is when someone disagrees with you." Hmm, Jacob and Andeep are talking about red flags.

Who is correct? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said that Jacob was correct.

A red flag is a warning sign that something is not right.

Manipulation is when someone tries to influence someone's emotions to make them do something that the other person wants them to do.

It can happen in unhealthy relationships offline, and it can also take place online.

This behaviour is a red flag.

Some people offline and online might use manipulation tactics towards the other person.

Manipulation tactics are ways that people use manipulation to get someone to do what they want.

People who use manipulation tactics might give someone lots of compliments, so they are more likely to do something.

Offer gifts or money if someone does something for them.

Make someone feel guilty if they don't want to do something or say that they will share private information about them if they don't do what they want.

Time for a check for understanding.

Which statements are examples of manipulative tactics.

Is it A, making someone feel guilty if they don't want to do something, B, asking someone to follow them on social media, C, complimenting a friend to cheer them up, or D, offering gifts or money if someone does something for them.

Hmm, which statements are examples of manipulative tactics? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said A and D.

Making someone feel guilty if they don't want to do something is a manipulative tactic.

And offering gifts or money if someone does something for them, is also a manipulative tactic.

People may give us lots of compliments to make us feel special so that we trust them more.

For example, this person says, "You are so good at online gaming.

No one has a higher score than you.

Why don't we meet up in real life?" People might offer us gifts or money if we do as they ask.

For example, this person says, "I have a special gift to give you if you tell me which school you go to." People can make us feel guilty as a way of manipulating us to do something or give them information.

For example, this person says, "If you were really my friend, you'd give me your password to your account." People might say they'll share our private, personal information if we don't give them what they want.

For example, this person says, "If you don't like my video on FilmToK, I will upload that photo of you getting changed in PE." Time for a check for understanding.

True or false? Someone who is trying to manipulate us might say they'll share our private personal information if we don't give them what they want.

Hmm, true or false? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said true.

Time for a task now.

Read the message below.

Highlight and label the manipulation tactics the person has used.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

Your answer showing the manipulation tactics used could look like this.

In the text it says, "Hey, I just want to say I feel like we're such good friends." So this is an example of somebody giving them compliments.

Then it says, "Can you do me a quick favour? I'll even send you a 50 pound gift card." This is an example of somebody offering gifts or money.

Then it says, "I'd be really upset if you said no, I've been so nice to you." This is an example of making someone feel guilty, and then it says, "Plus, I hate for anyone to see those embarrassing pics you just sent me.

Just help me out and we are good." And this is an example of threatening to share personal information.

Well done if you identified all of those manipulation tactics.

We are now going to move on to the third and the final part of our lesson.

Is it easy to spot red flags online? It can be hard to spot the red flags in someone's behaviour online.

Jacob says, "I find it difficult to tell if someone online is just being kind or if they are trying to manipulate me into doing something." It can be particularly hard to spot the red flags in someone's behaviour online if we are feeling lonely or upset.

For example, Alex at school says, "I have no one to hang out with." But online, he receives a message from @gameboy21 saying, "You are so good at coding.

Tell me your address." This makes Alex feel happy, and he thinks, "Someone wants to be my friend!" The attention can make us feel special, so we may ignore the red flags.

Time for a check for understanding.

Why can't it be hard to spot red flags in someone's behaviour? Is it A, because we might be feeling lonely or upset? B, because it's always easy to spot red flags, Or C, because attention can make us feel special, so we ignore the red flags.

Hmm, why can't it be hard to spot red flags in someone's behaviour? Pause this video so you can have so thinking time.

Well done if you said A and C.

It can be hard to spot red flags in someone's behaviour because we might be feeling lonely or upset and the attention can make us feel special, so we ignore the red flags.

Manipulation often starts with positive actions to make the other person feel special.

This can make it hard to spot the red flags.

For example, they might start giving us lots of compliments and gifts or money.

"You are such a good dancer!" "I got you some new dance shoes!" "You look so nice in your video." Once the person has gained our trust, they might start to show more controlling behaviour towards us.

"Don't log off now! You told me you'd be online for at least two hours today." "You need to send me reward points! I can't play my game otherwise." Time for a check for understanding.

True or false? Manipulation always starts with controlling behaviour.

Hmm.

True or false? Manipulation always starts with controlling behaviour.

Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said false.

Manipulation often starts with positive actions to make the other person feel special and gain their trust.

This can make it hard to spot the red flags before the controlling behaviour starts.

We can use this checklist to help us spot red flags online and we can ask ourselves these questions.

For example, do I know this person offline? Are they giving me lots of compliments? Are they offering me money or gifts? Do they try and make me feel guilty? And are they threatening to share my personal information? If you spot a red flag in someone's behaviour or have a gut feeling that something is wrong, you must tell a trusted adult.

Trusted adults can show us how to report or block someone online so they cannot message us again.

This helps us to stay safe online and stops us from being in unhealthy relationships with other people.

Time for a check for understanding.

What should you do if you spot red flags in someone's behaviour? Is it A, ignore the red flags and continue speaking to them? B, hope that they become a kinder person.

Or C, tell a trusted who can report or block them.

Hmm, what should you do if you spot red flags in someone's behaviour? Pause this video so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said C, we must tell a trusted adult who can report or block them.

Time for a task now.

Andeep is talking about red flags.

Explain to your partner why Andeep is incorrect.

Andeep says, "It's easy to spot red flags online.

If someone is being unkind, then you know they're not a good person." Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

Your answer could include, red flags can be hard to spot online.

Someone might manipulate you with positive actions first, like giving lots of confidence or money and gifts before they start showing controlling behaviour.

The attention can make you feel special so that you trust them and do what they ask.

Well done if you said something similar to your partner.

This brings us to the end of our lesson.

And here is a summary of everything that we've covered today.

We can form unhealthy relationships with other people in person and online.

Someone in an unhealthy relationship might feel pressured to do something they don't want to do.

Their feelings and thoughts may be ignored.

Some people use manipulation tactics to influence someone's emotions to do something.

These tactics include flattery, bribery, and threats.

It can be hard to spot the red flags in someone's behaviour.

We must always tell a trusted adult if we think someone is trying to manipulate us.

And here is a slide with different places that you can get support.

We have the Childline, which is a website and phone line, which is able to offer confidential advice and support.

And the CEOP.

The CEOP helps protect children from online abuse and exploitation.

And the Internet Matters.

The Internet Matters teaches children and parents how to stay safe and happy online while using the internet.