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Maintaining friendships

I can describe how to maintain good friendships during difficult times.

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Maintaining friendships

I can describe how to maintain good friendships during difficult times.

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Lesson details

Key learning points

  1. Some life events, such as moving schools, make maintaining friendships hard.
  2. It can be harder to find the time and energy to maintain friendships, especially as we get older.
  3. We all need things from our friends, such as affection and listening when we share our feelings.
  4. Friends will all have different needs, and good friends ask what their friends need if they’re not sure.
  5. We need to make an effort to include people when we want to maintain a friendship.

Keywords

  • Friendship - a relationship between friends, built on trust and care

  • Maintain - in this context, putting in effort to keep a relationship healthy and working

  • Effort - to work hard at something

  • Needs - the things we want to have for us to feel happy and comfortable

Common misconception

Friends all have the same needs.

We all have different social needs, which means that we enjoy spending time with friends in different ways and for different amounts of time. Some people need more time alone, or need time to reflect after spending time with friends.


To help you plan your year 5 rshe (pshe) lesson on: Maintaining friendships, download all teaching resources for free and adapt to suit your pupils' needs...

Consider the life events of pupils in your class. Perhaps they have recently moved to your school, or are about to depart? Perhaps they are already thinking about the transition to secondary school? Be sensitive to the emotions that may come up during this session.
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Lesson video

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6 Questions

Q1.
Match the words with the definition.
Correct Answer:compromise,an agreement where all people are happy

an agreement where all people are happy

Correct Answer:damaged,in this context, a friendship which has been hurt

in this context, a friendship which has been hurt

Correct Answer:repair,to fix something

to fix something

Q2.
To repair friendships, we might need to take and apologise for our actions.
Correct Answer: responsibility
Q3.
Which of these statements are true?
Correct answer: A friendship can be damaged by accident and on purpose.
A friendship can only be damaged if someone uses unkind words.
Correct answer: A misunderstanding can damage a friendship.
Correct answer: We can choose to end friendships if they no longer make us happy.
A friendship being damaged doesn't affect how we feel.
Q4.
Match the behaviour with whether it is a green flag or a red flag in a friendship.
Correct Answer:someone listening to how we feel,green flag

green flag

Correct Answer:someone not accepting who we are,red flag

red flag

Correct Answer:always arguing with each other,red flag

red flag

Correct Answer:someone apologising after an argument,green flag

green flag

Q5.
A friend sharing a secret about you without permission is an example of...
gaining trust
Correct answer: breaking trust
being kind
a misunderstanding
Q6.
Which of these statements show someone maintaining a boundary?
'Okay, I guess we can if you want to.'
Correct answer: 'No thank you, I don't want to do that.'
Correct answer: 'I'd prefer to do something else.'

6 Questions

Q1.
Match the words with their definition.
Correct Answer:friendship,a relationship between friends, built on trust and care

a relationship between friends, built on trust and care

Correct Answer:maintain,putting in effort to keep a relationship healthy and working

putting in effort to keep a relationship healthy and working

Correct Answer:effort,to work hard at something

to work hard at something

Q2.
Friends will all have different , and good friends ask what these are if they're not sure.
Correct Answer: needs
Q3.
Which of these statements are true?
Correct answer: It can be harder to maintain friendships as we get older.
Only some people need affection and communication in a friendship.
Correct answer: Everyone needs friends to listen when they share how they feel.
We can only be friends with people with the same social needs as us.
Q4.
Which of the following are examples of a friend being included?
Correct answer: inviting them to a party
ignoring them on the playground
Correct answer: playing a game with them at lunchtime
Q5.
Match the behaviours to whether they show someone is being a good listener.
Correct Answer:talking over their friend,not a good listener

not a good listener

Correct Answer:focusing on what their friend says,good listener

good listener

Correct Answer:asking if their friend would like advice,good listener

good listener

Correct Answer:making their friend feel guilty,not a good listener

not a good listener

Correct Answer:considering how their friend feels,good listener

good listener

Q6.
Which of the following are ways to help maintain a friendship?
never talking to the person again
Correct answer: keeping in touch with the person
Correct answer: including the person where you can
Correct answer: sending the person messages online with a trusted adult’s permission
only speaking to the person when they speak to you