Lesson video

Hello, my name is Ms. Rose.

Today, we're going to be looking at the lesson called My Role in Positive Relationships.

This fits into the lesson unit, Power in Relationships: How Can We Create Positive Relationships? Now, in this lesson, we are going to be talking about things that might make you feel worried or uncomfortable.

So for this lesson, it is required that you have an adult with you before you continue watching.

Today's lesson outcome is, I can explain how to work at maintaining positive relationships.

Let's begin by taking a look at our ground rules together.

Laura says, "We should listen to others.

It is okay to disagree with each other, but we should listen properly before making assumptions or deciding how to respond.

When disagreeing, challenge the statement and not the person." Andeep says, "We should respect privacy.

We can discuss examples, but do not use names or descriptions that's identify anyone, including ourselves." Izzy says, "Choose your level of participation.

Everyone has the right to choose not to answer a question or join discussions.

We never put anyone on the spot." And Jacob says, "No judgments.

We can explore beliefs and misunderstandings about a topic without fear of being judged." All of these ground rules are here to keep everyone safe throughout today's lesson.

Here are today's keywords.

We have dynamics, boundary, and respect.

Dynamics means the ways in which people interact, communicate, and behave towards each other.

Boundary means an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow.

And respect means being considerate of others and the world around you, treating people fairly and how you would like to be treated.

Let's see if we can spot any of these keywords throughout today's lesson.

Here is the lesson's outline, and we are going to begin with, what are the dynamics of a positive relationship? We have different relationships with lots of different people.

And no matter who our relationship is with, there are some key dynamics involved that make these relationships positive.

Boundaries, every relationship should involve healthy limits, whether that is with a friend, a romantic partner, a colleague, or a person of authority.

Aisha says, "The dynamics of our boundaries might be different depending on who the relationship is with.

For example, our boundaries with a romantic partner may be different to the boundaries we have with a friend.

But no matter what, people should respect our boundaries, and we should respect theirs." Time to check for understanding.

True or false, the dynamics of our boundaries are the same in every relationship? Is this statement true or false? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "False." Now, I'd like you to have a moment to yourself to think about why this statement is false.

Pause this video, so you can have some thinking time.

This statement is false because, although every relationship should contain boundaries that both people respect, the dynamics of our boundaries will be different depending on who the relationship is with.

Respect, every positive relationship should be built on a foundation of mutual respect.

Lucas says, "No matter who the relationship is with, there should be a dynamic of mutual respect.

We should listen to other people and take into account their opinions, thoughts, feelings, and boundaries.

We should also expect the same from other people." Communication, positive relationships should involve healthy communication.

Jun says, "I'm open with my friends about the way I feel, and I go to them for support when I need it.

It's good to be open with the people that you care about." Ms. Walsh says, "Communication isn't always easy, especially if there is conflict.

However, respectful communication can help build positive relationships." Power, the dynamics of power will be different depending on the relationship.

However, as long as no one takes advantage of a power imbalance, the relationship can be positive and healthy.

Sam says, "For example, friendships should be based on equal responsibility and power.

It's important that everyone in the relationship feels that their ideas, thoughts, and opinions matter equally." Time for a check for understanding.

Which of the following is true about power dynamics? Is it A, all relationships will have equal power dynamics, B, imbalances of power are an issue if someone takes advantage of the imbalance, or C, friendships should be built on unequal power dynamics? Which of the following is true about power dynamics? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said, "B, imbalances of power are an issue if someone takes advantage of the imbalance." Time for a task now.

Around the image, write down four dynamics of a positive relationship.

Pause this video, so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

You might have written, "Positive relationships are built on respect.

We should take into account other people's feelings, thoughts, and opinions.

Everyone respects each other's boundaries.

Healthy communication is essential.

We should talk about how we feel and handle conflict with maturely.

And the power dynamics are different depending on the relationship.

Power is positive if no one takes advantage of a power imbalance." Well done if your answers were similar to mine.

We are now going to move on to the second and the final part of the lesson, how do I maintain positive relationships? We have relationships with lots of different people, colleagues, friends, teachers, caregivers, and other professionals.

With every connection in our lives, we have the ability to maintain positive relationships and to seek support or set boundaries if a healthy relationship no longer feels positive or healthy.

Being reliable is one of the keys to maintaining positive relationships.

This means doing what you say you will, showing up when you say that you will, following through on commitments, and being someone that other people can depend on.

This is true for all of our relationships.

Time for check for understanding.

What does reliable mean? Is it A, doing what you want, when you want, B, doing anything your friends ask you to, C, following through on commitments that you make, or D, only showing up when you feel like it? What does reliable mean? Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done If you said, "C." Being reliable means following through on commitments that you make.

Showing appreciation to the people in our lives also helps to maintain positive relationships.

Lucas says, "This means saying, 'Thank you,' to people and acknowledging the things that they do for us.

It also means that we repay people with our kindness and treat them fairly." Listening to people is an important part of maintaining positive relationships.

Aisha says, "This means actively listening and really hearing what the other person is saying to us.

This shows people that we respect their ideas, thoughts, and feelings.

It can make people feel good when we show that we genuinely care about what they have to say." We should express our feelings in order to maintain positive relationships.

Laura says, "This means expressing both positive and negative feelings.

We should be able to express ourselves in our relationships and should always do this respectfully.

If we can tell people what makes us feel good or what concerns us, it can help others to behave in a way that makes us feel happy, safe, and secure." Time for check for understanding.

True or false, we should only express positive feelings in our relationships to keep them positive? Is this statement true or false? Pause this video, so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said, "False." Now, I'd like you to have a little moment to yourself to think about why this statement is false.

This statement is false because we should express both positive and negative feelings because it can help others to treat us in a way that makes us feel happy, safe, and secure.

Being trustworthy is another important part of maintaining positive relationships.

Sam says, "Being trustworthy means that people can count on us to be honest, reliable, and responsible.

It is more than just not telling lies to people.

It means we are someone that the people in our relationships can trust to do what we say we will." Managing conflict constructively can help us to maintain positive relationships.

Jun says, "Conflicts are unavoidable and can appear in any of our relationships.

We should not avoid conflict, but instead try to approach it with calm understanding and express how we feel, rather than put the blame on somebody else." Managing conflict constructively might look like this, I feel upset when.

I don't like it when.

That makes me feel.

And not like this, you are always.

It's your fault that.

That time for a check for understanding.

Decide which of these statements are examples of handling conflict constructively.

Pause this video, so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said that these statements are examples of handling conflict constructively.

I feel upset when.

And I want you to understand.

Sometimes conflicts become a common part of our relationships, and this may be a sign that it's time to step away.

Other signs might be, your boundaries are no longer being respected, you don't feel listened to anymore, you no longer feel safe, you no longer have trust in another person, or you no longer have the same interests, goals, or joys.

Relationships can change over time, and that is okay.

Walking away from a relationship that no longer suits who we are as a person can be difficult and uncomfortable, but it can be an inevitable part of going up.

We should accept that it will be an uncomfortable experience, handle the situation delicately and with respect, communicate our feelings honestly, without intentionally upsetting the other person, understand that you can set new boundaries if you need to, such as asking the other person not to contact you anymore, and try not to place too much guilt in yourself.

Change is a natural part of life, and moving on can keep us in a positive space.

If you are ever concerned about a relationship and need some support, you can speak to a trusted adult at home or at school.

If a relationship makes you feel unsafe or worried for your safety, you don't want to speak to someone in person, you can speak to Childline or the NSPCC.

If you feel your safety is in danger, you can speak to the police on 999.

Time for check for understanding.

How can we step away from a relationship respectfully? Is it A, tell them how much you dislike them, B, calmly express new boundaries, or C, blame them for everything that went wrong? How can we step away from a relationship respectfully? Pause this video, so you can have some thinking time.

Well done if you said, "B." We can step away from a relationship respectfully by calmly expressing new boundaries.

Time for a task now.

Give three pieces of advice to David about how to maintain positive relationships.

David says, "I have recently started a romantic relationship with Emily, and I want to know what I can do to help keep our relationship happy and positive." Think of three pieces of advice to give David about how to maintain positive relationships.

Pause this video, so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

You might have said, "You should actively listen to each other's thoughts, feelings, and ideas, so that you both feel respected and heard.

You should express how you feel, whether that is a positive or negative thing, so that you both treat each other in a way that makes you feel happy, safe, and secure.

And you should be trustworthy and reliable, this means that you both do what you say you will and follow through on commitments." For the second part of the task, I would like you to give Holly three pieces of advice about how she can step away from a negative relationship.

Read the scenario, and then think of your three pieces of advice.

Pause this video, so you can have some time to do the task, and then we will go through the answers together.

Well done for having a go.

You might have said, "You should express your feelings to your friends respectfully and tell them how you feel.

If you feel like the relationship is no longer positive, you might want to step away from it, especially if you feel like your boundaries are no longer being respected.

And if you feel concerned, unsafe, or worried about the relationship, you can speak to a trusted adult or a service, like Childline, who can help you." Well done if your answers were similar to mine.

This brings us to the end of our lesson.

Here is a summary of everything that we've covered today.

The dynamics of each relationship might look different.

For example, the dynamics of a professional relationship will look different to the dynamics of a friendship.

In all of our relationships, there should be boundaries, we should expect people to respect ours, and we should do the same for other people.

We can maintain relationships by listening to others, expressing our feelings, and being trustworthy.

If you are ever concerned about a relationship, you can speak to a trusted adult, a service like Childline, or the police if you are worried about your safety.

Here's a slide with different places that you can get support.

We have the Childline, which is a website and phone line which is able to offer confidential advice and support.

We have the CEOP.

The CEOP helps protect children from online abuse and exploitation.