Lesson video

Hello, my name is Miss Willow, and I'm going to be your teacher for today's lesson.

Today's lesson is called Types of Positive Relationship, and it fits into the unit Power in Relationships: How can we create positive relationships? During this lesson, we are going to be talking about some sensitive content, so for this lesson, we recommend that you have an adult with you.

If at any point you do feel worried or uncomfortable during this lesson, it's really important that you stop the lesson and that you speak to a trusted adult.

Okay, let's make a start.

By the end of today's lesson, you will be able to describe different types of positive relationships and you'll be able to explain why they are important.

Before we get started with today's lesson, we need to go over some ground rules.

These help to make sure that everyone feels safe and comfortable during today's lesson.

First of all, Laura says that we need to listen to others.

It's okay to disagree with each other, but we should always listen properly before we make any assumptions or before we decide how to respond.

When we disagree with someone else, it's important to challenge the statement and not the person themselves.

Next, we have Andeep.

Andeep says that we need to respect each other's privacy.

We can discuss examples, but we shouldn't use any names or descriptions that could identify anyone, including ourselves.

If we want to share a story, we can refer to someone as "my friend." This means that we're not going to give away any identifying information.

Next, we have Jacob.

Jacob says, "No judgment." We can explore any beliefs and misunderstandings that we have about a topic without fear of being judged by others.

And finally, Izzy says that we can choose our level of participation.

Everyone has the right to choose not to answer a question or to join in with discussion.

We should never put anyone on the spot.

We're now going to take a look at the keywords for today's lesson.

Our first keyword is relationship.

In this context, this is the ways in which people connect with each other.

Next, we have boundary.

This is an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow.

And finally, we have respect.

This is being considerate of others in the world around you, treating people fairly and how you would like to be treated.

Today's lesson is split into two learning cycles.

Our first learning cycle is called Where do we find different relationships? And our second learning cycle is called, What do these relationships look like? Let's make a start on our first learning cycle, Where do we find different relationships? Relationships are the ways in which people connect with each other.

Humans are social beings and relationships provide us with a sense of belonging.

They're also extremely important for our wellbeing.

We have relationships in lots of different areas of our lives and for various reasons.

Laura says, "Izzy and I are friends." Izzy says that "We've known each other since primary school." This relationship is an example of a friendship.

We might make friends through schools, clubs, or other social activities.

Aisha's grandmother says, "I'm Aisha's grandmother." And Holly says, "I'm Alex's sister, Holly." These are examples of family relationships.

Every family is unique and can be made up of lots of different family members.

This can include people that are not related to us biologically.

We are now going to do a check for understanding to see how you're doing with this learning cycle.

I'd like you to fill in the missing word.

"Relationships are the ways in which people blank with each other." Where I've said the word "blank," which word is missing? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that the word "connect" was missing.

Our complete sentence now says that "Relationships are the ways in which people connect with each other." Well done if you got this right.

Pupils have professional working relationships with teachers and other staff at school.

Professional working relationships also exist at places of work.

Dr.

Elsie and Pharmacist Harper have a professional working relationship as colleagues at the same workplace.

At some stage in our lives, we may also choose to have romantic relationships.

Romantic relationships are different to other relationships because they're characterized by a feeling of attraction and a want of physical or emotional closeness to another person.

Let's do another check for understanding.

Is this statement true or false? Romantic relationships are characterized by a feeling of attraction.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is true.

It's true that romantic relationships are characterized by a feeling of attraction.

They can also be characterized by wanting to be emotionally or physically close to someone else.

Well done if you got this right.

We have a patient-healthcare provider relationship with medical professionals that look after us.

So for example, our doctor or our dentist.

Dentist Harry, says that "I've been treating some of my patients since they were toddlers.

Many of them are now young adults with a full set of teeth." It's also important that we pay attention to our relationship with ourselves.

Do we show the same respect and consideration to our own inner thoughts and feelings as we do to those of the people we have relationships with, whether these are romantic or just friendly? Aisha's Mum says, "I'm always telling Aisha that she needs to listen to her own advice.

She tells her friends to be kinder to themselves, but she doesn't always do it herself." Let's do another check for understanding.

A patient-healthcare provider relationship is with.

A: a colleague at work, B: a medical professional, C: a teacher at school, or D: a family member? What do you think? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that B is correct.

A patient-healthcare provider relationship is with a medical professional, for example, with a doctor, a pharmacist, or a dentist.

Well done if you got this right.

We're now moving on to our first practice task, and well done for your hard work in this learning cycle so far.

For each of the following relationships, I'd like you to decide what type of relationship it is.

Two children who enjoy playing football together, a patient and a nurse, a foster parent and their child, mechanics working together at the same workshop, two people who are attracted to each other and who are emotionally close, and a teenager accepting that they made a mistake rather than being critical of themselves about it.

So for each of those relationships, can you decide what type of relationship it is? Pause the video and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

You might have said that for two children who enjoy playing football together, these are friends.

A patient and a nurse are an example of a patient-healthcare provider relationship.

A foster parent and their child is an example of family.

Mechanics working together at the same workshop would have a professional working relationship.

Two people who are attracted to each other and who are emotionally close could be in a romantic relationship, and a teenager accepting that they made a mistake rather than being critical of themselves about it is an example of a relationship with ourselves.

Well done if you got this right.

We're now moving on to our second learning cycle, What do these relationships look like? Land is sometimes separated into boundaries by using fences or walls.

Crossing over a boundary can have consequences.

For example, people could be fined if they don't respect a boundary or if they trespass on private property.

In a similar way, positive relationships also have healthy boundaries.

A boundary is like an imaginary line separating what we do or don't feel comfortable with.

And you might remember that this is one of the keywords for today's lesson.

When a person respects our boundaries, it can help us to feel valued, safe, and secure.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing.

Which of these enable a relationship to stay positive? A: unhealthy boundaries, B: respecting each other's boundaries, or C: ignoring each other's boundaries? What do you think? Which of these enable a relationship to stay positive? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that B is correct.

Respecting each other's boundaries enables a relationship to stay positive.

Unhealthy boundaries and ignoring each other's boundaries would not make a relationship stay positive.

In fact, these are signs that a relationship could be unhealthy.

Well done if you got this right.

Although friends might have lots in common, so they might like doing the same things or have similar values, they may have different boundaries.

Laura says, "I enjoy going out with my friends for the day, but I don't like to spend too much money." And Izzy says, "I respect Laura's boundaries by finding something to do together that doesn't cost too much or is free." Families may also have boundaries around the way that things are done at home.

Aisha's grandmother says, "When we eat dinner together, Aisha is asked not to have her phone at the table." And Aisha says, "I respect my grandma's boundaries by not having my phone at dinner time so that we can chat properly.

This makes her feel valued." Maybe you want to reflect about some of the boundaries that you have at home.

Now we're going to do another check for understanding.

I'd like you to decide is Alex showing respect for Holly's boundaries? Holly says, "Alex, did you go in my room to borrow a phone charger?" Alex says, "Yes, I know you don't like me going in your room without asking, but I needed it." What do you think? Is Alex showing respect for Holly's boundaries? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that no, Alex is not showing respect for Holly's boundaries.

He's gone into her bedroom, which is something that Holly doesn't like him doing without asking, meaning that Holly doesn't feel valued or secure.

This could have a negative impact on Holly and Alex's relationship.

Well done if you got this right.

It's important that pupils and staff respect each other's boundaries.

Sam says, "Our teachers have boundaries in class that we mustn't talk over people." And Jacob says, "This makes sure that pupils and staff feel seen and heard.

It makes the classroom a fun place to be." It's also important the colleagues respect each other's boundaries in the workplace.

Even though Dr.

Elsie and Pharmacist Harper know each other well, they respect each other's physical boundaries by shaking hands instead of hugging when greeting each other at work.

Medical professionals such as doctors, dentists, or nurses must respect boundaries when looking after patients.

And one example of a boundary in this context is patient confidentiality.

This means that a medical professional cannot share a person's health information without their permission.

Let's do a check for understanding to see how you're doing.

Is this true or false? A medical professional can share a person's health information with anyone else.

What do you think? Is this true or false? Pause the video, talk to the people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that this is false, but why? You might have said that medical professionals must respect boundaries such as patient confidentiality, and they cannot share a person's health information without their consent.

Well done if you got this right.

This person says, "I enjoy spending time together, but I also value some time apart." And his partner says, "I respect this by giving my partner time and space without making them feel guilty." This shows what respecting each other's boundaries could look like in a romantic relationship.

Sometimes people may not respect our boundaries even when we've made them clear.

If someone crosses your boundaries and makes you feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or disrespected, it's really important to talk to a trusted adult such as a parent, carer, teacher, or another member of school staff that we feel safe talking to.

Remember that it's never your fault if someone doesn't respect your boundaries, especially if you've communicated them really clearly.

Speaking to a trusted adult can help you to feel safe and supported in this scenario.

Although all relationships should be built on healthy boundaries and respect, there are other qualities to a positive relationship, depending on who the relationship is with.

Dr.

Elsie says, "When I'm at work, I don't play practical jokes on my colleagues as I'm in a professional workspace." But she says, "When I'm at home, I can be relaxed and silly around my family as we like to have fun and make each other laugh." This shows how boundaries can change in different relationships and in different contexts.

Let's do another check for understanding.

This time, I'd like you to fill in the missing words.

"Although all relationships should be built on healthy boundaries and respect, there are other blank to a positive relationship, depending on blank the relationship is with.

Where I've said the word "blank," can you decide which word is missing? Pause the video, talk to people around you or have a think to yourself.

Well done if you said that the missing words were "qualities" and "who." So our completed sentence should now say, "Although all relationships should be built on healthy boundaries and respect, there are other qualities to a positive relationship, depending on who the relationship is with." Well done if you got this right.

We're now moving on to our final practice task and well done for your hard work in this learning cycle so far.

For each of these scenarios, can you discuss whether these are the qualities of a positive relationship? I'd like you to give a reason for your answer.

Here's scenario number one.

"I don't like being hugged unless it is someone from my close family.

I have a friend at school who keeps hugging me every day, even though they know I don't like it." Here's our next scenario.

"I ask my sister not to tease me in front of my friends, but she keeps making embarrassing jokes about me whenever they're around." Here's our next scenario.

"I told my teacher that loud music in assembly makes me uncomfortable.

My teacher has provided me with ear defenders and tells me beforehand if there will be lots of noise." So for each of those scenarios, can you discuss whether these are the qualities of a positive relationship? Give a reason for your answer.

Pause the video and we'll go through some potential answers in a few minutes.

Okay, let's see what you might have said.

Let's take a look at our first scenario again.

"I don't like being hugged unless it's someone from my close family.

I have a friend at school who keeps hugging me every day, even though they know I don't like it." You might have said that these are not the qualities of a positive relationship.

This person's friend is not showing respect towards their boundaries, which is making them feel unvalued.

Let's take a look at our second scenario.

"I asked my sister not to tease me in front of my friends, but she keeps making embarrassing jokes about me whenever they're around." You might have said that these are also not the qualities of a positive relationship.

This person's sister is not showing respect towards their boundaries, which is making them feel unvalued and insecure.

And finally, let's look at our last scenario.

"I told my teacher that loud music in assembly makes me uncomfortable.

My teacher has provided me with ear defenders and tells me beforehand if there will be lots of noise." You might have said that these are the qualities of a positive relationship.

This person's teacher is showing respect towards their boundaries, which is making them feel safe, secure, and valued.

Well done if your answers were anything like this.

We're now gonna summarize the key learning from today's lesson.

In today's lesson, we've learned that relationships are the way in which two or more people are connected and they can provide a sense of belonging.

We've learned that there are many different types of relationships: friendships, family, romantic, professional working relationships, and patient-healthcare provider relationships.

All positive relationships should be based on healthy boundaries and respect.

There are other qualities to a positive relationship, depending on who the relationship is with.

And finally, we've learned that when a person respects our boundaries, it can help us to feel valued, safe, and secure.

During today's lesson, you might have found that you've got some worries or questions, and if you do, it's really important that you share these with a trusted adult.

There's also some resources on the screen that are there to help you too.

Well done for your hard work today.

I hope to see you again.