Lesson video

Hello, my name's Ms. Willow and I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called Finding Support When I Feel Unsafe.

And it fits into the unit, Power in Relationships: How do I get help if I don't feel safe? During this lesson, we're going to be talking about some upsetting content and peer pressure, so we recommend that you have an adult with you for the duration of this lesson.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable, it's really important that you close the screen and that you go and speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start on today's lesson.

By the end of today's lesson, you will be able to describe situations where you might feel unsafe and explain how to be an active bystander.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable during today's lesson.

First of all, Laura tells us that we need to listen to others.

This means that if someone else is speaking, we are not going to interrupt them.

Next Andeep says that we need to respect each other's privacy.

This means that we are not going to ask anyone any personal questions as this can make some people feel uncomfortable.

Next, Jacob reminds us that we need to not have any judgement.

This means if someone chooses to share a feeling, story, or an experience, we are not going to judge them for it.

And finally, Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

This means it's up to us how much we want to join in.

We are now going to go through the keywords for today's learning.

These are gonna pop up quite a few times in today's lesson, so it's important that we have a good understanding of what each of these words mean.

First of all, we have the word situation.

This is what's happening around you at a particular time and place.

Next, we have risky.

This is something that's potentially dangerous.

Next we have instinct.

This is your gut feeling about something.

Next, we have bystander.

This is someone who witnesses something.

And finally, we have active bystander.

This is someone who takes action when something bad happens.

As we go through today's lesson, keep an eye out for these keywords and when you spot them, see if you can remember what they mean.

Today's lesson is put into three learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called can we identify risky situations? Our second learning cycle is called how can I keep myself safe in a risky situation? And finally, our last learning cycle is called how can I be an active bystander? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle.

Can we identify risky situations? Most of us have different adults around us that do their best to keep us safe.

Some of them could be our parents or carers others could be our teachers or other school staff, like teaching assistants.

Who are your trusted adults? You might want to pause and have a little think, who are your trusted adults? Sometimes, we might find that we have to take action to keep ourselves safe, especially as we get older and we start to become more independent.

We can often keep ourselves safe by making healthy choices.

It's important that we can identify situations and relationships that are risky so that we can keep ourselves safe.

Ms. Walsh says that, "A risky situation or relationship is one where we might feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

It could be dangerous and there is a chance that we or someone else in this situation could come to harm." Let's do a check for understanding, to see how you're doing.

Which of these could be a risky situation? Is it A, touching a growling dog? B, giving a friend a hug with their permission or C, playing with matches.

Which of these could be a risky situation? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done If you said that A and C are correct, touching a growling dog and playing with matches are both examples of a risky situation as we or someone else could get hurt in these situations.

Well done if you said the same thing.

Some situations are particularly risky.

Here someone says, "I'm thinking of going to meet a stranger that I met online.

They say that they're the same age as me and we've been messaging each other for ages." This situation is particularly risky because this person could be harmed.

They don't know this person offline, so they can't be certain that they're being honest about who they are.

Here someone else says, "I'm thinking of leaving the house without my trusted adults and not telling them where I'm going.

It'll be fine, I can look after myself." This is another example of a particularly risky situation.

Leaving the house without our trusted adults knowing where we're going is dangerous.

This person could be harmed and their trusted adults wouldn't know where they are to help them.

This means that it's a particularly risky situation.

A situation or a relationship may be risky if our trusted adults don't know about it or aren't with us.

If it makes us feel worried or uncomfortable.

If it's unsafe, for example, if it involves doing something dangerous with our body or if it could hurt other people including hurting their feelings.

Let's do a check for understanding, to see how you're doing.

I'd like you to decide is this a risky situation? Why? Lucas says, "My friends want me to play in an area that's out of bounds.

There are signs saying 'Keep out,' and my trusted adults have told me that it's not safe to play there." Is this an example of a risky situation? Why? Pause the video, talk to people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is a risky situation because the sign saying "Keep out," suggests that this place is dangerous and Lucas's trusted adults have told him that it's not safe to play in this area.

Well done if you got this right.

Some situations may make us feel worried or uncomfortable, but they may still be safe.

Sofia wants to share her story.

Sofia says that, "When I went on camp with my school, I felt worried about going up the climbing wall.

My teacher reassured me that it was safe, so I knew that this was a safe risk to take.

I was so glad to have climbed in the end, it was lots of fun." We can ask our trusted adults if we're unsure if something is risky.

What do you think about what Aisha says? Aisha says that, "Being online is safer than going out of the house.

We are always safer when we are online because our body can't get hurt." What do you think? Do you agree, disagree? Maybe you're somewhere in the middle or maybe you are not sure.

Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that Aisha is incorrect, although there is limited risk of physical harm online, it's increasingly common for young people to be harmed in other ways, online.

Young people are what we call vulnerable when they go online, this means that being online can be especially risky for a young person or child.

Unfortunately, some people online choose to deliberately hurt young people.

They take advantage of young people and they can share indecent images and videos of young people.

Because young people are vulnerable online, it makes it especially important for young people to be able to identify risky situations and relationships both offline and online.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing.

Does this sound like a risky situation? Why? This person says, "I've made a friend online that's asked me for a photo of myself.

They said that they go to the same school as me and that they'd delete it straight away, so it should be okay." What do you think? Does this sound like a risky relationship? Why? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is a risky relationship because we should not talk to or send pictures to strangers online, as this could be dangerous.

This person may not be who they say they are and we can't trust people that we only know online.

Now, I'd like you to decide if this is a risky situation.

Why? Jacob says, "My friends have asked if I want to walk to school together.

I told my trusted adults and they say that this is a good idea.

We've talked about the route that I'm going to take and about how to stay safe." Do you think this is a risky situation? Why? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is not a risky situation because Jacob's trusted adults have confirmed that this is okay and that this is a safe choice for Jacob.

They've also talked to him about how to stay safe.

Well done if you said the same thing.

We're now moving on to our first practise task and you've done a brilliant job so far, well done.

I'd like you to circle the situations that you think are risky and explain your reasoning with the person next to you.

Here are the situations.

Starting swimming lessons with a qualified instructor.

Accepting a friend request from an online stranger.

Going to the park without your trusted adults knowing.

Playing at the beach with your family and friends.

Or encouraging a friend to do an online challenge where they hold their breath.

Can you circle the situations that you think are risky? And talk to the person next to you about your reasoning.

Pause the video and we'll go through the answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you should have circled.

You should have circled that accepting a friend request from an online stranger, going to the park without your trusted adults knowing and encouraging a friend to do an online challenge where they hold their breath are all examples of risky situations.

Well done if you got this right.

Accepting a friend request from an online stranger is a risky situation because it isn't safe for children to interact with online strangers.

This online stranger may not be who they say they are and unfortunately they could harm the child in some ways.

For going to the park without your trusted adults knowing this is a risky situation because leaving the house without trusted adults knowing where you are going is dangerous.

To stay safe, it's important that trusted adults are always told where you're going.

Encouraging a friend to do an online challenge where they hold their breath is also a really risky situation because this person could cause someone else to get hurt or become seriously unwell.

Well done if your explanations sounded like this.

It's now time to move on to our second learning cycle, how can I keep myself safe in a risky situation? We can keep ourselves safe by making healthy choices.

If we think that we're in a risky situation, we can say no and leave the situation.

For example, if a friend is encouraging someone to play somewhere that's not safe.

We can also use our instinct and our brains to decide what the right thing to do is and if something or someone is harmful or dangerous.

Our instinct is often really good at keeping us safe.

We can use it to give us clues about how we can keep ourselves safe, especially in a risky situation or relationship.

Laura wants to share her story.

Laura says that, "When some of my friends suggested a new game that I didn't like the sound of my tummy felt funny and I felt like somebody was going to get hurt, this was my instinct.

I listened to it and I walked away and I told my teacher.

She said that did the right thing because the game sounded very risky." Our instinct can feel like an alarm going off in our head when something isn't quite right.

We might have some thoughts like, I don't think this is a good idea.

I have a bad feeling about this.

This doesn't sound safe.

I think someone could get hurt here or I don't feel safe right now.

When we listen to our instinct and we think about which options feel best for us, we're more likely to make healthy choices.

Alex wants to share his story.

He says that, "When my friends suggested going to the park together without our trusted adults knowing I listened to my instinct.

Although it sounded fun at first, my instinct told me that this wasn't a safe choice.

I realised how dangerous it would be if I left the house without my trusted adults knowing where I was and this helped me to say no and to make a healthy choice." Well done, Alex.

Our instinct can also help us to recognise who to trust or not to trust.

Aisha says, "If I feel calm, safe, and comfortable around someone, this helps me to know that I can trust them.

However, if someone makes me feel worried or uncomfortable, I don't trust them." Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

Is the statement true or false? Our instinct stops us from having fun.

If it tells us that something is wrong, we should ignore it.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that our instinct can often keep us safe by giving us signals when something is risky.

If our instinct tells us that something is wrong, we should listen as it can help us to make healthy choices and stay safe.

Well done if you got this right.

If we feel worried, scared or upset, telling a trusted adult will help.

Ms. Walsh reminds us that, "A trusted adult can help us to stay safe and can support us to make healthy choices too.

They can help us to understand our instinct and how we can use it to keep us safe." Trusted adults can help us even if we're not sure what to do or if a situation or relationship is risky.

Sam says, "When I had a friend request from an online stranger who said they went to my drama club, I wasn't sure what to do, I spoke to my mom and she said that I'd done the right thing by telling her as this was a risky situation.

She helped me to block and report the person and this helped me to stay safe." Our trusted adults can help us to take safe risks that allow us to learn, grow and have fun.

Alex says that, "When my dad suggested I join a new school club, I felt like my instinct was telling me that this was a bad idea, so I spoke to my dad.

He said that it sounded like I was just feeling worried and he reassured me that I would be safe.

I ended up having lots of fun." Let's do another check for understanding to see how you're doing.

Can you decide what should Andeep do next? Andeep says, "I feel uncomfortable because someone has given me something to eat, but they won't tell me what it is.

My instinct tells me that I shouldn't eat it." Can you decide what should Andeep do next? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that Andeep should listen to his instincts and not eat what he has been given as it could be dangerous, he should ask a trusted adult for help too.

Well done if you got this right.

We are now moving on to our second practise task.

Well done for your hard work so far.

For this task, I'd like you to rewrite the statements so that they are correct.

Number one, we always have to stay in a risky situation.

Number two, our instinct is always wrong and wants us to make unhealthy choices.

Number three, we have to manage feeling worried, scared or upset alone.

And finally, number four, all risks are unsafe.

Can you rewrite these statements so that they are correct? Pause the video and we'll go through the answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

For number one, you might have said, we can say no and leave a risky situation.

For number two, you might have said, our instinct is often right at keeping us safe and wants us to make healthy choices.

Number three, we don't have to manage feeling worried, scared or upset alone, we can ask a trusted adult for help.

and finally, you might have said that some risks are unsafe and our instincts and trusted adults can help us to decide which risks are safe to take.

Well done, if your sentences sounded anything like this.

we're now moving on to our final learning cycle, how can I be an active bystander? In risky situations, there are often bystanders.

Bystanders might see a risky situation but don't do anything about it.

Marcus says that, "Bystanders might ignore the risks that are part of the situation.

They might also see something risky happening and not tell a trusted adult or the people involved that what they are doing is risky or unsafe." We can support our friends and everyone around us by being what we call an active bystander.

Active bystanders identify when something bad is happening or when someone is in a risky situation and they take positive action to keep everyone safe.

Active bystanders might tell someone that what they're doing is dangerous.

They might tell a trusted adult if something unsafe or risky is happening.

They might be honest with their friends if they're in a risky situation.

And they could tell a trusted adult if they're worried about someone that they care about.

We are now going to do a check for understanding.

What is an active bystander likely to do in a risky situation? A, tell a trusted adult what's happening.

B, ignore what's happening and walk away.

Or C, tell someone that what they're doing is dangerous.

What is an active bystander likely to do in a risky situation? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that A and C are correct.

An active bystander in a risky situation is likely to tell a trusted adult what's happening and tell someone what they're doing is dangerous.

They would not ignore what's happening and walk away because an active bystander takes action when something isn't quite right.

Well done if you got this right.

It's not always easy to be an active bystander.

Sometimes our friends are the ones being unsafe and we need to tell a trusted adult about what's happening or tell our friends that they aren't making a healthy choice.

Aisha says, "I've had to be an active bystander when some of my friends were in a risky situation.

I was really worried that they'd be angry, but then I remembered that good friends keep each other safe." Aisha says, "When I told a trusted adult about what they were doing, my friends were upset at first.

Then they realised that what they were doing was unsafe and that I was just trying to help them.

In the end, they were grateful that I'd spoken out because otherwise someone could have been hurt." Well done, Aisha.

It's important to show understanding to our friends if they're worried about the choices that we are making.

Izzy says, "When Aisha told a trusted adult about a risky situation that I was in, I was really angry.

However, after I'd calmed down and my teacher had talked to me, I could see that Aisha was being a good friend by being an active bystander and looking out for me.

Active bystanders help to keep everyone safe." Let's do another check for understanding and this time it's going to be a true or false question.

Do you think this is true or false? We should be an active bystander unless it's our friends that are in a risky situation.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said something like, it's not always easy being an active bystander, but we should do what we can to keep everyone safe, even if it means telling a trusted adult about a risky situation that a friend is in.

Well done if you had this or something similar.

It's time to move on to our final practise task and you're doing amazingly, well done.

For the first part of this task, I'd like you to complete Alex's speech bubble so that he's being an active bystander.

Laura's saying to Alex, "Come on, Alex, let's reply back to the stranger that's messaged us in the game." What could Alex say next to be an active bystander? Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a minute.

You might have said that Alex is now going to say, "No, that's not a safe choice.

It's dangerous to talk to people online if we don't know them offline." Something like this would show that Alex is being an active bystander, well done.

For the second part of this task, I'd like you to answer this question, if Laura didn't listen to Alex, what should Alex do next? Pause the video and we'll go through what you might have said in a minute.

You might have said that Alex should continue to be an active bystander by leaving the game and telling a trusted adult.

Well done if you said something similar.

We're now going to summarise everything that we've learned from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that we can often keep ourselves safe by making healthy choices.

Some risks can help us to learn and to grow, but other situations are especially risky.

For example, meeting strangers online or going somewhere without our trusted adults knowing where we are would be examples of especially risky situations.

It's important to keep our friends and everyone around us safe by being an active bystander instead of just a bystander.

We can use our instincts and think carefully to help us to decide how to stay safe.

An active bystander tells someone that what they're doing is unsafe or tells the trusted adult about what's happening.

And finally, we've learned if we feel unsafe, worried, scared or upset, telling a trusted adult about what's happening can help us stay safe.

In today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or some questions, and if you do, it's really important you share these with a trusted adult.

There's also some resources on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for your hard work today, I'm really proud of you and I hope to see you in another lesson soon.