Saying no kindly
Lesson details
Learning outcome
I can describe how to say no respectfully.
Key learning points
- Friends can sometimes ask us to do things that make us feel uncomfortable.
- It is ok to say no to friends if we feel uncomfortable.
- If we say no, we can do so with respect and kindness.
- It’s good to have healthy boundaries.
- Good friends will respect our boundaries and treat us with kindness when we say no.
Keywords
Uncomfortable - feeling anxious, worried or unable to relax
Respect - treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas and boundaries; for example, listening carefully and being polite, even if you disagree
Boundary - an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow
Kindness - being nice, caring and thinking about how others feel
Common misconception
It is rude to say no.
As long as we speak kindly, it is ok to say no to someone else. We might choose to explain the reasons for saying no, as it can help the other person to understand our reasons why, but we don't have to.
Teacher tip
You should speak to the lead on anti-bullying or pastoral support in your setting before delivering this lesson.
Content guidance
Depiction or discussion of peer pressure or bullying
Depiction or discussion of peer pressure or bullying
Supervision
Adult supervision recommended
Licence
Lesson video
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Prior knowledge starter quiz
6 Questions
Q1.Match the words with their definition.
sadness from feeling like you're alone or that you don't belong
someone who cares for you, helps you and makes you feel happy
to happily invite someone in and make them feel comfortable
when two or more people have different ideas about something
Q2.Which of the following statements are true?
Q3.Which is an example of being kind?
Q4.To someone means inviting and welcoming them into a group or situation.
Q5.Which of these is an example of a trusted adult?
Q6.Which statement is false?
Assessment exit quiz
6 Questions
Q1.Match the words with their definition.
feeling anxious, worried or unable to relax
an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow
being nice, caring and thinking about how others feel
Q2.If we say 'no', we can do so with and kindness.
Q3.Which statements are true?
Q4.What do good friends do?
Q5.Match the example to why the person would say 'no'.
"Let’s leave Alex out of a game!"
"Let’s cross, the green person isn’t showing but it looks safe!"
"Can you stay up an hour past bedtime to play a game with me?"
Q6.Which examples might a person say 'no' to?
To help you plan your 2 RSHE (PSHE) lesson on: Saying no kindly, download all teaching resources for free and adapt to suit your pupils' needs...
To help you plan your 2 RSHE (PSHE) lesson on: Saying no kindly, download all teaching resources for free and adapt to suit your pupils' needs.
The starter quiz will activate and check your pupils' prior knowledge, with versions available both with and without answers in PDF format.
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