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Year 4

Pressure from friends

I can describe how to deal with peer pressure.

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Year 4

Pressure from friends

I can describe how to deal with peer pressure.

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Lesson details

Key learning points

  1. Sometimes we need to say no to friends.
  2. Friends should respect our boundaries.
  3. Relationships can be unhealthy when some people have more power than others.
  4. Unhealthy friendships have warning signs called red flags.
  5. Friends should always use kind touch.

Keywords

  • Peer pressure - when someone tries to persuade or force someone else to do something

  • Respect - treating others kindly and valuing their feelings, ideas and boundaries; for example, listening carefully and being polite, even if you disagree

  • Boundary - an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow

  • Red flag - a sign that a relationship is unhealthy

Common misconception

We have to do what friends tell us to do.

It is important that we make decisions about our actions and keep firm boundaries. Friends should respect these boundaries.


To help you plan your year 4 RSHE (PSHE) lesson on: Pressure from friends, download all teaching resources for free and adapt to suit your pupils' needs...

When dealing with incidents at break times, try to use the vocabulary from this lesson, such as 'boundaries', 'respect', 'healthy' and 'unhealthy'.
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Equipment

Content guidance

  • Depiction or discussion of peer pressure or bullying

Supervision

Adult supervision recommended

Licence

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Lesson video

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Prior knowledge starter quiz

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6 Questions

Q1.
Match the words with their definition.
Correct Answer:rules,expectations to follow that can keep us safe

expectations to follow that can keep us safe

Correct Answer:family,the people we live with and may be related to

the people we live with and may be related to

Correct Answer:struggle,when someone is finding it hard to overcome a challenge

when someone is finding it hard to overcome a challenge

Correct Answer:surprise,something hidden for a short time to make it more fun

something hidden for a short time to make it more fun

Q2.
A is something that is kept hidden that you may be told to not tell someone else.
Correct Answer: secret
Q3.
Which statements are true?
Correct answer: Everyone has boundaries.
People who have boundaries are too sensitive.
Friends never have arguments.
Correct answer: It is typical to have arguments with friends from time to time.
Q4.
Laura wants to play a different game to Sam at breaktime. How could Laura solve this problem respectfully?
Correct answer: Laura could agree to play her game today and Sam's game tomorrow.
Laura could force Sam to play the game she wants to play.
Correct answer: They could play with different people.
Laura could shout at Sam.
Q5.
A healthy family ...
makes people feel worried or scared most of the time
Correct answer: makes people feel safe and secure
Correct answer: makes people feel loved and cared for
makes people feel unsafe
Q6.
Complete each sentence.
Correct Answer:Our bodies help us ...,to do amazing things.

to do amazing things.

Correct Answer:People should treat our bodies ...,with respect.

with respect.

Correct Answer:If someone hurts us ...,we should tell an adult we trust.

we should tell an adult we trust.

Correct Answer:We can change our mind about ...,being touched, even if we said yes to begin with.

being touched, even if we said yes to begin with.

Assessment exit quiz

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6 Questions

Q1.
Match the words with their definition.
Correct Answer:respect,treating others kindly, valuing their feelings, ideas and boundaries

treating others kindly, valuing their feelings, ideas and boundaries

Correct Answer:boundary,an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow

an imaginary line separating what we will and won't allow

Correct Answer:red flag,a sign that a relationship is unhealthy

a sign that a relationship is unhealthy

Q2.
When someone tries to persuade or force someone else to do something, this is called .
Correct Answer: peer pressure
Q3.
Which statements are true?
We have to do what friends tell us to do.
Correct answer: It's important to keep firm boundaries so that we stay safe and comfortable.
Correct answer: Friends should respect our boundaries.
It's ok if friends don't use kind touch.
Q4.
Which of these are red flags?
a friend stopping when we say no
Correct answer: a friend not listening to us
Correct answer: a friend ignoring our boundaries
a friend accepting that we have a different opinion
Q5.
What can we do if we experience peer pressure?
Correct answer: say no kindly but firmly
agree to do whatever our friend says
Correct answer: walk away from the situation
Correct answer: tell a trusted adult
encourage our friends to peer pressure someone else
Q6.
Match the action with whether it's good touch or bad touch.
Correct Answer:asking permission before touching,good touch

good touch

Correct Answer:hurting someone on purpose,bad touch

bad touch

Correct Answer:touching someone without permission,bad touch

bad touch

Correct Answer:hugging a friend who consented,good touch

good touch