Lesson video

Hello, my name is Miss Wroth.

Today we're going to be looking at the lesson called, "Difference Between Secrets and Surprises".

This fits into the lesson unit, "Power in Relationships, Should I Keep Secrets?" Now, for this lesson, it is recommended that you have a trusted adult with you before you continue watching.

Have you got them with you? Great, let's get ready to begin.

Today's lesson outcome is I can describe the difference between secrets and surprises.

Let's begin by taking a look at our ground rules together and we have some friends here to help us.

Laura says, "We should listen to others," and that means we are not going to talk or interrupt when somebody else is speaking.

Andeep says, "We should respect privacy," and that means if somebody decides to share a story or talk about their own experiences, we're not going to repeat them to others outside of this lesson.

Jacob says, "No judgement ," and that means if somebody does decide to share a story or talk about their experiences, we're not going to judge them or make comments because of it.

And Izzy says, "Choose your level of participation," and that means you can decide if you simply just want to listen or if you want to share something throughout.

All of these ground rules are here to keep everyone safe in the lesson.

Here are today's keywords.

I will read them first to you and then you can repeat them after me.

Are you ready? Surprise.

Secret.

Worried.

Uncomfortable.

Scared.

Well done.

Surprise means something that is hidden for a short time to make it more fun, like a present or a party.

A secret is something that is kept hidden.

Worried means feeling scared or nervous about something that might happen.

Uncomfortable means feeling anxious, worried or unable to relax.

And scared means feeling afraid when you think something bad might happen.

Let's see if we can spot these keywords throughout today's lesson.

Here is the lesson's outline and we're going to begin with are secrets and surprises the same? A surprise is something like a present or a surprise party.

Surprises are okay and can feel fun or exciting.

Have you ever been part of a surprise before? Have a little think to yourself.

Miss Walsh says, "Surprises are not a bad thing.

If we're keeping a surprise for a short amount of time and it will make people happier, then it is okay not to say anything." Izzy says, "My mom and I bought my sister a surprise present.

I wasn't allowed to tell her until her birthday." Jacob says, "My parents took us on a surprise holiday.

We didn't know where we were going until the day.

It was so exciting." I bet, Jacob, that's a very exciting surprise.

We always know when we can reveal a surprise.

That means we know when we can tell somebody about the surprise.

Izzy says, "I knew I was able to reveal the surprise present when it was my sister's birthday." And Jacob says, "My parents knew they were going to reveal the surprise holiday on the day we were leaving." Time for a check for understanding.

How should surprises feel? Is it A, fun, B, sad or C, exciting? How should surprises feel? Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said A and C.

Surprises should feel fun and exciting.

A secret is something that is kept hidden from other people.

Secrets can make us feel worried, uncomfortable or scared.

Sometimes someone might ask us to keep a secret.

Jun says, "My brother broke my favourite toy and asked me to keep it a secret from our parents." Unlike surprises, secrets are kept hidden with no plan to reveal or tell somebody.

Sophia says, "My friend pushed me on the playground.

He told me not to tell anyone." We should never keep secrets that make us feel worried, uncomfortable or scared.

Time for a check for understanding.

Is this example a secret or a surprise? How do you know? James says, "Don't tell anyone that I broke the teacher's pencil and hid it in the drawer." Is this is a secret or a surprise? Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Okay, so this example is a secret.

James is asking his friend to hide the truth from the teacher.

Time for a task now.

We're going to read each scenario on the next slide and then I would like you to draw a tick in the box to show whether the scenario is a secret or a surprise.

Here are the scenarios.

Let's read them together.

The first scenario says, "You've made a card for your friend, but you can't show them until it's their birthday." The second scenario says, "Someone in your class says, 'If you tell the teacher I was mean to you, I won't be your friend anymore.

'" The third scenario says, "Your friend says, 'Don't tell anyone, but I took a toy from school and put it in my bag.

'" And the last scenario says, "You've painted a picture for your teacher and want to give it to them on the last day of term." So your task is to decide which scenarios are secrets and which scenarios are surprises.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task and then we'll go through the answers together.

Okay, well done for having a go.

So your ticks should look like this.

For the first scenario, it says, "You've made a card for your friend, but you can't show them until it's their birthday." So this is a surprise, because the friend is going to reveal the surprise when it's their birthday.

The second scenario says, "Someone in your class says, 'If you tell the teacher I was mean to you, I won't be your friend anymore.

'" Now, this is a secret, because what the person is saying might make you feel worried or uncomfortable.

The third scenario says, "Your friend says, 'Don't tell anyone that I took a toy from school and put it in my bag.

'" This scenario is a secret, because this person doesn't want them to tell anyone.

The secret is not going to be revealed unless the friend decides not to keep it a secret.

And the fourth scenario says, "You've painted a picture for your teacher and want to give it to them on the last day of term." This is a surprise, because it's gonna make the teacher happy and the teacher's gonna find out on the last day of term.

Well done if you've got those correct.

We're now going to move on to the second and the final part of our lesson.

What if a secret makes us feel uncomfortable? If a secret makes us feel worried, uncomfortable or scared, we should tell a trusted adult, such as parents and carers at home and teachers and school staff at school.

This includes secrets from adults and children.

Time for a check for understanding.

Who should we tell if a secret makes us feel worried, uncomfortable or scared? Is it A, our friend, B, a younger sibling or C, a trusted adult? Hmm.

Who should we tell if a secret makes us feel worried, uncomfortable or scared? Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said C.

We must tell a trusted adult if a secret makes us feel worried, scared or uncomfortable.

We should never keep secrets if someone touches our bodies in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable.

Sophia says, "I knew I needed to tell a trusted adult when my friend pushed me over, because he told me not to tell anyone.

My body hurt and I felt worried." Okay, time for a check for understanding.

Why is it especially important for Rachel to tell a trusted adult about this secret? Rachel says, "Someone in my class touched my body when I was gonna the toilet.

It made me feel uncomfortable.

She told me not to tell anyone when I got upset." Hmm, why is it especially important for Rachel to tell a trusted adult about this secret? Pause the video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Okay, so it is especially important for Rachel to tell a trusted adult about this secret, because someone has touched her body in a way that made her feel uncomfortable.

Well done if your answer was similar to mine.

Our bodies give us clues that we need to tell a trusted adult about what's happened.

We might have a funny feeling in our tummy.

Our heart might beat faster.

We might feel like we want to cry.

Time to check for understanding.

Tell your partner two clues that our body might give us which help us know when we should tell a trusted adult about something.

Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Okay, so you might have said, "We might have a funny feeling in our tummy.

Our heart might beat faster and we might feel like we want to cry." Well done if you got those answers correct.

It is always okay to ask a trusted adult if we're unsure about a secret.

You could ask your trust adult, "Is this a secret or a surprise? What should I do if someone's told me not to tell, but it feels wrong?" If an adult doesn't listen properly or help you, keep telling other adults until you are heard.

Miss Walsh says, "We can ask trusted adults at school if we cannot get the help we need at home." Okay, time for a check for understanding.

Fill in the missing words in this sentence.

If an adult doesn't listen properly or help you, telling other until you are heard.

What could those missing words be? Pause this video so you can have some time to think about your answer.

Well done if you said keep and adults.

If an adult doesn't listen properly or help you, keep telling other adults until you are heard.

Time for a task now.

First, I would like you to draw and label a picture to show what to do if a secret makes you feel uncomfortable.

Then I would like you to tell your partner when it is especially important to tell a trusted adult about a secret.

Pause this video so you can have some time to do the task and then we will go through the answers together.

Okay, well done for having a go.

Your picture and label could look like this.

We should tell our trusted adult if a secret makes us feel uncomfortable.

And for the second part of the task, I wanted you to tell your partner when it is especially important to tell a trusted adult about a secret.

So your answer should include, "It is especially important to tell a trusted adult about a secret if someone touches our bodies in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable." Well done if your answer is similar to mine.

This brings us to the end of our lesson, and I've had a wonderful time with you today.

Thank you for joining me.

Here is a summary of everything that we've covered in today's lesson.

A surprise is something like a present or a surprise party.

Surprises are okay and can be fun.

We always know when we can reveal a surprise.

A secret is something that is kept hidden from other people without a plan to reveal it.

Secrets can make us feel worried, uncomfortable or scared.

If a secret makes us feel worried, uncomfortable or scared, we should tell a trusted adult.

We should never keep secrets if someone touches our bodies in a way that makes us feel uncomfortable.

If a trusted adult doesn't listen properly or help you, keep telling other adults until you are heard.

Here is a slide with a place that you can get support.

We have the Childline, which is a website and phone line which is able to offer confidential advise and support.