Lesson video

Hello.

Welcome to our final lesson in this unit of work, "Respectful Relationships." In this lesson, we will learn about why and how a friendship or relationship might end and how to maturely respond in this situation.

We will also look at the damaging nature of trying to maintain an unwanted friendship or relationship.

This lesson covers some content that may be a sensitive topic for you.

We recommend checking with a trusted adult before starting the lesson or completing the lesson with a trusted adult nearby.

If you're ready, then let's go.

For this lesson, you will need an exercise book or paper, and a pen to write with.

If you need to pause this video and collect the equipment do so now and press Play when you're ready to carry on.

The agenda for today's lesson looks like this.

We will start by answering this question of why friendships might end.

We will then look at how we can maturely move on from a relationship and look at the damaging nature of trying to maintain any unwanted relationship or friendship.

We will end with a reflection and an exit quiz.

The keywords for today's lesson include, conflict.

This is a serious disagreement or argument between people.

Emotionally mature.

Someone who can manage their emotions no matter the circumstances.

They can respond well to tough situations.

And finally, a friendship, a state of mutual trust and support between people.

Let us begin with a reflection on last lesson.

What causes conflict and what might cause a friendship to end? To start you off on your spider diagram, we discussed changing interests.

Pause the video now and see what else you can remember for reasons why a friendship might end.

So let's see how many of those reasons you remembered from last lesson.

We started with changing interests and the other four ideas that we discussed last lesson included, having new people join a friendship or social group, jealousy between the two people in particular or against others, one person giving more time than the other, and finally poor communication.

So not sharing exactly how we are feeling with the other person.

Friendships can end for all different types of reasons.

And sometimes they end suddenly with a disagreements and they can also end gradually as people develop different interests or have different priorities.

You may remember that over the last few lessons, we have been looking at the story developing between Aisha and Zoya.

There has been a further update.

Remember that Aisha and Zoya were friends but Zoya has started taking part in a Drama club which was making Aisha feel left out as she had no interest in joining the same club.

Both students attended the Restorative Practise meeting.

They agreed to have a fresh start and they even went shopping together.

Aisha did attend one of the Drama club sessions but she was definitely sure that she would have no interest in acting.

One week later Aisha is feeling more and more left out after she finds out that Zoya held a sleepover with her Drama club friends without inviting her.

My question to you now is this, what is your advice? Pause the video and write down what you would say to both Aisha and Zoya in this situation.

Press Play when you're ready to resume.

Now, sadly, this is an example of when a friendship has grown apart gradually.

And their interests and groups of friends have started to move in opposite directions.

Both Aisha and Zoya might recognise this now as a time to end their friendship maturely.

This can happen and it is okay if your interests differ from the person that you were once friends with.

Do not worry.

This next part of the lesson will look at moving on and maturely responding to the end of a friendship or relationship.

Learning to move on without ill-feeling is part of a mature response to these normal life events.

Have a look at the definition on the screen.

Is this true or false? Does it match with the definition that I gave you at the beginning of the lesson? This is true.

Being emotionally mature means that you can deal with any difficult or good situation.

It is especially important when you are facing tough decisions or situations.

So for example, Aisha and zoya deciding to end their friendship.

If you do get yourself in a situation where you need to move on from a friendship or relationship and you need to consider some mature responses, you should remember that not all friendships are meant to be forever.

Don't forget the good parts and the reasons why you were friends in the first place.

Appreciate the support system around you.

The other friends you have, your family, and your school staff.

Don't be afraid to talk about it.

Whether that be with someone else you are close with or by writing it down and sharing your thoughts and feelings with somebody else.

Be realistic about your role in it.

Don't always put all the blame on the other person and set boundaries for yourself.

It might be a case that you still need to see the other person in your day-to-day life.

So be realistic that you might need to speak to them, spend time with them, and complete work together, but set your boundaries on how much you will share with that person.

For your next activity, I would like you to imagine that you are Aisha reflecting on the end of her friendship with Zoya.

Write down what she might be thinking and feeling using those six steps that we've just discussed.

The six steps were, knowing that not all friendships are forever, appreciating the good times, acknowledging the support system that is around you, not being afraid to talk to other people, being realistic about Aisha's role in what happened and taking responsibility, and setting boundaries in case she has to spend time with Zoya in the future.

Pause the video now and press Play when you're ready to resume the lesson.

For this final part of the lesson, we will be discussing the damaging nature of trying to maintain a friendship or relationship that is unwanted.

It is important to know that if you try to do this it can be damaging for both people.

Our friendships can have a tremendous impact on our lives.

And so it is very important that in all cases, and for both parties, they are supportive, understanding, and happy relationships.

If you are ever feeling unequal in a friendship it is very important that you seek help because this can be very damaging to your mental well-being.

A good place to start is to speak to a trusted adult and they will be able to give you advice and support.

For your next task, I would like you to summarise what you have learned in this unit of work.

I am asking you to complete a leaflet covering the topics that we have looked at.

So that includes features of a healthy friendship, respecting privacy and boundaries of others, how to resolve a conflict, and mature responses to ending a friendship.

Please pause the video now so that you can complete that task and press Play when you're ready to finish the lesson with our reflection.

The reflection for today's lesson.

Friendships can end for different reasons.

They can end suddenly with a disagreement, or people can grow gradually apart because of their different interests or priorities.

Learning to move on is part of life and looking at mature responses is very important.

Trying to maintain a friendship that is unwanted can be damaging for both parties.

I have been Mrs. Smith.

Thank you so much for joining me in this lesson.

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Thank you again.

Goodbye.