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      Our emotions toolkit: self-esteem

      Lesson details

      Learning outcome

      I can explain what self-esteem is and what affects it.

      Key learning points

      1. Confidence is when we feel it is possible we can do something.
      2. We all have different strengths.
      3. Self-esteem is how confident we feel about ourselves in general.
      4. Self-esteem is built by positivity and success.
      5. Self-esteem is broken down by negativity, unkindness and failure.

      Keywords

      • Confidence - believing in yourself and your abilities and feeling sure you can do things, even when they're hard

      • Self-esteem - feeling good about yourself and knowing that you're a good person who deserves to be treated well

      • Positive - good, encouraging thoughts or comments

      • Negative - bad, unkind thoughts or comments

      • Failure - when something doesn't work out how you wanted or when we don't achieve something we wanted to

      Common misconception

      Confidence and self-esteem are the same thing.

      Self-esteem is an overall feeling about yourself. Confidence can be different in different situations.

      Teacher tip

      Consider how you can use classroom displays to celebrate pupils to build self-esteem.

      Licence

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      Lesson video

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      Prior knowledge starter quiz

      6 Questions

      Q1.
      Match the word to the definition.

      Correct Answer:emotion,feelings we have inside, like happiness, sadness or anger

      feelings we have inside, like happiness, sadness or anger

      Correct Answer:experience,things that happen to us and how they make us feel

      things that happen to us and how they make us feel

      Correct Answer:change,the way things become different to how they used to be

      the way things become different to how they used to be

      Q2.
      What do emotions give us?

      presents and birthday cards
      Correct answer: information about ourselves
      Correct answer: information about the world around us
      information about animals

      Q3.
      Which statements are true?

      Correct answer: We cannot control which emotions we feel.
      We can control which emotions we feel.
      Correct answer: We can do things to manage our feelings.
      We cannot do things to manage our feelings.

      Q4.
      Strong emotions ...

      are easy to manage
      Correct answer: are normal
      Correct answer: can be difficult to manage
      are not normal

      Q5.
      If we were feeling worried, what could we do to manage our emotions?

      run away
      keep our emotions to ourself
      Correct answer: write our feelings down
      Correct answer: speak to a trusted adult
      Correct answer: do something we enjoy

      Q6.
      Why is it important to manage our feelings?

      Correct answer: so that we can stay in control
      so that our emotions can take over our lives
      so that we can feel happy forever
      Correct answer: so that we can stay calm

      6 Questions

      Q1.
      Match the word to the definition.

      Correct Answer:confidence,believing in yourself and your abilities

      believing in yourself and your abilities

      Correct Answer:self-esteem,general confidence in yourself

      general confidence in yourself

      Correct Answer:failure,not achieving something that we wanted to

      not achieving something that we wanted to

      Q2.
      We all have strengths.

      Correct Answer: different, many, various

      Q3.
      Self-esteem is ...

      Correct answer: how confident we feel about ourselves in general
      how confident we feel at any one time
      Correct answer: something that changes or grows over time
      something that stays the same forever

      Q4.
      How can we build our self-esteem?

      by focusing on the things we can't do
      Correct answer: by reminding ourselves of the things we can do
      Correct answer: by reminding ourselves of the things that make us special
      by seeing failure as something bad

      Q5.
      How can self-esteem get broken down?

      Correct answer: by thinking we're not good enough
      by seeing failure as a chance to try again
      by receiving positive comments about ourselves from other people
      Correct answer: by receiving negative comments about ourselves from other people

      Q6.
      How can we feel good about ourselves?

      Correct answer: we can say positive things about ourselves
      Correct answer: we can get support from our trusted adults
      Correct answer: we should surround ourselves with people who support us
      we should only listen to our negative thoughts

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